Separated but not disconnected - taurus/Cancer

I will not be shy to say that I am in deep down love with a cancer guy. He was more interested in being friends, reason - dating could make him lose me but being friends is being forever. I was not ready to be just friends and we fell apart. Gradually we stopped meeting, calling, texting, removed each other from social media and blah. It all ended but it took me months to get over him. Meanwhile he texted me few times if I have moved on and we could be friends and meet again but I was not ready.

This February he asked me to meet again if I am ready to be friends but boy it ain't easy to let feelings go for this adorable man.

We did not talk March, April, May. And all through these months, I was recovering fast with separation, I started hanging out with other guys, feeling content and had almost forgotten this Cancer guy. Suddenly, one evening he texts me saying sorry that he was disconnected all these months. A tragedy hit his family and his mother expired. The moment I read that text, a tear rolled down my cheek feeling his pain of losing a parent.

I have lost my father too in my childhood so I know how terrible it feels. And his mom was the most special person to him. Right at that moment, I figured that I haven't moved on, infact I am in deep down love with him. He texted me to make sure I am alright. His one text changed the whole scenario and now I am back to where I started - incredibly heart broken again. I told him that I still love him but he cared to ignore.

This guy is very weird with his emotions. We had already separated, why texting me about bad times. Why would you text me after months telling about tragic things when you don't care about having me in good times? Want sympathy?

After 1 week of his text, I went crazy starving for his presence and confessed how much I still love him but he did not care.

In past, we have shared one intimate night and he might not say it, but he is also in love with me. He once mentioned how he feels our kids would be someday. WHY!? uhh. he is 29, I am 27. He is so much scared of losing me permanently that he agreed to let me go for some time and then have me back. The real reason why he rejected for dating is difference in life style , salaries and career. I am much successful than him and it's on his face how much he feels it's a big difference between us. It's something which he has pre-assumed.

I am not sure what will happen between us in future, but yes I love him, and I feel his pain no matter how separated we live.

Cancer men, once they fall for someone they will NOT let her go. Just think of the claws the crab has. They will LATCH on and not let go (like a pit bull does when it latches with its powerful jaws). He's not that into you and you're putting words in his mouth by telling yourself, "He loves me". As they say, "Action speaks louder than words". Does he? Nope. And you asked why he suddenly contacted you until his mother passed away. It's called informing all friends and family of the loss of his mother. Some go to Face Book and announce it, while others don't, they either text and/or call. He texted; he didn't' want to speak to you perhaps he would get too emotional and didn't want you to hear him cry; so he texted. All he wants is your friendship and all he hears from you is that you love him and want to be back in his life, etc. Allow HIM to say those words to you. Again, I don't think he's that into you. Sorry.

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

Once you have crossed that barrier of friends into lovers, your relationship has changed forever. A guy will not look at you the same way and you are in another category in his mind.

Now, the unfortunate thing is he already got what he wanted without the effort of wooing and dating. You say he already has in his mind you guys can't be together, that won't change he has placed you in a category of "not serious" meaning stop analyzing everything he does because you still come up with the same result and dead end.

Time to move on, and first starts with you. You have to realize there is someone better suited for you.

It's okay. I had moved on before. If only he had not texted me to give me tragic news. I will now again have to go through time and patience to move on.

But he will not have me as a friend. He does not care that I have feelings for him.

My concern here was only the fact that why did he text me when we were living apart. What made him to think about me and tell me about his mother. It was our mutual decision to break our friendship because we were not on the same page. And I believe if you cut the cords, you don't talk no matter what.

And he talked to me wayyy tooooo sweet that day. I have blocked him to make calls/texts to me since last few weeks. I cannot let a gate open when I am trying to get over it.

I am feeling ultimate sad that I will have to go through everything again to curb this heart break. Second time with the same man - well shame on me.

I remember how excited he was to get into an uber full of girls while making me to wait for him to call. Guys are uncaring, especially when they know that the girl is into them.

We cannot be friends, of course, he was enjoying his life even after knowing that I am going through immense pain which was given by himself only. He was my best friend. But he enjoyed my pain. Left me suffering. And when his turn came to suffer, he texted me, why? Where are all those girls who entertained him in Uber? All those people who suddenly became more important than me when I was crying all night long after his rejection.

I feel now very stupid to tell him that I am still in love with him. I think I hate him more. And I hate myself too, to let him hurt me, twice. Too bad for me that I trusted someone.