Should you tell a cancer ex you miss them?

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by tvljvh on Thursday, February 2, 2017 and has 14 replies.
Should I tell my cancer ex I miss them? Been about a week since contact, and they still have feelings for me. Cancer ex asked for the break up FYI.
Posted by tvljvh
Should I tell my cancer ex I miss them? Been about a week since contact, and they still have feelings for me. Cancer ex asked for the break up FYI.
How many people are we talking about?
how long have you been dating?
Posted by pinkbird03
how long have you been dating?
9 months
Posted by Immaculate_Perfection
No. Cancer is a cardinal sign. Cardinal signs initiate action. If he informed you that the two of you should seperate and not be together, then I advise you trust that judgement. People will still care and hold feelings for a while after a breakup, that is a natural process of detachment however, that does not mean that you two should be together. I advise you refrain from contact.
But I am a Cardinal sign as well
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Posted by pinkbird03
how long have you been dating?
9 months
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Hmmm that's a long time for a cancer to become attached. Why did he break up with you?
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
Posted by tvljvh
Should I tell my cancer ex I miss them? Been about a week since contact, and they still have feelings for me. Cancer ex asked for the break up FYI.
No... He dumped YOU..

Go NO CONTACT for 30 days... That will help you... But very few women can even to this.. Smh!
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I did stop contact with him, but he would send me random messages which would always break the no contact rule.

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Posted by pinkbird03
how long have you been dating?
9 months
Hmmm that's a long time for a cancer to become attached. Why did he break up with you?
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Jealousy issues.

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Posted by pinkbird03
how long have you been dating?
9 months
Hmmm that's a long time for a cancer to become attached. Why did he break up with you?
Jealousy issues.

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Did he not trust you? That will make a cancer man look elsewhere for love.

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Posted by pinkbird03
how long have you been dating?
9 months
Hmmm that's a long time for a cancer to become attached. Why did he break up with you?
Jealousy issues.



Did he not trust you? That will make a cancer man look elsewhere for love.

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He did trust me. He just did not like the attention I got from other men whatsoever.

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Posted by pinkbird03
how long have you been dating?
9 months
Hmmm that's a long time for a cancer to become attached. Why did he break up with you?
Jealousy issues.



Did he not trust you? That will make a cancer man look elsewhere for love.

He did trust me. He just did not like the attention I got from other men whatsoever.

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Hmm that is odd. Usually jealousy makes someone want to stay and get what they want instead of give up
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Posted by pinkbird03
Posted by tvljvh
Posted by pinkbird03
how long have you been dating?
9 months
Hmmm that's a long time for a cancer to become attached. Why did he break up with you?
Jealousy issues.



Did he not trust you? That will make a cancer man look elsewhere for love.

He did trust me. He just did not like the attention I got from other men whatsoever.

Hmm that is odd. Usually jealousy makes someone want to stay and get what they want instead of give up
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Yup, my thoughts exactly. That's why I'm at a lost. He insists he loves me. I believe if I give him space he'll come around.

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Posted by tvljvh
Posted by pinkbird03
how long have you been dating?
9 months
Hmmm that's a long time for a cancer to become attached. Why did he break up with you?
Jealousy issues.



Did he not trust you? That will make a cancer man look elsewhere for love.

He did trust me. He just did not like the attention I got from other men whatsoever.

Hmm that is odd. Usually jealousy makes someone want to stay and get what they want instead of give up
Yup, my thoughts exactly. That's why I'm at a lost. He insists he loves me. I believe if I give him space he'll come around.

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Yes, give him space. If he comes back soon, he still cares. But he might not. Have you two fought over this same issue a lot? When a cancer finally decides to move on, there's no turning back to giving 100% . It's always less.

nope - if you go quiet it may have reverse psychology wondering if you are with someone else etc - the space helps us process what we feel for someone truly as opposed to the heat of the moment

as a Cancer I find it annoying when someone tells me they missed me if Im not feeling it like that or if I know it already ...that makes me stubborn as I like to feel my own way out in situations not someone trying to mess with my feelings process - I need it to be my decision