Problems with Cancer Neighbor

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VenusLady
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Me and my fiance recently moved into a nice little duplex. Our cancer neighbor and her fiance live next door. We both moved in at the same time. When we first moved in, i noticed that the cancer made a point of not saying hello, so being the Taurus i am, i gladly returned the favor. Over the next few months i began to notice that the cancer neighbor would be peeping out her window at us. My fiance and i both work and spend the weekends having fun and going out. If we are home he's always washing my car in the driveway or taking the garbage out while my neighbor and her fiance do not work and her fiance seems to do absolutely nothing. Over the past month my fiance and i have noticed that the cancer has started copying everything we do. If we put plants outside the house the following day so does she. If we change our curtains, guaranteed the following day she will too. She's even changing how she's dresses to look more like me, she has even had her hair done the same. She never used to go out but has started making a point of leaving her house when we leave ours. Its as though she's trying to get attention or prove that she can do what we do, my problem is i'm not in competition with her and just do what i do naturally. So the other day my fiance was outside washing my car and she came out talking loud on the phone, i started talking to my fiance and we we're totally engrossed in our conversation. She looks back at us in disgust and then walked back inside and slammed the door. I then went in the house, she immediately came out again and tried to go to her car which was parked near my fiance's, my fiance has been getting annoyed by the constant copying so always turns his head in the opposite direction when she comes towards him. She got mad again and slammed the door again. Me and my fiance then had a drink and we're playing music outside, she storms out the house, walks straight up to my fiance (ignoring the fact that i'm there) and tells him that he needs to turn the music down. Well lets just say my fiance is a Leo and doesn't take kindly to be told what to do, he let her have it! Since then she still seems to not care about blatantly copying everything i do...i feel like i'm being stalked...please help...is this normal cancer behaviour, does she have a problem? I'm just trying to figure out what the problem is here!
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VenusLady
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LMFAO!!!!!!!!!!

WOW...Are you serious? Feels a lil tense in here! ha You are all way too funny! LOL!!!

Ok, ok, seriously, now that I??ve stopped laughing, let me break a lil something down for you all real quick...

1. I would presume if someone has a large —I??M A CANCER?? sticker on their car window and also makes a point of talking loudly about their birthday celebrations in a couple of weeks, that would make them a Cancer...please feel free to correct me if I'm wrong! No rocket science there...btw.

2. It doesn't take a genius to work out when someone is copying you and you would have to be BLIND and DUMB as hell not to notice when you are being blatantly copied. We have a shared driveway, so you cant help but see the front of each others house unless i was to blindfold myself. Especially when guests (who know nothing about the situation), notice and comment about how both houses look alike and even mistake her for me from a distance. So if it looks like copying and smells like copying then yeah...its copying! I wont be the first or the last person it happens to but since i would never copy anyone to that extreme (especially if we did not speak), i'm just amazed at the lengths people go to! Like I said, you would have to be seriously slow not to notice...something which unfortunately (for you and my cancer neighbor)I am not! I feel quite honored actually...I dont mind her using me as her role model but she can at least say hello when she is doing it! lol

3. This is a messageboard, it is shared by many to get opinions, seek advice or simply just to vent. If you are not interested in a post, you simply move on to the next one. Your opinion is no greater than mine. If you are trying to teach a lesson in maturity, then at least lead by example. To me the only childish thing here are your responses to a simple post??_jeeeezzzz! Since the post was of so little interest to you, why did you feel the need to comment— Sounds a lot like the pot calling the kettle, if you know what I mean! Lets keep it real, its not like I'm having sleepless nights or seeking medical attention about this BS, I was just venting (which I am entitled to do and the reason the messageboard was created). Oh my bad, if my post was seeking advice from complete strangers about my personal relationship based totally on me and my fianc—s zodiac sign...that would have been more mature, huh? Please! LMAO!!!

Have a great day all! You definitely made
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VenusLady
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@BigTeddyBear — Oh c??mon...I didn't see anyone crying, slight exaggeration there buddy..lets not get childishly carried away!

@ Virgogotyme — Sorry for the delay in responding, some of us have busy schedules and can't be at the computer all day but being the Taurus I am and everything you should have known I was going to get back to you, I hope the above answered your question in true Taurus style !
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@ Starfish225:

Thank you so much for your enlightened opinion. What was it again? Oh yeah, sounds childish! Hhmmm...I gained so much from that! First and foremost you are right, you gave your opinion (be it somewhat lacking in substance in my personal opinion) and likewise I gave you mine (be it not what you wanted to hear)...so no problems there! What I am wondering is why you felt the need to comment or read MY POST again today since you already came to the conclusion yesterday that it was —childish?? (especially since there are numerous other posts that would greatly value your mature opinion)...just a thought! Oh and have no doubts I will be staying tuned since this is MY post! 100 people may agree that my post was childish but once again that is their opinion...not mine! I'm always open to criticism as long as it is constructive, which i have yet to see from the above responses! I have spoken with my homegirls numerous times about how silly this copying situation is, thats the whole point, they've never seen nothing like it either! I have done the mature thing and ignored it but it has started to become irritating now hence the reason for me venting...didn't know that was a crime! Oh well must dash but don't be too quick to say bye hun, this lil lady plans on sticking around for a while yet! Be blessed!
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Starfish225:

LMAO! Oops, funny how people can always dish it but can never take it, huh—

"And well your right why am I wasting my time on this seems NO ONE ELSE IS"
...but YOU did and thats all that matters! Doesn't matter what everyone else does, its what you do that counts, so be a leader not a follower!

"Just a suggestion here if you put it out here on the board just be prepared for answers that you may not like"
...Seems like you would do good to follow your own advice hun!

"tootles oh most ms admired ppl wanna be like you one"
...in your mature opinion, wouldn't you say this comment was slightly childish—

...Bye, Bye!
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hi venuslady. i've been copied in this style before and it is unnerving, so i don't blame you for feeling weirded out. i think it's an insecurity thing. cancers can be very unsure on themselves and if you seem sure of yourself, they try to be more like you. i suggest you extend an olivebranch and try to make friends with her. if she's gonna be your neighbour, it's best not to make an enemy of her. behaviour like this tends to be transient though so it'll probably wear off when she either gains some self-esteem or finds someone else to copy.
good luck.
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Venus Lady,

First, you need to know that Cancers often won't do things first...they wait for you to make the move because they are scared or something. They don't like to put themselves "out there".

You made me laugh because I have a couple of Taurus gfs and they are just like you! If you are nice to a Taurus, she will be just as nice as can be, but if you are socially rude...watch out! She will remember it, and persecute you for it. Because after all you are the Venus-ruled, and Venus people are very social and care about social manners.

Okay, the other thing about Cancers is they unconsciously imitate those around them....it's their way of improving themselves. My ex husband always imitated me, even to the point of taking flute lessons after I started taking them. Think of the moon (Cancer planet). It doesn't have its own light -- it reflects the light of the Sun. And you need to watch that in Cancer - they can USE you!

So don't be too creeped -- she's just copying your good taste. Sounds like she doesn't have a lot going on, and you are adding some excitement to her life.

If you ever want to even things out, you might say to her one day "You know, when we first came to the neighborhood, you never said hello and you did not make us feel very welcome. " I know you probably won't say that becuase you are a Taurus and like to speak nice, but it might clear the air.

Don't mind all these people on this site dissing you for noticing all this stuff. That is just your Taurus talent for noticing social details that other stupid people miss.

Eaglegirl
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Have you ever approached this person with a kind 'hello'? I've heard imitation is flattery? ?? Personally, I find this annoying, but wouldn't ridicule the person on the WWW. idk maybe I would. Of course I would. At any rate, you don't intend to stay in the apartment perm? Quite fortunately, I don't have any neighbors. A higher power must be looking out for the best interest of my potential would-be neighbors. I lost my super-hero sleeping ability a few months ago and keep the world awake with my surely annoying musik. Friends are friends. Family is family. Neighbors are... neighbors. I'm sure this helped tremendously just not really.