Return of the cancer man
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by dbanger on Saturday, November 19, 2011 and has 2 replies.
I dated a cancer guy in high-school (I'm a Scorpio) and we were crazy about one another. Well, I was crazy about him anyway. He was my first everything.
Unfortunately, it wasn't all smooth sailing and we had a bad, bad breakup where I wasn't ready to let go (even though I was the one who suggested a break up), he had a little rebound which I believe he didn't intend for me to find out; I found out through a mutual friend and he apparently went ballistic at her. Of course, being a Scorpio who wasn't ready to give up I in turn lashed out at him and said some cruel things to try and make him hurt as much as I did (I won't sugarcoat what I did, lol). We both broke off contact for a couple of months, until I messaged him telling him I hoped everything was okay. We spoke for a little bit on instant messenger after that, but never about anything deep or about what happened between us.
About a month after we broke up, he got another girlfriend (all this discovered via FB/myspace and whatnot) and introduced her to his mother straight away, which hurt because I never met his mother. I stupidly held onto hope that we would somehow get back together, even when they were professing love for one another. Eventually, I moved on with my romantic love life and tried to bury myself in my studies and work. I never got over him, and a day hasn't gone by that I thought about him. The girlfriend wasn't just a rebound as they were still together last time I heard. That was almost 4 years ago.
Fast forward to last week when I get a call on my birthday from the cancer. First contact in 3 years. We spoke for over three hours about how are lives are going, but not talking about our romantic lives. It was awkward at first, but it turns out we have a lot more in common than we used to, and were discussing things just like friends did. We were about to hang up at one point and he said that there was something he needed to say. He told me that he was truly sorry for what he did, and for acting like a jerk, and that I was completely right to say all those things I did to him. I told him that it was okay, and that I was sorry too and I did not handle things well, and there was no excuse for me saying the hurtful things I did.
Unfortunately, it wasn't all smooth sailing and we had a bad, bad breakup where I wasn't ready to let go (even though I was the one who suggested a break up), he had a little rebound which I believe he didn't intend for me to find out; I found out through a mutual friend and he apparently went ballistic at her. Of course, being a Scorpio who wasn't ready to give up I in turn lashed out at him and said some cruel things to try and make him hurt as much as I did (I won't sugarcoat what I did, lol). We both broke off contact for a couple of months, until I messaged him telling him I hoped everything was okay. We spoke for a little bit on instant messenger after that, but never about anything deep or about what happened between us.
About a month after we broke up, he got another girlfriend (all this discovered via FB/myspace and whatnot) and introduced her to his mother straight away, which hurt because I never met his mother. I stupidly held onto hope that we would somehow get back together, even when they were professing love for one another. Eventually, I moved on with my romantic love life and tried to bury myself in my studies and work. I never got over him, and a day hasn't gone by that I thought about him. The girlfriend wasn't just a rebound as they were still together last time I heard. That was almost 4 years ago.
Fast forward to last week when I get a call on my birthday from the cancer. First contact in 3 years. We spoke for over three hours about how are lives are going, but not talking about our romantic lives. It was awkward at first, but it turns out we have a lot more in common than we used to, and were discussing things just like friends did. We were about to hang up at one point and he said that there was something he needed to say. He told me that he was truly sorry for what he did, and for acting like a jerk, and that I was completely right to say all those things I did to him. I told him that it was okay, and that I was sorry too and I did not handle things well, and there was no excuse for me saying the hurtful things I did.
I think his girlfriend is overseas at the moment, and I'm not sure if they are still together or not. I mentioned that I had a boyfriend later on in the conversation, and he asked some awkward questions about that. My boyfriend of over a year (also a scorp and knows about our history) knows we spoke, and says he is okay with us talking.
I'm just confused as to why he would contact me after this long. Especially seeing as I said some hurtful things to him (he is also a cancer moon as well as a cancer sun), I thought he would hide away in his shell from me forever. Are they really that sentimental that they still feel bad years later for hurting someone?
I'm just confused as to why he would contact me after this long. Especially seeing as I said some hurtful things to him (he is also a cancer moon as well as a cancer sun), I thought he would hide away in his shell from me forever. Are they really that sentimental that they still feel bad years later for hurting someone?
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