tell me why you need such validation, will ya?!?

ok, love my hubby. i do. but it seems like he can never feel validated, or loved or attractive enough. like, he just needs so much assurance in the way of people liking him or women finding him attractive, or that he's good enough.
he does things to boost his self worth all the time, and while i get that, he seems to need that more than average. believe me, i coo and coddle and treat him like a total sex object of my dreams. tell him verbally how hot, sexy and gorgeous he is. how much i love him and admire him. and i do. but i never need that much validation. i personally already feel i'm special and unique and desireable, and don't need nearly the amount he craves from everyone. you should see how much he loves it that i take lot's of pictures of him.
could someone try to illustrate what you feel, what goes thru your minds with regard to this stuff? and how important is it to get the feedback from an s/o? or do you care when it's someone you live with? is it only the recognition from strangers that counts? do i need to worry about him straying just cause he needs this? love some insight.
(he has ignored several flirtatious emails from strange women on message boards, so that's good to know.)
an aries wifey

since we are emotional creatures we need to have our feelings validated in order for us to know we are being appreciated. it isn't like most people think in that we need constant and continuous reassurance. maybe some who have low self esteem might need that but in general we just need a simple acknowlegement that lets us know you care about us. with most cancers the little things mean the most.

yeah it depends on certain things......a girlfriend i had was like that....always looking for more attention from strangers even though i gave her everything a person could want to make them feel that way.......its more of a rising sign thing i think.....i wonder if he has a fire sign or air sign rising...fire signs in the rising are always looking for more attention. someone new to feed the ego. the thing is..... that u dont get his rising sign behavior....thats for the rest of the world......your gonna get more of his mars sign behavior. being a cancer i do need assurance and to feel those things but i need it the most from the person im with.....if i am all those things to her...attractive, good enough, loved ,etc......i wouldnt care what everyone else thinks. sometimes its nice that

ahhh. his rising sign is sagittarius and his mars is gemini. in fact. when we first met, i assumed he was gemini as he displayed alot of those traits. since i'm aries, we hit it off, i always get on great with gemini. i am aries sun, sag moon, cancer rising and pisces venus. he's cancer sun, gemini moon, and the rest i mentioned above.

actually we get on very well, have a great friendship and are very well matched "physically" with both of us very sensual and driven towards sex. he does display more cancer traits as we've gone on tho. which is fine. i don't give him much reason to pout or worry or feel insecure. i just wonder about this need he has for validation or affirmation from others. he's always saying "i think they actually like me," in this voice that kind of is amazed. i never think that way, but assume everyone likes me. why wouldn't they, i'm wonderful!!!! ha. but he's not really insecure, just doubts his own charisma. one of his worries with me is that i'll eventually find him boring. silly man.