Question about the mystery of a Cancer girl
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by Newscales on Saturday, January 18, 2014 and has 9 replies.
Hi all- I'm so confused that I've been driven here to ask the experts about a Cancer girl. First, she is 31 yrs old...
We met on Facebook via mutual friends and began chatting via text just about every evening for hours on end. She was as confusing to read as can be expected but through it all she really opened up a great deal about the details of her life, struggles, successes etc.
She was also very aware of her sign of Cancer and believed in it describing herself as typical "Cancer". She seemed very aware of her own traits and was up front about her moods and how she is as a person. Might have been the most up front person about her flaws and strengths I've ever met.
We shared a great deal in our chats....I found my usual charm to be tough to figure out if it was working or not, but I was just myself and found myself drawn to her.
She expressed a desire to meet up several times, our schedules didn't matchup on those two occasions but she expressed we would get together soon....
Then, out of the blue she says that we shouldn't talk anymore. Just like that! From working toward a date for the next day and two days removed from deep sharing conversations that led to her asking me out.....to boom....."You should not contact me anymore"
What on earth is going on here?? Can anyone help me make sense of this?
It's not a huge deal....although I would have liked to continue to get to know her more, I'm just more wondering is it a "Sign" thing or just a girl thing? Do Cancers do this as a test of sorts?
Thanks!!!!
We met on Facebook via mutual friends and began chatting via text just about every evening for hours on end. She was as confusing to read as can be expected but through it all she really opened up a great deal about the details of her life, struggles, successes etc.
She was also very aware of her sign of Cancer and believed in it describing herself as typical "Cancer". She seemed very aware of her own traits and was up front about her moods and how she is as a person. Might have been the most up front person about her flaws and strengths I've ever met.
We shared a great deal in our chats....I found my usual charm to be tough to figure out if it was working or not, but I was just myself and found myself drawn to her.
She expressed a desire to meet up several times, our schedules didn't matchup on those two occasions but she expressed we would get together soon....
Then, out of the blue she says that we shouldn't talk anymore. Just like that! From working toward a date for the next day and two days removed from deep sharing conversations that led to her asking me out.....to boom....."You should not contact me anymore"
What on earth is going on here?? Can anyone help me make sense of this?
It's not a huge deal....although I would have liked to continue to get to know her more, I'm just more wondering is it a "Sign" thing or just a girl thing? Do Cancers do this as a test of sorts?
Thanks!!!!
Oh, and so so so sorry for dropping yet another "confused by this cancer girl" topic thread on you guys. I just realized that it's probably the 10000th you've seen....
.....but oh boy does this have me confused and needing to know more.
.....but oh boy does this have me confused and needing to know more.
ummmmmmmm.....welll......I really can't say that it's a Cancer thing without knowing what's going on with her. Is she married? Has a boyfriend? Found out something about you that she took as a betrayal? It usually takes something huge for us to just slam a door on someone.
Actually we don't get a lot of Cancer girl topics. You would be one of very few. You are going to have to back track because it seems like you missed something along the way.
I think it has something to do with the fact that you two have been talking and as of yet have not made a date. Personally anytime I'm getting a romantic vibe from a guy and he's talking about getting together but never does; I consider it a bad sign and check out before it get's really ridiculous.
I think it has something to do with the fact that you two have been talking and as of yet have not made a date. Personally anytime I'm getting a romantic vibe from a guy and he's talking about getting together but never does; I consider it a bad sign and check out before it get's really ridiculous.
Okay, I'll rewind
I did not cancel on her. She invited me for that evening and I had a commitment to which I expresses I could cancel but not till a certain time. It did not match up with her time limits.
I did express thanks and appreciation for her extending herself. She travels and we both have busy schedules and children so A meet up isn't as easy as just show up at a bar on a moments notice.
Anyhow, she seemed so eager to meet even after that.
The whole time I was very aware and conscious of her feelings and trust issues and opening up issues and all that stuff. I listened, never judged, allowed her room....did NOT smother at all. She spoke with passion about wanting to take things slowly unlike past relationships that hurt her. And that she knows herself now etc etc.....which was in line with how I am anyway at this point.
I totally get the "in person" connection, and this non-in person stuff was foreign to me. Never done it before and I expressed that.
She said she enjoyed our conversations, was attracted etc all those things.
Baffled......wonder where I went wrong.
I do know her ex hurt her, maybe she's not over it. Anyway, frustrating....she sucked me in. I wonder if I shoulda said something more...but I mean, anything more woulda been odd and out of place IMO. More fantasy than reality given we hadn't actually physically met just exchanged a ton of pics
I did not cancel on her. She invited me for that evening and I had a commitment to which I expresses I could cancel but not till a certain time. It did not match up with her time limits.
I did express thanks and appreciation for her extending herself. She travels and we both have busy schedules and children so A meet up isn't as easy as just show up at a bar on a moments notice.
Anyhow, she seemed so eager to meet even after that.
The whole time I was very aware and conscious of her feelings and trust issues and opening up issues and all that stuff. I listened, never judged, allowed her room....did NOT smother at all. She spoke with passion about wanting to take things slowly unlike past relationships that hurt her. And that she knows herself now etc etc.....which was in line with how I am anyway at this point.
I totally get the "in person" connection, and this non-in person stuff was foreign to me. Never done it before and I expressed that.
She said she enjoyed our conversations, was attracted etc all those things.
Baffled......wonder where I went wrong.
I do know her ex hurt her, maybe she's not over it. Anyway, frustrating....she sucked me in. I wonder if I shoulda said something more...but I mean, anything more woulda been odd and out of place IMO. More fantasy than reality given we hadn't actually physically met just exchanged a ton of pics
Posted by MoonArtist
ummmmmmmm.....welll......I really can't say that it's a Cancer thing without knowing what's going on with her. Is she married? Has a boyfriend? Found out something about you that she took as a betrayal? It usually takes something huge for us to just slam a door on someone.
Not married
No current BF
I gave no reason for betrayal.
Posted by CluelessCancer
It's not a mystery. She's disappointed in you canceling dates on her. She put herself out there and asked you out. You probably have made zero effort, have you tried rescheduling the dates?
so basically she's like fuk this and fuk this guy.
You know. While the reason was 100% legit and out of my/our control I do get what you are saying.
And I'd really listened to her and had a good sense for what it was for her to actually put herself out there and invite me, she'd specifically said before that she does not go after men, ever.
That's why I made sure to specify thanks and appreciation and that it would have been real nice
And you know what? I KNEW that moment was gonna bite me, and set me back a little. I knew it and knew exactly what it could 'Say' to her, but I was hoping my sincerity would shine through and soften it.
Guess not......still seems harsh with the sudden "don't talk anymore" stuff.
Weird shit
What sign are you? Oh, and we want your natal chart and her natal chart.
Well, it's probably one of two scenarios: either she's got some hidden problems and is pulling away because of them or she's intuited something about him that doesn't sit well with her.
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