RE: the blow off
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by cheeky14u on Thursday, September 16, 2010 and has 11 replies.
what kind of time period are we talking about????? days, weeks, or months?????
Sorry, was talking to a cancer man for about a month online......he just came out of a living together relationship at the end of april and I think they had been together for about 2 years....anyway things seemed to be going fine, he would hint about things like oh I think I need a second coffee etc but never really ask, as I thought he was out of town I replied its too bad your not here we could have gone......well anyway I sent him a email saying that I was interested in getting to know him and I hoped he felt the same......no reply......dead air, in fact he hide his profile.....I did send him another email just asking what he thought of my previous email....again no reply......being the aries that I am I also made the mistake of sending him a further email saying that the feelings I have are natural and sincere and don't worry I will not contact you again 
Ok I know but I waited for quite awhile before I sent that like over a week.....
So since I cut off my nose despite my face I have no way of going back......
any thoughts....... I would assume from his lack of any response that he really wasn't interested enought to make any effort....
Ok I know but I waited for quite awhile before I sent that like over a week.....
So since I cut off my nose despite my face I have no way of going back......
any thoughts....... I would assume from his lack of any response that he really wasn't interested enought to make any effort....
It could be.....but for a grown man of 45 you would think that he would at least at this point in his life be a little kinder....when we were communicating he did seem to have a hate on for women, he said all women bite.....I have noticed on his facebook which still has his ex as a friend he has marked the following things that he likes.....
I don't need anger management......I just need people to stop pissing me off!
and this
My ex says I won't find anyone like her.......God I hope she is right!
So he could just be hating the world right now and trying to reconnect with her.....who knows....all I know is that I have always been honest and forthright with him......
The girlfriend previous to this also seemed to have caused him problems....apparently she kicked in every window in his house.....now you have to wonder what drove her to that point?
.....anyway I can't give him any excuses he is a grown man and he has to be responsible for his actions.....I just really did think there was something about him....I am sure I will continue to think that for my whole life and given what I know should could myself lucky for not getting in any deeper
I don't need anger management......I just need people to stop pissing me off!
and this
My ex says I won't find anyone like her.......God I hope she is right!
So he could just be hating the world right now and trying to reconnect with her.....who knows....all I know is that I have always been honest and forthright with him......
The girlfriend previous to this also seemed to have caused him problems....apparently she kicked in every window in his house.....now you have to wonder what drove her to that point?
.....anyway I can't give him any excuses he is a grown man and he has to be responsible for his actions.....I just really did think there was something about him....I am sure I will continue to think that for my whole life and given what I know should could myself lucky for not getting in any deeper
Posted by cheeky14u
I don't need anger management......I just need people to stop pissing me off!
and this
My ex says I won't find anyone like her.......God I hope she is right!
This is so good!!! I feel the same way... especially today.
Cancersunleomoon is nice. I'm not nice today. Don't take it personal, because I feel the need to vent...
You said you were talking to this guy for a month... and in this month you sent him three emails expressing your wants, expectations and desires? THEN you get pissed because he hasn't responded to you.
That's not really why you're pissed... your pissed because you didn't get the results you desired. You wanted
a) him to feel the same way about you
b) an explanation WHY he doesn't feel the same way about you
YOU took a risk of putting it all out there in a VERY, VERY short amount of time. Now, you think he 'owes' you something for your risk in life. That it is HIS responsibility to make you feel better, either by providing you with desired result a) or b) Now he's unkind, immature blah, blah, blah.
Project much?
You put him in an uncomfortable position, by trying to get him to deal with YOUR emotions, when all he was doing was trying to get to know you better. Of course he disappeared! Look how demanding you're being and he isn't even DATING you!
I'm shocked.....a cancer that is not nice.....say it ain't so...
First of all I definately hear what you are saying.....but even thought I was only talking online for him for a month.....I have a history with this man......I have previously played the side step with him......and we have known each other for 5 years....
The last contact he initiated with me was two years ago just before he hooked up with his ex......he sent me a email on new years eve.....saying oh I am sure you are busy and that he should have made plans and that now he is just sitting at home and he should have made plans.....yadda yadda yadda.....
So me being the dumb a $ $ that I am contact he and say no just at home but perhaps you want to go for beer and pizza.....cause I figure that is non aggressive and nice.....and he says sorry rain check but hey we can talk on the phone.....and we actually do that....we have a nice conversation....
Your right I am projecting but I am not angry I am actually hurt.....cause hate to break this to you....but not just crabs have feelings.....cause I seriously did think he was a good guy.....your right its not the desired result that I got.....I can admit that.....
and now I have no way to correct it......so don't worry I am getting my own karma....however I don't think you can get bad karma from actually paying someone a complement more than once and being nice to them.....
now why don't you be a nice crab and actually tell me what I can do to fix the problem that I readily admit I caused
First of all I definately hear what you are saying.....but even thought I was only talking online for him for a month.....I have a history with this man......I have previously played the side step with him......and we have known each other for 5 years....
The last contact he initiated with me was two years ago just before he hooked up with his ex......he sent me a email on new years eve.....saying oh I am sure you are busy and that he should have made plans and that now he is just sitting at home and he should have made plans.....yadda yadda yadda.....
So me being the dumb a $ $ that I am contact he and say no just at home but perhaps you want to go for beer and pizza.....cause I figure that is non aggressive and nice.....and he says sorry rain check but hey we can talk on the phone.....and we actually do that....we have a nice conversation....
Your right I am projecting but I am not angry I am actually hurt.....cause hate to break this to you....but not just crabs have feelings.....cause I seriously did think he was a good guy.....your right its not the desired result that I got.....I can admit that.....
and now I have no way to correct it......so don't worry I am getting my own karma....however I don't think you can get bad karma from actually paying someone a complement more than once and being nice to them.....
now why don't you be a nice crab and actually tell me what I can do to fix the problem that I readily admit I caused
Oh and I didn't demand anything I told him how I was feeling?
I know don't scare the crab.....but I'm a aries and we can be like children....and then when he didn't respond I admit I wanted the control and since he had it the only thing I could do was cease communication.....again dumb a $ $
So shellshocked I readily admit my faults, what I am looking for is help in how I can rectify the situation????????
If you are such caring compassionate people can you not help me with this?
I know don't scare the crab.....but I'm a aries and we can be like children....and then when he didn't respond I admit I wanted the control and since he had it the only thing I could do was cease communication.....again dumb a $ $
So shellshocked I readily admit my faults, what I am looking for is help in how I can rectify the situation????????
If you are such caring compassionate people can you not help me with this?
Thank you......I appreciate your honesty.....
We all can be our own worse enemies, when the heart is involved....
We all can be our own worse enemies, when the heart is involved....
sorry...
you are now looking for a desired response from a Crab on this forum, based on very little, very skewed information at that.
can't help you
BUT... if you have been trying, unsuccessfully, to catch this crab for the last 5 years, you probably know the answer to your own question.
you are now looking for a desired response from a Crab on this forum, based on very little, very skewed information at that.
can't help you
BUT... if you have been trying, unsuccessfully, to catch this crab for the last 5 years, you probably know the answer to your own question.
Posted by cheeky14u
what I am looking for is help in how I can rectify the situation????????
NOTHING. don't do anything! patience is the answer. He will contact you again. 5 years of online friendship you said yes? HE will email you again. it will take time. but if you have him on facebook or MSN or skype. bridge is not yet burned.. He'll contact you again. (might not be for a romantic pursuit so don't have your hopes up.. but he will get in touch with you again for sure.)
I have Aries moon so I know how you feel.. take it to positive light and realize that aries let go of their negative feelings fairly quickly than cancer men.. so what, you're hurt.. lesson learned to never expose your feelings to that man ever again UNTIL HE DOES SO FIRST.
live life.. chat with leo men..(loyal, generous, and fix.. not like cancers who hurt and push people or run away all the time..no loyalty of what so ever!)
sags are good, too but they are too aloof.. and we don't have patience for these wild horses' love games
Posted by scorpio740Posted by cheeky14u
what I am looking for is help in how I can rectify the situation????????
chat with leo men..(loyal, generous, and fix.. not like cancers who hurt and push people or run away all the time..no loyalty of what so ever!)
click to expand
hahaha! Cancers suck!
They can see through bullshit... and people don't like it. Then we feel bad about it...
When people see through THEIR bullshit... they don't like it. Then we get angry about it...
Posted by shellshockerPosted by scorpio740Posted by cheeky14u
what I am looking for is help in how I can rectify the situation????????
chat with leo men..(loyal, generous, and fix.. not like cancers who hurt and push people or run away all the time..no loyalty of what so ever!)
hahaha! Cancers suck!
They can see through bullshit... and people don't like it. Then we feel bad about it...
When people see through THEIR bullshit... they don't like it. Then we get angry about it...click to expand
ok too many pronouns..
who is THEY? who is THEIR and who is WE? (maybe THEY and We means cancers? )cancers see thru bs and people don't like it then cancers feel bad about it?
just want to know.. (^.^)
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