Someone please explain cancer men to me!

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by Fiestyfish on Sunday, February 5, 2017 and has 25 replies.
Good evening all,

I hope some of you wonderful cancer, or cancer placement folk can help me out. He'll if you've been involved with a cancer you can help me. Twice now I've had the same thing happen. Virgo sun cancer moon pursed me for a few weeks always contacting me always wanting to be the me to point of being clingy. Then ghosted for a week. Then finally sent me a 6 page text claiming he realized he was only attracted to me physically and his last ex hurt him and he wasn't ready for a relationship and he thinks I'm wonderful and he is sorry he lead me on (introducing me to his family and what not). Yeah yeah. We did not ever get intimate. We made out and cuddled but we never got any further.

Then I have an a old coworker ask me out. he is a cancer sun, Scorpio moon, cancer venus, Scorpio mars Leo mercury. Super communicative, telling me he wants to be more open and all this stuff. we have a great time on the date. His hands were even shaking when we first greeted eachother from nerves! I thought it was endearing. We spend several hours together on the date hiking, eating dinner, seeing a movie. Laughing and joking. Now it's been a week since our date and since I've heard from him. Why all this pursuing me so hard and then ghosting just as fast?

And I wasn't intimate with him either. My first guess is there is someone else. Fine, but would it kill you to say, I'm sorry I don't feel any chemistry? Why disappear like that?

I feel like I at least owe it to someone I was spending a lot of time with some sort of tactful heads up. It just seems rude.

I'm a pisces sun, aqua moon and merc, gem rising, Capricorn venus and Mars, cancer jupiter, Scorpio Pluto, cap Saturn, Uranus, and neptune. Pisces mid heaven, aqua north node.
Posted by Fiestyfish
Good evening all,

I hope some of you wonderful cancer, or cancer placement folk can help me out. He'll if you've been involved with a cancer you can help me. Twice now I've had the same thing happen. Virgo sun cancer moon pursed me for a few weeks always contacting me always wanting to be the me to point of being clingy. Then ghosted for a week. Then finally sent me a 6 page text claiming he realized he was only attracted to me physically and his last ex hurt him and he wasn't ready for a relationship and he thinks I'm wonderful and he is sorry he lead me on (introducing me to his family and what not). Yeah yeah. We did not ever get intimate. We made out and cuddled but we never got any further.

Then I have an a old coworker ask me out. he is a cancer sun, Scorpio moon, cancer venus, Scorpio mars Leo mercury. Super communicative, telling me he wants to be more open and all this stuff. we have a great time on the date. His hands were even shaking when we first greeted eachother from nerves! I thought it was endearing. We spend several hours together on the date hiking, eating dinner, seeing a movie. Laughing and joking. Now it's been a week since our date and since I've heard from him. Why all this pursuing me so hard and then ghosting just as fast?

And I wasn't intimate with him either. My first guess is there is someone else. Fine, but would it kill you to say, I'm sorry I don't feel any chemistry? Why disappear like that?

I feel like I at least owe it to someone I was spending a lot of time with some sort of tactful heads up. It just seems rude.

I'm a pisces sun, aqua moon and merc, gem rising, Capricorn venus and Mars, cancer jupiter, Scorpio Pluto, cap Saturn, Uranus, and neptune. Pisces mid heaven, aqua north node.


Oh man Cancer In guys charts.... they get super emotional lovey Dover because they don't know how to handle strong emotions so they express them in the moment but it's not real... yet. So then the girl reciprocates but it scares the guy cuz he didn't really mean it... yet and he runs. So what to do?
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Good evening all,

I hope some of you wonderful cancer, or cancer placement folk can help me out. He'll if you've been involved with a cancer you can help me. Twice now I've had the same thing happen. Virgo sun cancer moon pursed me for a few weeks always contacting me always wanting to be the me to point of being clingy. Then ghosted for a week. Then finally sent me a 6 page text claiming he realized he was only attracted to me physically and his last ex hurt him and he wasn't ready for a relationship and he thinks I'm wonderful and he is sorry he lead me on (introducing me to his family and what not). Yeah yeah. We did not ever get intimate. We made out and cuddled but we never got any further.

Then I have an a old coworker ask me out. he is a cancer sun, Scorpio moon, cancer venus, Scorpio mars Leo mercury. Super communicative, telling me he wants to be more open and all this stuff. we have a great time on the date. His hands were even shaking when we first greeted eachother from nerves! I thought it was endearing. We spend several hours together on the date hiking, eating dinner, seeing a movie. Laughing and joking. Now it's been a week since our date and since I've heard from him. Why all this pursuing me so hard and then ghosting just as fast?

And I wasn't intimate with him either. My first guess is there is someone else. Fine, but would it kill you to say, I'm sorry I don't feel any chemistry? Why disappear like that?

I feel like I at least owe it to someone I was spending a lot of time with some sort of tactful heads up. It just seems rude.

I'm a pisces sun, aqua moon and merc, gem rising, Capricorn venus and Mars, cancer jupiter, Scorpio Pluto, cap Saturn, Uranus, and neptune. Pisces mid heaven, aqua north node.


Oh man Cancer In guys charts.... they get super emotional lovey Dover because they don't know how to handle strong emotions so they express them in the moment but it's not real... yet. So then the girl reciprocates but it scares the guy cuz he didn't really mean it... yet and he runs. So what to do?
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Well I tell you what I do... I just let him in that moment and pay no mind. If he says you're so great I really like you, etc just smile and say "awe your sweet" don't get emotional. Stay neutral because then he can be in his moment and work out his feelings until he's ready. Also, the guy will probably take 1 step toward you and you will think finally, we are making progress and then he will take 2 steps back! It's frustrating, and you will be on the brink of saying fuck this! And then that's when it will all come together but it's a looong dance so be prepared and make sure this guy is worth it Winking
Just message the second guy right now. He sounds like a nervous wreck. He is afraid you didn't like him so he's hiding in his shell.
Hey guys,

Thanks so much for your kind answers. I don't understand how he could think I didn't like him when I made the move to hold his hand in the theater and I told him I wanted to go on another date soon at the end of our date. And I texted him the day after the date, said I hoped he was enjoying the sunshine (it was raining alot here in San Diego lately) he said he was and went for a run. And that was it. And it was literally a week ago.

And please know this is not about my ego. I just need communication (gem rising!) He could say he wants to be friends it's not the end of the world.

P.s. the first guy is long gone that was in Oct. smile

Maybe I'm not meant to deal with cancers lol! But I seem to attract them. I'm terrified of running into another one now and them playing with my emotions.
an summed up perfectly in three sentences!! Thank you Moonbutter!

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Oh man Cancer In guys charts.... they get super emotional lovey Dover because they don't know how to handle strong emotions so they express them in the moment but it's not real... yet. So then the girl reciprocates but it scares the guy cuz he didn't really mean it... yet and he runs.
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Hmm alright.

I've dated Cancer man once back in my college years, didn't like it.

Can't count on them.
Alcohol addiction can cause shaking hands, also neurological problems etc.
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Alcohol addiction can cause shaking hands, also neurological problems etc.
Oh God ? Considering he was driving us I sure hope he wasn't drinking.
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Hey guys,

Thanks so much for your kind answers. I don't understand how he could think I didn't like him when I made the move to hold his hand in the theater and I told him I wanted to go on another date soon at the end of our date. And I texted him the day after the date, said I hoped he was enjoying the sunshine (it was raining alot here in San Diego lately) he said he was and went for a run. And that was it. And it was literally a week ago.

And please know this is not about my ego. I just need communication (gem rising!) He could say he wants to be friends it's not the end of the world.

P.s. the first guy is long gone that was in Oct. smile

Maybe I'm not meant to deal with cancers lol! But I seem to attract them. I'm terrified of running into another one now and them playing with my emotions.
You gotta take one step forward then wait... see if they step forward...it's a dance ? Basically, I did the same with my Cancer Venus guy and showed too much affection when he wasn't ready for it and he took steps back so I had to back off and when he came forward again, then I came forward but this time matched him and now we seem to be insync.
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Alcohol addiction can cause shaking hands, also neurological problems etc.
Oh God ? Considering he was driving us I sure hope he wasn't drinking.
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I don't know lol

Keep your eyes wide open in case he comes back.

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Hey guys,

Thanks so much for your kind answers. I don't understand how he could think I didn't like him when I made the move to hold his hand in the theater and I told him I wanted to go on another date soon at the end of our date. And I texted him the day after the date, said I hoped he was enjoying the sunshine (it was raining alot here in San Diego lately) he said he was and went for a run. And that was it. And it was literally a week ago.

And please know this is not about my ego. I just need communication (gem rising!) He could say he wants to be friends it's not the end of the world.

P.s. the first guy is long gone that was in Oct. smile

Maybe I'm not meant to deal with cancers lol! But I seem to attract them. I'm terrified of running into another one now and them playing with my emotions.
You gotta take one step forward then wait... see if they step forward...it's a dance ? Basically, I did the same with my Cancer Venus guy and showed too much affection when he wasn't ready for it and he took steps back so I had to back off and when he came forward again, then I came forward but this time matched him and now we seem to be insync.
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I did I texted him the day after the date. Are you saying I need to text him again?
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Hey guys,

Thanks so much for your kind answers. I don't understand how he could think I didn't like him when I made the move to hold his hand in the theater and I told him I wanted to go on another date soon at the end of our date. And I texted him the day after the date, said I hoped he was enjoying the sunshine (it was raining alot here in San Diego lately) he said he was and went for a run. And that was it. And it was literally a week ago.

And please know this is not about my ego. I just need communication (gem rising!) He could say he wants to be friends it's not the end of the world.

P.s. the first guy is long gone that was in Oct. smile

Maybe I'm not meant to deal with cancers lol! But I seem to attract them. I'm terrified of running into another one now and them playing with my emotions.
You gotta take one step forward then wait... see if they step forward...it's a dance ? Basically, I did the same with my Cancer Venus guy and showed too much affection when he wasn't ready for it and he took steps back so I had to back off and when he came forward again, then I came forward but this time matched him and now we seem to be insync.
I did I texted him the day after the date. Are you saying I need to text him again?
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I'm saying you wait to see if he steps forward... if you keep stepping forward and he just stands there, well you will trample the poor guy ??
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Hey guys,

Thanks so much for your kind answers. I don't understand how he could think I didn't like him when I made the move to hold his hand in the theater and I told him I wanted to go on another date soon at the end of our date. And I texted him the day after the date, said I hoped he was enjoying the sunshine (it was raining alot here in San Diego lately) he said he was and went for a run. And that was it. And it was literally a week ago.

And please know this is not about my ego. I just need communication (gem rising!) He could say he wants to be friends it's not the end of the world.

P.s. the first guy is long gone that was in Oct. smile

Maybe I'm not meant to deal with cancers lol! But I seem to attract them. I'm terrified of running into another one now and them playing with my emotions.
You gotta take one step forward then wait... see if they step forward...it's a dance ? Basically, I did the same with my Cancer Venus guy and showed too much affection when he wasn't ready for it and he took steps back so I had to back off and when he came forward again, then I came forward but this time matched him and now we seem to be insync.
I did I texted him the day after the date. Are you saying I need to text him again?
I'm saying you wait to see if he steps forward... if you keep stepping forward and he just stands there, well you will trample the poor guy ??
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I hear ya, I've already given the guy a week, but he can have as much time as he wants, life doesn't pause while he's making arts and crafts in his shell. Shame, I do actually like him.
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Hey guys,

Thanks so much for your kind answers. I don't understand how he could think I didn't like him when I made the move to hold his hand in the theater and I told him I wanted to go on another date soon at the end of our date. And I texted him the day after the date, said I hoped he was enjoying the sunshine (it was raining alot here in San Diego lately) he said he was and went for a run. And that was it. And it was literally a week ago.

And please know this is not about my ego. I just need communication (gem rising!) He could say he wants to be friends it's not the end of the world.

P.s. the first guy is long gone that was in Oct. smile

Maybe I'm not meant to deal with cancers lol! But I seem to attract them. I'm terrified of running into another one now and them playing with my emotions.
You gotta take one step forward then wait... see if they step forward...it's a dance ? Basically, I did the same with my Cancer Venus guy and showed too much affection when he wasn't ready for it and he took steps back so I had to back off and when he came forward again, then I came forward but this time matched him and now we seem to be insync.
I did I texted him the day after the date. Are you saying I need to text him again?
I'm saying you wait to see if he steps forward... if you keep stepping forward and he just stands there, well you will trample the poor guy ??
I hear ya, I've already given the guy a week, but he can have as much time as he wants, life doesn't pause while he's making arts and crafts in his shell. Shame, I do actually like him.
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You text him and he never responded?
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Hey guys,

Thanks so much for your kind answers. I don't understand how he could think I didn't like him when I made the move to hold his hand in the theater and I told him I wanted to go on another date soon at the end of our date. And I texted him the day after the date, said I hoped he was enjoying the sunshine (it was raining alot here in San Diego lately) he said he was and went for a run. And that was it. And it was literally a week ago.

And please know this is not about my ego. I just need communication (gem rising!) He could say he wants to be friends it's not the end of the world.

P.s. the first guy is long gone that was in Oct. smile

Maybe I'm not meant to deal with cancers lol! But I seem to attract them. I'm terrified of running into another one now and them playing with my emotions.
You gotta take one step forward then wait... see if they step forward...it's a dance ? Basically, I did the same with my Cancer Venus guy and showed too much affection when he wasn't ready for it and he took steps back so I had to back off and when he came forward again, then I came forward but this time matched him and now we seem to be insync.
I did I texted him the day after the date. Are you saying I need to text him again?
I'm saying you wait to see if he steps forward... if you keep stepping forward and he just stands there, well you will trample the poor guy ??
I hear ya, I've already given the guy a week, but he can have as much time as he wants, life doesn't pause while he's making arts and crafts in his shell. Shame, I do actually like him.
You text him and he never responded?
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He did, he was polite but it wasn't flirtatious like before. Before he was sending me cute animal pics and funny youtube videos and talking to me almost everyday. There was a 2 day period before our date where we didn't talk, which was fine because it gave me time to think about him and miss him. And he apologized and claimed his work had a him busy. But a week to me is extreme, that's saying I'm no longer interested.
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Omg Cancer man summed up perfectly in three sentences!! Thank you Moonbutter!

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Oh man Cancer In guys charts.... they get super emotional lovey Dover because they don't know how to handle strong emotions so they express them in the moment but it's not real... yet. So then the girl reciprocates but it scares the guy cuz he didn't really mean it... yet and he runs.


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Hey guys,

Thanks so much for your kind answers. I don't understand how he could think I didn't like him when I made the move to hold his hand in the theater and I told him I wanted to go on another date soon at the end of our date. And I texted him the day after the date, said I hoped he was enjoying the sunshine (it was raining alot here in San Diego lately) he said he was and went for a run. And that was it. And it was literally a week ago.

And please know this is not about my ego. I just need communication (gem rising!) He could say he wants to be friends it's not the end of the world.

P.s. the first guy is long gone that was in Oct. smile

Maybe I'm not meant to deal with cancers lol! But I seem to attract them. I'm terrified of running into another one now and them playing with my emotions.
You gotta take one step forward then wait... see if they step forward...it's a dance ? Basically, I did the same with my Cancer Venus guy and showed too much affection when he wasn't ready for it and he took steps back so I had to back off and when he came forward again, then I came forward but this time matched him and now we seem to be insync.
I did I texted him the day after the date. Are you saying I need to text him again?
I'm saying you wait to see if he steps forward... if you keep stepping forward and he just stands there, well you will trample the poor guy ??
I hear ya, I've already given the guy a week, but he can have as much time as he wants, life doesn't pause while he's making arts and crafts in his shell. Shame, I do actually like him.
You text him and he never responded?
He did, he was polite but it wasn't flirtatious like before. Before he was sending me cute animal pics and funny youtube videos and talking to me almost everyday. There was a 2 day period before our date where we didn't talk, which was fine because it gave me time to think about him and miss him. And he apologized and claimed his work had a him busy. But a week to me is extreme, that's saying I'm no longer interested.
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Hmmmaybe.. but you may have just scared him a lil coming on strong about your intentions so he needed to step back... just send a funny meme and see how he responds then you will know Winking
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Hey guys,

Thanks so much for your kind answers. I don't understand how he could think I didn't like him when I made the move to hold his hand in the theater and I told him I wanted to go on another date soon at the end of our date. And I texted him the day after the date, said I hoped he was enjoying the sunshine (it was raining alot here in San Diego lately) he said he was and went for a run. And that was it. And it was literally a week ago.

And please know this is not about my ego. I just need communication (gem rising!) He could say he wants to be friends it's not the end of the world.

P.s. the first guy is long gone that was in Oct. smile

Maybe I'm not meant to deal with cancers lol! But I seem to attract them. I'm terrified of running into another one now and them playing with my emotions.
You gotta take one step forward then wait... see if they step forward...it's a dance ? Basically, I did the same with my Cancer Venus guy and showed too much affection when he wasn't ready for it and he took steps back so I had to back off and when he came forward again, then I came forward but this time matched him and now we seem to be insync.
I did I texted him the day after the date. Are you saying I need to text him again?
I'm saying you wait to see if he steps forward... if you keep stepping forward and he just stands there, well you will trample the poor guy ??
I hear ya, I've already given the guy a week, but he can have as much time as he wants, life doesn't pause while he's making arts and crafts in his shell. Shame, I do actually like him.
You text him and he never responded?
He did, he was polite but it wasn't flirtatious like before. Before he was sending me cute animal pics and funny youtube videos and talking to me almost everyday. There was a 2 day period before our date where we didn't talk, which was fine because it gave me time to think about him and miss him. And he apologized and claimed his work had a him busy. But a week to me is extreme, that's saying I'm no longer interested.
Hmmmaybe.. but you may have just scared him a lil coming on strong about your intentions so he needed to step back... just send a funny meme and see how he responds then you will know Winking
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Texting someone the day after a date is not coming on too strong!

She expressed her intentions. Ball is on his court now.

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Hey guys,

Thanks so much for your kind answers. I don't understand how he could think I didn't like him when I made the move to hold his hand in the theater and I told him I wanted to go on another date soon at the end of our date. And I texted him the day after the date, said I hoped he was enjoying the sunshine (it was raining alot here in San Diego lately) he said he was and went for a run. And that was it. And it was literally a week ago.

And please know this is not about my ego. I just need communication (gem rising!) He could say he wants to be friends it's not the end of the world.

P.s. the first guy is long gone that was in Oct. smile

Maybe I'm not meant to deal with cancers lol! But I seem to attract them. I'm terrified of running into another one now and them playing with my emotions.
You gotta take one step forward then wait... see if they step forward...it's a dance ? Basically, I did the same with my Cancer Venus guy and showed too much affection when he wasn't ready for it and he took steps back so I had to back off and when he came forward again, then I came forward but this time matched him and now we seem to be insync.
I did I texted him the day after the date. Are you saying I need to text him again?
I'm saying you wait to see if he steps forward... if you keep stepping forward and he just stands there, well you will trample the poor guy ??
I hear ya, I've already given the guy a week, but he can have as much time as he wants, life doesn't pause while he's making arts and crafts in his shell. Shame, I do actually like him.
You text him and he never responded?
He did, he was polite but it wasn't flirtatious like before. Before he was sending me cute animal pics and funny youtube videos and talking to me almost everyday. There was a 2 day period before our date where we didn't talk, which was fine because it gave me time to think about him and miss him. And he apologized and claimed his work had a him busy. But a week to me is extreme, that's saying I'm no longer interested.
Hmmmaybe.. but you may have just scared him a lil coming on strong about your intentions so he needed to step back... just send a funny meme and see how he responds then you will know Winking
Texting someone the day after a date is not coming on too strong!

She expressed her intentions. Ball is on his court now.

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No, I'm referring to her telling him she wanted a second date...Maybe he likes to lead.
I'm just going to leave it alone. I've apparently done too much.
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I'm just going to leave it alone. I've apparently done too much.
Well I know for me the more I like someone, the more insecure I am about the other person's feelings to the point it's irrational sometimes.
Maybe he's waiting for you to contact him?
Need some help for interpretation.

I have tried clarifying with the person. But it could be the case where the Cancer guy is not even sure himself? It is clear that he want me out but why is he still feeling hurt? He got a new love interest now. He said is not a rebound.

Might not be related to horoscope. But is there any capacity to be healing and liking someone new at the same time?

As a cancer man, I always sure who to approach and will not give up that easy unless I found that person flirt with other man or being over social around myself or in doubt that she has a bf/ into someone else.

If I found any point of above, I would consider to turn off quick because I don't want to build up further connection with that person and that might lead to a complete isolation as well.

If you want to have a serious relationship , you can just let him approach you, text you and call you. i Also find that I lost interest on girls who text me first