Posted by boxcarmirnta
He kept saying he would prolly leave town so I did him a favor and left for him. I felt bad about it so I apologized etc. Now he wont talk to me. Why the fuck does it matter if he kept saying he'd prolly leave at some.point anyway? He can dish it but not take it? The thing is he has my stuff, and he wont respond so I can't get it back. Someone explain why he'd hold my shit hostage? Wouldn't he want it gone if he hates me so much? Hates me for calling his bluff apparently, or not letting him have control...wtf...it makes no sense.
Posted by GreenteaPosted by boxcarmirnta
He kept saying he would prolly leave town so I did him a favor and left for him. I felt bad about it so I apologized etc. Now he wont talk to me. Why the fuck does it matter if he kept saying he'd prolly leave at some.point anyway? He can dish it but not take it? The thing is he has my stuff, and he wont respond so I can't get it back. Someone explain why he'd hold my shit hostage? Wouldn't he want it gone if he hates me so much? Hates me for calling his bluff apparently, or not letting him have control...wtf...it makes no sense.
Who cares what he thinks, go over there and get your shit.click to expand
Posted by cappygirl11
Oh no... you guys broke up again.... and u left town.... like just upped and left... what about school/work etc..... you are so strong
Posted by boxcarmirntaPosted by cappygirl11
Oh no... you guys broke up again.... and u left town.... like just upped and left... what about school/work etc..... you are so strong
I didn't leave town, just him. Yea it hurt like a bitch!! But ya know, I cant be an afterthought anymore or taken for granted. I feel a lot stronger than I was before. We have talked briefly..he's still hurt by some things I said. But he never owns up to his part in anything. Just finds something I do to fixate on and remain hurt about forever. But once im done apologizing that remains his problem. If I meant anything to him, he'd fight for me. And he does not. I've always done all the work. Not worth it.click to expand
Posted by cappygirl11
When does a cancerian ever own up to his part
Posted by DonnaElvira77Posted by CancerOnTheCuspPosted by cappygirl11
When does a cancerian ever own up to his part
When you own up to yours.....
you realize she is not in a relationship with you don't you?click to expand
Posted by boxcarmirntaPosted by cappygirl11
Oh no... you guys broke up again.... and u left town.... like just upped and left... what about school/work etc..... you are so strong
I didn't leave town, just him. Yea it hurt like a bitch!! But ya know, I cant be an afterthought anymore or taken for granted. I feel a lot stronger than I was before. We have talked briefly..he's still hurt by some things I said. But he never owns up to his part in anything. Just finds something I do to fixate on and remain hurt about forever. But once im done apologizing that remains his problem. If I meant anything to him, he'd fight for me. And he does not. I've always done all the work. Not worth it.click to expand
Posted by dewiklaessen1991
A cancer always bluffs just manipulation I would not believe a thing to be honest I was 5 years with a cancerman who did that all the time broke up and then the next day or week he would be back apologizing etc because they sometimes do things when they're emotional but don't often mean it if he said he'd leave town but was bluffing then he was looking of you cared enough for him to beg him to stay that's his way of wanting to see if you care it's not a powergame but an emotional game at the same time he does know you would not do that but if you would he would feel offended all of a sudden just let him be for a while ignoring is not for long cancer hates when you ignore them
Posted by Goldigold
Sometimes just writing off the things you've left behind, is worth not dealing with the drama of picking them up. The things I leave at my bf's house are things that I can live without. Next time your in a relationship consider not leaving ur things because of this reason.
Sorry to hear you broke up it always hard. Give it a few weeks to cool down then go get your things, maybe he can leave your things on his porch. And breath....
Posted by YourFavoriteDXPMemberPosted by boxcarmirnta
Thank you!!!!
My pleasure.
I admire and believe in the principles of 3 very well established and respected men.
James Bond, Barry White and Steve McQueen.
All 3 men are what men should be, and I know that they would never disallow a lady to have her personal things back if things don't work out in a relationship.
Clint Eastwood gets an honorable mention.click to expand
Posted by YourFavoriteDXPMember
When does a cancerian ever own up to his partclick to expand
Posted by YourFavoriteDXPMemberPosted by boxcarmirnta
He kept saying he would prolly leave town so I did him a favor and left for him. I felt bad about it so I apologized etc. Now he wont talk to me. Why the fuck does it matter if he kept saying he'd prolly leave at some.point anyway? He can dish it but not take it? The thing is he has my stuff, and he wont respond so I can't get it back. Someone explain why he'd hold my shit hostage? Wouldn't he want it gone if he hates me so much? Hates me for calling his bluff apparently, or not letting him have control...wtf...it makes no sense.
I agree with you, you left because you were fed up, and I don't blame you.
As for getting your things back, we need to lay out a few ideas.
1.) Does douche rent or own the place he lives in? If he rents, then contact the landlord about getting into the house with the landlord accompanying you to get the stuff back.
2.) If he owns the place, then call the police and file a civil complaint through their office. You will probably have to drive to the local police station to fill out some forms.
3.) If you really want your stuff back, you are going to have to pursue this through either the police or a landlord.
4.) He is holding your stuff because he is being petty and spiteful about the whole thing. If douchey was an adult about this, he would respond to you about a time and date that he is free to open the place up to help you get your things.
You dodged a bullet on this douche. If he is being a dick about your personal stuff, just imagine if you had a baby with this loser.
He is showing you his true colors, and they are really ugly.click to expand
Posted by YourFavoriteDXPMemberso no police
Wrong.
If he is refusing to give her things back to her, then a civil complaint with the police is appropriate.
They won't send the SWAT team with a battering ram and tracked vehicles to get her stuff back, but they will contact him and find out what the hell his problem is.
If she has his phone number and address, then they will use that information to contact him and find out why he is being a douche about her personal property.
And that contact alone should be enough to make him quit being a dick about everything and let her have her things back.click to expand