Reapproaching Cancer...Long post

First I am a Taurus/Aries cusp with a lot of Scorpio and Capricorn in my chart.I was involved with a Cancer years ago. Our involvement is best described as friends with occasional benefits although I expressed on many times that I truly and deeply cared for him and he expressed that he cared for me and "would always come back"(to which I replied "why leave"). I constantly asked him to be mine (he is the only person who drives my Taurus possessiveness through the roof as I literally want to have him. I feel it so much Im starting to wonder if it wasnt a Taurus who instituted Valentines Day with "BE MINE" plastered on everything...but I digress)He would laugh, look at me which a soft questioning gaze that to me read "me? you really want me...how, why...for how long?". I think my insistence made him question my sincerity. One night he randomly showed up at my door, I wasnt feel well and had taken some medicine and gone to bed. My mother let him in and he rushed in to check on me. I hadn't seen him for months as I was trying to get him out of my system since it seemed like our relationship was at a standstill. He came in my room, noticed I was packing, and assumed I was moving in with my boyfriend, an ex (scorpio) whom I went back and forth with. I was simply going to visit with him as he had moved away. The Cancer announced he was engaged, I laughed it off and told him I didnt believe it, if he was engaged why was he knocking on my door out of the blue. (Looking back I think he might have MADE the decision to get engaged when he saw my stuff packed, I know how pretentious of me). Not surprisingly I ended up breaking up with the Scorpio and got in touch with the Cancer (only as friends, nothing physical). He would call and text me and we would go out for breakfast and lunch. One morning after breakfast he left and promised to return. I was texting him trying to rush him back and I recieved a call from his fiancee (who was YES real) asking who I was. I told her we were just friends, we hadnt been physical for quite some time and that he was all hers. I later questioned him why he kept hanging out with me if he was engaged to her and he crushed me with a snide "I dont have to answer to you, youre not my girl". That was the last time we talked.
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NOW. Its been 3 years. Ive been in a relationship and have a young son. Im single now and I saw the Cancer a couple weeks ago. I know he saw me. We just looked and then I left. Seeing him made me want to run to him and just hug him (I SO miss his hugs)..but Im very afraid of getting that same cold shoulder he gave me when we last talked and of finding out that fiancee is now his wife or something.

Maybe he was just a horrid cheater playing games the whole time...but then what of the undeniable chemistry...

Feedback please.

sometimes chemistry isn't enough. neither is love enough, for that matter. he sounds like a fraud and a bullshitter. you needto be grateful he isn't in your life, it panned out the way it did for a reason.people who are into games always keep parts of themselves back and that's what makes them so attractive-they keep you on your toes. but i would say go for someone who challenges you instead of a person who revels in treating you as a back-up option.


by the way i like the way you write, especially this. made me lol

Posted by SweetestFatale
(he is the only person who drives my Taurus possessiveness through the roof as I literally want to have him. I feel it so much Im starting to wonder if it wasnt a Taurus who instituted Valentines Day with "BE MINE" plastered on everything...but I digress)

lol Nimbue. I like your response.

(i am a cancer female)he came to visit you because he still has feelings for you. he wanted to check how strong they were before he moved on. really to see if he was making a mistake. when he saw or thought you were moving in with a man, he said okay to himself and went ahead and married without reservation. he wants you to come cout and ask him again like before, to be in a relationship. he is not happy or all that into his new woman. he prefers you but is not willing to chase you.

I feel your pain! (Kind of) Cancers are like...it really IS a roller coaster with them! But sometimes, its the BEST roller coaster ever! I would agree with the others though. It seems like he's interested, but not wiling to say anything, probably because he is scared of rejection...

Here's my own story of Cancer Craziness!

Hey!
Ok, so here's my story....VERY brief summary!

I had been with my Cancer man for 7.5 years. He's from another country, after we had been together for 2.5 years, I met his mom, after 5 yrs, he took me home with him & I met his father & the rest of his family. His mom was actually planning our wedding. And then....it ended. He used a bs excuse, but I think it was because his mom was pressuring him to marry me. So, we've never really been...out of contact. We have dinner sometimes recently, he's been a little more flirty. We were both at a function for a mutual friend. I was sitting at a table, obviously i wanted x to sit with me, but I knew he'd sit with "the crew" (his boys) BUT he came in, sat down right next to me & stayed there the entire time. He got up to talk to a few people, but for the most part he stayed beside me. We talked the whole time, afterwards, my best friend told me a few people had asked her if we were back together. After the function, the flirting increased, we were texting each other or emailing almost everyday, it was nice. And then, I messed up. LOL Well, I attempted a nice gesture, I went to his house, unannounced, with food, cheesecake & his fave beer. He was pissed. Mostly because I had just shown up. But the reason he was pissed was because he likes to be in power, likes to have the upper hand, & by showing up like that, I threw him off & he didn't know how to react.
We've been apart for almost 4 years, but it seems like he is showing interest again. I'm wondering if he's getting closer to wanting to settle down & maybe wants to do that with me. BUT I'm not sure.
What do ya'll think? Also, I haven't heard from him since this episode which was....almost 2 wks ago. He's in the middle of a disappearing act. Usually, when he decides to speak to me again, he'll text or email me something very insignificant, but by him doing that, he knows, that I know, we're cool. LOL