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This topic was created in the Cancer forum by rockyroadicecream on Tuesday, December 3, 2013 and has 27 replies.
Is it normal for Cancers to be all "WOO JUMP ON IN" when they're interested in someone? Cause this guy I just met has me all deer in the headlights with how forward he is. I thought these dudes were practically afraid of their own shadows when it came to this stuff?
...But apparently he has a Libra moon, which would explain the jump in all crazy status... (fml)
Also, I was too lazy to go search through threads and crap. It's 2 am and I just felt like making a post instead.
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Yes it's normal because if we really like you and feel comfortable with you then we're really enthusiastic! WOOHOO!!!
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...yeah it makes me want to run in the other direction. My Taurus Venus does not like. Haha.
I've only talked to this guy like 3 times and the convos were relatively short with no deep conversation, so how would that create any level of comfort for such a flighty sign when it comes to big bad emotions?
I've got a Cancer moon so I'm semi familiar with it. Generally, Cancer guys are just too freaking emo for me. Seem like okay friends though.
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It depends on the Cancer. They have to be a bit more evolved so they can handle and control their emotional outbursts. I"m a triple Cancer so I guess I'm used to it. We want an emotional connection. We want to feel someone's soul. Yes, its deep shit and it scares the shit out of most people. For us water signs its second nature. smile
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I'm not talking about me or anyone else being scared, I'm talking about THEM. All that hiding in their shell shit when things get too scary emotionally.
I'm pretty wary since this guy is just... too much too fast which tells me that he may not be as evolved as needed.
We connected via a school page on Facebook and chatted a few times before I added him on Facebook (he couldn't add me like he wanted since mine's locked down). Immediately after he accepted the request, he likes like 3-4 profile pictures and my current status.
...okie doke. Surprised me a bit.
Then he messages me later last night, "you are very beautiful!"
Prior to that, it was mild flirting. Last night, I was getting drilled about why I was single, relationship past, etc. Makes a comment about how we should have hung out yesterday. Then before he left last night, says we should go out, etc. etc.
It's nothing terrible, but for me it's like whoa, full speed ahead much after only chatting a few times? :/
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Cancers aren't afraid of emotions. We eat/live/breath/ARE emotions. We're afraid of giving anyone a strangle hold on our emotions or the ability to control us.
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Posted by MoonArtist
Cancers aren't afraid of emotions. We eat/live/breath/ARE emotions. We're afraid of giving anyone a strangle hold on our emotions or the ability to control us.


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Posted by rockyroadicecream
Is it normal for Cancers to be all "WOO JUMP ON IN" when they're interested in someone? Cause this guy I just met has me all deer in the headlights with how forward he is. I thought these dudes were practically afraid of their own shadows when it came to this stuff?


Not when he has decided "you're it".
Should take it as a compliment that he REALLY stepped out of his shell.
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lol Where's the like button!
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Posted by xMoonMan
Posted by MoonArtist
We eat/live/breath/ARE emotions.

Err, I wouldn't go quite that extreme.
After reading many of your posts I'm starting to wonder if you drink too much red cordial.
Tongue
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I was thinking more of having picked the wrong type of mushrooms...
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Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
Posted by xMoonMan
Posted by MoonArtist
We eat/live/breath/ARE emotions.

Err, I wouldn't go quite that extreme.
After reading many of your posts I'm starting to wonder if you drink too much red cordial.
Tongue


I was thinking more of having picked the wrong type of mushrooms...
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~gasp~ I'm wounded! Deeply, deathly, drastically, horribly, terrifyingly wounded! ~cough gasp cough swoon~
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Posted by MoonArtist
Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
Posted by xMoonMan
Posted by MoonArtist
We eat/live/breath/ARE emotions.

Err, I wouldn't go quite that extreme.
After reading many of your posts I'm starting to wonder if you drink too much red cordial.
Tongue


I was thinking more of having picked the wrong type of mushrooms...


~gasp~ I'm wounded! Deeply, deathly, drastically, horribly, terrifyingly wounded! ~cough gasp cough swoon~

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~cough cough hack wheeze~ Please feed my cat! And not the dry stuff!!
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HEEEEEYYYYYYY!!!......is for horses......I'll have you know that I don't drink (much and hardly ever) and I've never done drugs or mushrooms in my life. Any craziness is purely in your imagination or naturally occurring in me.
Now, Sir Bushybottoms, if you'll excuse me I have a very important date with zaniness to attend to.
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theres a sucker born every minute
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Posted by MoonArtist
Any craziness is purely in your imagination or naturally occurring in me. .


How to figure this one.....Coin toss?
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I know, I'm just having fun running with the ball. DO try to keep up! SUGGGGGAAAAARRRRRR AND RED DYYYYEEEEEEE!!!!!! WEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!
I had some pet mushrooms once. They were great. Even better fried on steak. You should have seen the look on Moe's face, though. Tragic. He was a fungi. I'll miss him. Hey, MoonMan and CotC, you let the door open and some randomness just walked in! Sheesh.
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So he put himself out there. And you are rejecting him for it? Be lucky he's still around. Why do people have to be such a bitch?
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Well, do you think he is cute or not? Interested? You are feeling uncomfortable by the way he is coming onto you with his feelings. Let him be, (words can hurt, Mercury is moving into Sagittarius tonight). Still water, think before saying yes, no, or before giving in.
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Posted by kissmygrits
So he put himself out there. And you are rejecting him for it? Be lucky he's still around. Why do people have to be such a bitch?


This is the emo shit I'm talking about.
Calm down, you silly bitch. Please point out to me where I said I've rejected this guy? Please. Show me because you so gladly jumped to the conclusion that I rejected him and I should be doing the absolute opposite because he showed interest. After all, women MUST give in if the guy shows interest and can't not be interested in return, right? Kindly shut the fuck up with your perpetuating of dating and relating bullshit that should be stricken from the rulebooks, kthx.
That said, I haven't rejected him, I just do not know where I stand. When any guy comes on that strong, I tend to take a step back and want to slow it down. One or two convos does not warrant a date (or the guy being entitled to one as you seem to think).
I made this post because I was surprised that a water sign would move so fast. Knowing how emo and cautious with their own emotions and feelings, it surprised me that this guy was all gung ho.
Fun fact- when a guy moves that fast, then says it's been a year since he was in a relationship, it leads one to wonder if he's doing this out of pure interest or trying to fill a void because he doesn't seem to like the idea of being single.
Posted by IridescenceMorpha
Well, do you think he is cute or not? Interested? You are feeling uncomfortable by the way he is coming onto you with his feelings. Let him be, (words can hurt, Mercury is moving into Sagittarius tonight). Still water, think before saying yes, no, or before giving in.
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Are you saying that appearances need to be a deciding factor in interest? *gasp* :p
I haven't discouraged or encouraged anything, tbh. I've been friends with guys my whole life and I know how hard it can be to put themselves out there or come forward when they like a girl. I usually do my best to handle it adequately without discouraging such behavior. We need guys to be okay with doing this without girls making it a train wreck in how they react to when a guy is interested.
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As for interest in him, I'm not sure where I stand. I'm not opposed to the idea, but given how strong he's being, it has me holding off. How can someone be THAT interested and see me as "the one" (as someone mentioned earlier) after only two convos online?
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Posted by rockyroadicecream
As for interest in him, I'm not sure where I stand. I'm not opposed to the idea, but given how strong he's being, it has me holding off. How can someone be THAT interested and see me as "the one" (as someone mentioned earlier) after only two convos online?


Not so much "the one" as putting himself forward.
There was an article on Cancers that talked about their tendency to never approach directly. It did point out:
"Cancerians never go directly after what they want. Their strategy is to move in every direction but straight ahead. They'll play this shifting game indefinitely, until it looks as if someone else is about to grab the prize. Then the cards are played quickly and cleverly-Cancer lunges forward, takes hold firmly, and refuses to let go."
Maybe he has that perception. Have you expressed to him your surprise at him being so direct? And if he is coming on too strong, tell him (in a kind way).
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Referenced Cancer article here:
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Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
Posted by rockyroadicecream
As for interest in him, I'm not sure where I stand. I'm not opposed to the idea, but given how strong he's being, it has me holding off. How can someone be THAT interested and see me as "the one" (as someone mentioned earlier) after only two convos online?


Not so much "the one" as putting himself forward.
There was an article on Cancers that talked about their tendency to never approach directly. It did point out:
"Cancerians never go directly after what they want. Their strategy is to move in every direction but straight ahead. They'll play this shifting game indefinitely, until it looks as if someone else is about to grab the prize. Then the cards are played quickly and cleverly-Cancer lunges forward, takes hold firmly, and refuses to let go."
Maybe he has that perception. Have you expressed to him your surprise at him being so direct? And if he is coming on too strong, tell him (in a kind way).
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Nah, not yet. Haven't talked to him since. Your screen name reminded me that he's a cusper too, haha.
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I've also noticed that he's added a few girls via FB recently as well. I could be dealing with a girl crazy guy. He is only 25...
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You calm the eff down internet tough guy. Congrats for taking the internet seriously. Winking
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On a serious note about the add ons of random girls. Uh oh but before you assume they could be family or he might just be trying to be nice. Good day and good luck!
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So from observation, this guy seems like a girl crazy dude. A bit of all talk/no action going on on his part.
...I think I'll be quite fine standing back. I don't have time for this shit, haha.
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