Pretty sure this guy (Cancer) is playing games...

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by CapricornGirl24 on Sunday, October 5, 2014 and has 12 replies.
Hey. I've been on here before about this same guy I work with who happens to be a Cancer. Not to long ago , when we were in the break room w/ a few other coworkers, I noticed he was going out of his way to draw attention to himself/get my attention. B/c I didn't react. he tried to see my phone & couldn't get a good look at it , so he pulled his phone out & told a coworker about a pic he has with some girl & he was going to post if on FB, but it would make them look "official". Immediately after , he was going out of his way to get my attention. Day/weeks go by, same thing. He posts a pic on FB, but her face is cropped out. Still looking for my attention. I've had it. Today we worked together & during my entire shift , he went out of his way to get my attention & I ignored him . But he wouldn't leave me alone. Everywhere I went , he popped up, As if he were following me. Making stupid comments trying to make me laugh , constantly , even though I made it obvious I wanted nothing to do w/ him. He's been entertaining another girl & yet , finds a way to worry about me or pretend to , as far as I'm concerned. It's unattractive & unnecessary. I will never go where another female already is, nor will I want anything to do with someone who does that. I've been through too much & refuse play this game with him. I wanted to tell him to his face, but never got the chance to before leaving work. Simply b/c other people were around & I'm not one to cause a scene. I'm thinking, I'll just send him a msg on FB just to get this off my chest. Possibly delete him right after. What do you guys think ? Is it better to tell him to his face ?
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So you decided to make 3 posts about it?
Are you crazy? I think you're the one with the problems here, not him.
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I agree with the other two. Knock it off girl lol. And do not write him, I assure you that will not go over well. If you want to know if he??s trying to get your attention, ask him in a joking way next time he??s trying to get you smile, say with a smirk ???Hey, if I didn??t know any better, I??d say you were trying get me to smile is that the case here??? he might laugh and say it??s not. But just laugh be like ???Yeah okay.??
Were you two ever in a relationship? I mean where he actually confirmed you as his woman and him as your man? If not then what exactly did he do that makes you want nothing to do with him? Also why do you feel he wants your attention so bad? What happen with the two of you??
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Posted by rockyroadicecream
So you decided to make 3 posts about it?
Are you crazy? I think you're the one with the problems here, not him.


I didn't intentionally make more than one post. MY pc was acting up & I clicked post more than once until it went through.... smh... anyway. There's way more to this story than just this post. After so long, you can tell when someone is playing games with you. They make it more than obvious. Which he did. So, until you know the full story, don't judge me & keep your ignorant remarks to yourselves . I'd be more than happy to prove me case.
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Posted by pinklibra
I agree with the other two. Knock it off girl lol. And do not write him, I assure you that will not go over well. If you want to know if he??s trying to get your attention, ask him in a joking way next time he??s trying to get you smile, say with a smirk ???Hey, if I didn??t know any better, I??d say you were trying get me to smile is that the case here??? he might laugh and say it??s not. But just laugh be like ???Yeah okay.??
Were you two ever in a relationship? I mean where he actually confirmed you as his woman and him as your man? If not then what exactly did he do that makes you want nothing to do with him? Also why do you feel he wants your attention so bad? What happen with the two of you??



We never dated. We met at work & been working together for about 2-3 yrs now. During that time, he's made direct flirtations remarks & gestures towards me. I don't trust easily nor do I open up unless I feel safe. So, I gave him little to No attention. Which leads to him practically begging for it. At first I thought it was cute & tried to convince myself he's Okay for me to open up. That changed when I found out he entertains other girls in the background. And has been doing so for longer than I was aware of. Basically, he's deceitful in my eyes right now. I didn't want to be bothered w/ him & made it obvious by staying clear If him. Which didn't work b/c he followed me everywhere. Trying to make physical contact & be near me. While he's been out more than once w/ some other girl. Bottom line, whether I'm sad or not, If he's serious about her why the hell is he trying to be my hero? How would you feel If a guy did that to you? Hanging out w/ you but playing the Knight in shining armor for someone else? You wouldn't like it. I don't like it after knowing he's been spending time with someone else. I would never cut another girl in the back over a guy. So watching him do that is disturbing to me & makes him unattractive. Right after mentioning a girl, I fall back. He's in my face nonstop. Clearly, this is a game to him & I'm not down to play.
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Posted by xMoonMan
Posted by CapricornGirl24I didn't intentionally make more than one post. MY pc was acting up & I clicked post more than once until it went through.... smh... anyway.

I believe you, on top of the Mercury retrograde there are regular issues with the DXP servers and can often take over a minute for posts to submit and sometimes the DXP servers time out for so long posts won't submit at all and I've had to give up, go do something else and come back later.
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Thank you!! _??'
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He's ok to entertain other girls, until he makes it official with you, even if he was dating you, it's still open forum until you have the commitment etc talk. He's just being friendly and bantering with you, you need to treat him the same way, after all at the minute you are both just friends. Don't mean to be harsh but you both have no ties to each other.
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...Idk. I'm very old fashioned. It still seems like a game to me. There's lots of things he does/says that makes it obvious he wants to be closer to me, but he won't just come out & say it. Instead, he says /does something ridiculous, intentionally, just for a reaction. I'd tell him I want to be closer to him too, If he'd just talk to me. I don't play games.
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Hmm. I have to agree, then you??ll need to date older, I??m talking like 40??s. Because most men now day??s are completely new skool. The ones that are old fashion only go so far. If you don??t spend every day together, talk to each other every day, have sex, and make it clear you aren??t going to date anyone else and neither is he, then you really have no right to truly be upset with him. He??s single he can do what he wants.
Now if you don??t like the idea of him being around another girl while smiling in yours at the same time (which is his right as a single man) then you need to tell him so. Don??t expect him to be able to read your mind, or get upset with him because your old fashion and he??s new school, that??s his prerogative, just likes it??s yours to be old fashion, and you shouldn??t judge him for it. Tell him flat out, ???Look, I know you are single and you have the right to flirt and date whomever you want, but I??m old fashion and don??t like when a man is smiling in my face claiming to want to be close to me, while also kicking it with other women. When I date, I like to have a man??s undivided attention. So that being said, if you want to date and flirt with other women, then stop flirting and trying to date me. I??m not interested unless I can be the only one.?? See what he says. This way if he continues with his current behavior you??ll have some cushion when you light fire to him for not respecting your feelings.
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Posted by pinklibra
Hmm. I have to agree, then you??ll need to date older, I??m talking like 40??s. Because most men now day??s are completely new skool. The ones that are old fashion only go so far. If you don??t spend every day together, talk to each other every day, have sex, and make it clear you aren??t going to date anyone else and neither is he, then you really have no right to truly be upset with him. He??s single he can do what he wants.
Now if you don??t like the idea of him being around another girl while smiling in yours at the same time (which is his right as a single man) then you need to tell him so. Don??t expect him to be able to read your mind, or get upset with him because your old fashion and he??s new school, that??s his prerogative, just likes it??s yours to be old fashion, and you shouldn??t judge him for it. Tell him flat out, ???Look, I know you are single and you have the right to flirt and date whomever you want, but I??m old fashion and don??t like when a man is smiling in my face claiming to want to be close to me, while also kicking it with other women. When I date, I like to have a man??s undivided attention. So that being said, if you want to date and flirt with other women, then stop flirting and trying to date me. I??m not interested unless I can be the only one.?? See what he says. This way if he continues with his current behavior you??ll have some cushion when you light fire to him for not respecting your feelings.



Hmm...I agree. Except for the whole dating someone who's 40. I'm only 23 ,I'm not dating someone who's my dad's age. Lol. But I get what you're saying . However, If he thinks I'm dealing w/ another guy, his entire mood / aura changes. Just as mine is right now. Only, he's assuming. People today think If you don't behave a certain way or engage in certain things, it means you're seeing someone. He has No solid proof . He just assumes. And gets an attitude about it. Which double standards. Except, I have proof that he's full of it. So, in my defense, I'm like, you get an attitude if you suspect I'm seeing someone, you have No proof of that nor have you ever just asked me (If he'd done that, I'd happily tell him I'm not seeing anyone ) but you go out & entertain other girls & it's Okay?... No.
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Just don't date at all until you're 40. Wait...
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Posted by kissmygrits
Just don't date at all until you're 40. Wait...


...bye. _??
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