Saying I Love You To Cancer BF
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by Ram0506 on Tuesday, September 18, 2007 and has 7 replies.
Hello Everyone!
I need some advice. I am in a wonderful relationship with my cancer boyfriend of almost 17 months. I am a 22 Sagittarius female (Taurus rising) and he's a 28 yr old Cancer male (Leo Rising). I am his first real serious girlfriend, and this is his first serios relationship - ever. We've never said "I Love You". The closest we've ever came to saying was "I Heart You" and I was the one who said it first and we've only said it like twice or three times the most. He tells me all the time how much happy he is when he's with me (and his actions prove it!) and how I "have his heart". But my thing is that, how come he can't say "I Love You"? He is a wonderful man, who makes me happy and laugh, and is very supportive.
I remember one time I wanted to say it, and it almost slipped out and he said to me "why can't you say it" and I said "because its too soon". We were going out for around six months at that time and I honestly felt it was too early to say it. And then another time while we were walking in the mall, and I kept joking with him and say "you don't love me"...and he kept telling me to stop saying that, because it was pissing him off...
Well now it'll be going on 17 months and I am still head over heels for him. I think about us possibly having a future together...I want to tell him I love him so badly, but I am afraid of having him not say it back, or getting scared, and/or feeling as if he's pressured to say it back. I really want him to say it when its ready for him, but I don't understand, if he feels the way he feels (from his actions and what he tells me), then why can't he say it?
Is this typical of Cancer men? Like in most relationships with cancer men, is it the woman who usually says it first? Maybe he is waiting for me to say it first?
Should I wait a little longer before saying it, like for our second anniversary? (but that's not till MAY 2008!)
P.S. - Do you think its a mere coincidence that his b-day is exactly the same day as my first bf's b-day? My current bf is my 2nd boyfriend and I just find it so interesting...like how many ppl can say their second bf has the exact b-day as their first? LOL...
I need some advice. I am in a wonderful relationship with my cancer boyfriend of almost 17 months. I am a 22 Sagittarius female (Taurus rising) and he's a 28 yr old Cancer male (Leo Rising). I am his first real serious girlfriend, and this is his first serios relationship - ever. We've never said "I Love You". The closest we've ever came to saying was "I Heart You" and I was the one who said it first and we've only said it like twice or three times the most. He tells me all the time how much happy he is when he's with me (and his actions prove it!) and how I "have his heart". But my thing is that, how come he can't say "I Love You"? He is a wonderful man, who makes me happy and laugh, and is very supportive.
I remember one time I wanted to say it, and it almost slipped out and he said to me "why can't you say it" and I said "because its too soon". We were going out for around six months at that time and I honestly felt it was too early to say it. And then another time while we were walking in the mall, and I kept joking with him and say "you don't love me"...and he kept telling me to stop saying that, because it was pissing him off...
Well now it'll be going on 17 months and I am still head over heels for him. I think about us possibly having a future together...I want to tell him I love him so badly, but I am afraid of having him not say it back, or getting scared, and/or feeling as if he's pressured to say it back. I really want him to say it when its ready for him, but I don't understand, if he feels the way he feels (from his actions and what he tells me), then why can't he say it?
Is this typical of Cancer men? Like in most relationships with cancer men, is it the woman who usually says it first? Maybe he is waiting for me to say it first?
Should I wait a little longer before saying it, like for our second anniversary? (but that's not till MAY 2008!)
P.S. - Do you think its a mere coincidence that his b-day is exactly the same day as my first bf's b-day? My current bf is my 2nd boyfriend and I just find it so interesting...like how many ppl can say their second bf has the exact b-day as their first? LOL...
He will eventually ask you do you love me? Just wait, just wait. If I were you I would keep him guessing like hell before it finally came out. I would just let him ask me. You don't have to say I love you alot with a Cancer man. He can pretty much feel how much you love him, just let him remain the center of your universe and show appreciation and he is OK, with that.
those 3 words are hard for a cancer because when we finally say it we really mean it..or we are just trying to get in your pants..lol
wowwwww, my Cancer boyfriend told me "i love you" after 3 months, and he tells me non-stop! maybe it has something to do with his Taurus moon or Venus in Leo?
I want to thank you all for your advice! I really appreciate it!
Update: Well I didn't have to worry about whether I should say it to him, because last night he said it to me!!!!
We were laying on his bed talking and he said "you're my heart" (he always says this) and I asked him what did he mean by that? In a cute, but shy and soft way, he said "I love you"...I wasn't expecting him to say that at all (I wonder if he saw this message, hmmm lol). I was about to have tears come out of my eyes (i'm very mushy I know, lol) and I told him happy I was that he said it because I wanted to tell him for a few weeks now, but couldn't. I told him I love him too! ------->>>>
Update: Well I didn't have to worry about whether I should say it to him, because last night he said it to me!!!!
We were laying on his bed talking and he said "you're my heart" (he always says this) and I asked him what did he mean by that? In a cute, but shy and soft way, he said "I love you"...I wasn't expecting him to say that at all (I wonder if he saw this message, hmmm lol). I was about to have tears come out of my eyes (i'm very mushy I know, lol) and I told him happy I was that he said it because I wanted to tell him for a few weeks now, but couldn't. I told him I love him too! ------->>>>
Because I am a Sagittarian who always has to question everything in life, lol, would I be wrong for asking him why he said he loves me? Or what made him decide that yesterday was the time to say it, or if it was on impulse? Suggestions anyone?
lol you're right leokitten...i won't ask, lol
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