Question for the Crabbies

Profile picture of Fenyx215
Fenyx215
@Fenyx215
12 YearsCancer

Comments: 75 · Posts: 444 · Topics: 12
Slow growing flame. I try to give the person the benefit of the doubt, you know? Maybe you're a nice guy underneath the asshole exterior; maybe you have some personal issues that make you act like a sociopath.

It gets to a point where I say I don't want to hate you, but you're making it really difficult for me not to. I only have so much compassion. After, i lose that..along with patience and understanding, it's like screw your whole existence.
Profile picture of Kim31
Kim31
@Kim31
11 Years1,000+ Posts

Comments: 14 · Posts: 1116 · Topics: 47
Maybe hate isn't the right word. I don't know, you tell me. I'm trying to pinpoint the emotion I felt when I was on the phone with "some guy". He was suppose to be so in love with me? Hmmm. While he's running his mouth about nothing I hear a woman say 'hi, honey'. I didn't say anything. I didn't feel anything, until two days later when I was waxing my underarms. I didn't want him to die but the idea made me laugh.
Profile picture of Este8
Este8
@Este8
12 Years1,000+ Posts

Comments: 0 · Posts: 1355 · Topics: 6
I'm the kind of person who doesn't run for the hills at the first sign of trouble. My problem is probably staying in a relationship that's just not gonna work out long past the expiration date. While I've had my "love to hate" moments in a relationship, I can honestly say that I don't hate a single ex. There was something good about them or I wouldn't have been in relationship with them. I think "love to hate" is probably part of the break up process and getting out the disappointment and feelings of injustice. But it's just a wave on the ocean, an emotion that passes. The truth is that we learn something from every single relationship we have. It's getting stuck in the pain and disappointment victimizes us, not the person who let us down. In other words, we need to move beyond the pain in order to heal. We forgive those who hurt us in order to release the pain and set ourselves free.