soo this pisces gal has a pretty big crushhhh

SOoooo......i have been working as a waitress and i have a huge crush on the bus boy...we only work together on thursdays which really sucks but up until tonight it seemed as if it didnt matter how long we were apart because we would just pick up right where we left off! it felt magical and intense and we could just look at eachother without saying anything and ughh that really kills me (in a great way of course! lol)

sooooo....the problem...he has a girlfriend of 4 years...its like his first love and ish but from what ive heard shes a miserable bitch to him. one day we were flirting so bad i had to ask a few questions...i was like youve been with her for 4 years, do you plan on marrying her? and he quickly replied with a no..and continued to tell me how they seperate and how she would move out of the apartment.

i know this is wrong...but i canNOT ignore the intensity we have with eachother...its amazing and i hate how im so confused..i know im supposed to go slow but like tonight he was "not talking to me" in a kind of kidding way except i knew he was really upset (being a triple cancer!!! sun, moon, rising) because i kinda blew him off at a work party but only because he said he might bring his gf and i couldnt have handled that!, although he did go alone and left 10 min later..
sooo he continued throughout work to flirt with every girl which was definatly intentional to make me jealous......and it worked

help...

i really really really like this dude

Then do yourself a favor and leave him alone until he calls it quits with the girlfriend.

Do you really think he's treating you like someone he cares about?....or more like someone to make him feel good before he goes home to his "bitchy" girlfriend? If he was really interested in dating you instead he'd finish things with her... considering it's supposedly so bad and they separate frequently anyhow.

He's having a nice little flirtation with you and that's it. Now that's not to say he wouldn't be interested in dating you if he were single, but he's NOT single so he's just enjoying the attention you give him anyway without any responsibility on his part, works out nicely for him doesn't it? Keep it up and he won't respect you.

Going after someone who is in a relationship NEVER works out in your favor - not in the long run. Of course if all you want is a taudrey fling then take him somewhere private, do what you need to, and move on with your life.....don't worry, the karma will know where to find you later.

I'd also say that we attach more value to something that is not available. When you start feeling that way - just ask yourself, what is it that is lacking in your own life, that makes you attach affection to a co-worker that is not available? Don't you deserve someone that is available to you? Even if he were to leave his gf - if he's not happy with her - you'd never know that he can handle being alone or that he chose you - he left knowing you were available.

Back off and leave him alone. Let him work out his life and you take care of your own. If he's available and still flirts with you - you know that he's chosing you.

What you've got going for you is his woman really hates him

Robin, you don't know that - these girls ALL hear the same thing about their crush's girlfriends..... I'm sure this guy tells all the girls how miserable his girlfriend is so he can get sympathy and attention. That doesn't mean it's true.

actually he doesnt talk about her at all....ive just heard from somebody that has worked there a long time that hes miserable with her...and ive been ignoring him and backing off...if its right it will come...i would never interfere with a taken man...i just cant help how i feel and i like him alot and it sucks not to talk to him and so forth butttt oh well!

also i know im worth it....im a great girl! i am also a dreamer though and a true romantic and when i feel such strong emotions with some1 i cant ignore it