The truth shall set you free!

Well here is an update.....

Never heard from the cancer in regards to my apples....finally figured what the hell why not call its been a week and I am tired of it all and ready to move on....why keep torturing myself over this idiot!

So garbage day is tomorrow and I figured enough of this _hit lets just get on or over with it....so I called...oh and he answered...he knew who it was and I said...well tomorrow is garbage day and It just dawned on me how little respect you have for me....he immediately started to him and haw and said he had lost my number (ok I know what you are thinking I too have read about this in many self help books...lol) so I said oh and you forgot where I worked? stuned silence....his retort was yes I did...was his banker for 2 years..and I said gee glad to see that I am the memorable...anyway I just said a few other things and didn't give him the opportunity to say much else...and then said goodbye...

I feel good and can finally move on....I don't know what his issues are but leokitten you are right he just wasn't that interested!

Its time to call a spade a spade!

Good for you, i admire that u were able to do that. lord knows i wouldnt be able tot ell off a ncer and stick to my guns lol

Thanks....

I think I just finally came to terms with knowing thats its ok to stand up for yourself....even when you are trying to do something nice for someone...I pride myself on following thru on what I say I am going to do...If you don't want to do it just say no thanks or not interested...civil communicatiion is not that hard lol...(or maybe for cancers it is...)why play games and twist people up inside...I know now what I am worth and this was the second time this idiot was going to do this to me and I wasn't going to let it go....it was about much more than apples...

and now I know that when I encounter him....he is a a__hole nothing more nothing less....

harsh, but that is a fact.....

You can do it too....your worth it and thats where you have to start...and remember there is no right or wrong....life is a learning experience 🙂

You're so right Cheeky. Even when things are going good in a relationship the other person might do something that isnt called for or acceptable and you have to set it right....its so much easier when you are confident in what you need and the other person is open to hearing what you're saying, but even if they arent put ya good foot down. Let's crown this "Tell a Cancer Off Day"...j/k.

You just have to believe in yourself and know what you are worth....I think I always knew what I was worth thanks to my parents....I just didn't want to hurt anyone or have them think badly of me....kinda funny coming from a aries....but my dad was a cancer and my mother is a virgo so some of them has certainly rubbed off on me..lol....

At the end of the day I am a nice person and now I am a nice person who is unwilling to let anyone _hit on them without them knowing about it...

Its about time I got more in touch with my feelings....I have been so afraid to show them trying to protect myself and in the end I am just hurting myself more....

cheeky not to change the subject but how was the interaction between your mom and dad? of course i am a cancer and dating another virgo. don't know what the attraction has been between me and virgals..

No problem Cansir....

They had a very loving relationship....my dad really dotted on my mom....they also had other obstacles to overcome....my dad was protestant and my mom is catholic...and my dad was polish and my mom was italian...so really love does overcome all lol

He definately wore the pants but he was very giving and so was she....it was a 50/50 relationship...they were very happy and she is now lost without him (he passed away in 1998)

So Cansir I know I did the right thing....by standing up for myself...from your perspective how would he be feeling at this moment...would it have even phased him?

Actually.....why am I asking.....I don't care how he is feeling lol

Strike that last question LOL!!!!

Wow, I am so glad I am not a Cancer MAN. I mean I know that I can be overly sensitive and/or insensitive at times (if you push the wrong button too much), but DAMN the girls have it out for them. Their heads on are on the chopping block. I have never dated a Cancer guy and hearing this, I probably NEVER will....LOL

lol HG i dont think its that these guys are bad, they're just so desireable and so seemingly "unattainable", only the control freak spoiled women are having problems with this. lol I admit to being one

Sweetest, did you read the link? Uncanny ain't it....

it didnt let me read the part i wanted to, but the book is available at my local library

Well good for you cheeky.

I am not the verbal type, I guess I don't let to many things phase me not with a Cancer man. If he does things he does them, but don't get mad or upset with me when the tables are turned. Believe it or not, he will NOT confront you unless he is REALLY upset about a situation anyways. SO, he lets things slide too, but the difference is he holds grudges and resentment.

However, another thing I can say is YOU cannot RUSH love. You cannot force it. He may have things going on in his life at this present moment that you cannot or should not take personal. Cancer men do seem unattainable, and withdraw a bit, but it is good to just let him withdraw. He will come back around at his own terms and while his is walking side ways, you could be enjoying your life to the fullest.

I don't know cheeky and the rest of you ladies who want to know or care anything about it. I will have to ASK first, but a dear person gave me a website inside of the minds of Cancer men and women who tell you what they are thinking when they will draw, or remain silent or just in general what they think in terms of other people and different situations.

I will ask her can I give it out. I know Cansir, BlackKnoxx, Hotgal, Aces all have been a big, great help and there advice is truly appreciated. But, I have learned alot inside the minds of Cancers from this and how they cope with things in life.

Krobe - I would be very interested to read what's in my mind as well, so if you get permission please do post. Thnx!

You're right about not rushing things Krobe, that's a nail that had finally been pounded into my stubborn Taurus mind. lol

thanks for the insight cheeky..everything says cancer/virgo is a good match but it does also depend on the ppl involved. also sorry to hear about your dad. i am sure he is phased in his own cancer way :-)

No problem Cansir....you have certainly been there and given me insight into what goes on in a cancer mans head!

They were very happy and I am sure he is hurting just as she is....just on a different plane....I believe in that sort of thing also....

So give me some insight into how a cancer feels when they get dumped on....I figure they feel good in a odd sad way....especially the ones that are not inlightened like yourself...

I am just generalizing but some men like to get attention even when its negative attention....low self esteem I suppose!

I think they feel....well she must care otherwise she wouldn't bother getting emotional....

Well its a door closed and now another door can finally open!

Oh and krobe I definately would like the website....education is a good thing and it might gave more insight as to why cancers do that things they do!

I ment give and do the things they do!

cheeky sorry i meant your cancer guy is phased in his own cancer way..lol. well we are stubborn and prideful so we don't take getting dumped on very lightly. he is either plotting his revenge or hiding in his shell..lol

Well he can bring it....cause he can't make me feel bad....he got what he deserved....and it took a lot for me to let my feelings show....

Again I hate to be harsh but sometimes you just have to get down in the dirt and say enough is enough...I usually take the high road and let things go but I just couldn't turn the other cheek again lol....it was time to take a stand and get past thinking that I mattered in anyway to him....

In all fairness I did this to myself....putting my expectations on someone....not fair.....total fantasy.....I thought he was someone who he clearly is not...yes its true he is a cancer...but not all cancers are the same not all aries are the same...we are each a product of our environment....my problem is I think people are going to be like me open caring and wanting to keep people smiling...and by being that way....they would in turn be the same back to me.....I know I am quite naive and I have to remember that unfortunately rarely happens....

he did owe me at the very least common decency.....and really could he not come up with a more plausible excuse....I lost your number...and I forgot where you worked....I didn't even have to make him look stupid....he did that all himself...and yes I am only human...it was good to taste the sweet nectar of revenge....

So if he is plotting his revenge....I say bring it on....I am no longer afraid to tell him what I think and how I feel...and if he feels the need to stoop back down into the gutter I guess I am just going to have to roll up my pants and get right back down in there with him LOL

Cansir I really do thank you for your frankness and your insight....and believe me I don't lump all you cancer men into one.....we are all individuals 🙂