namelesscancer
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The Virgo gal again......
errr. You made this in a Cancer board. If you're looking for answers from Virgo females, i'd suggest posting this in the "Virgo" Board.
Sorry, I can't help, i'm a Cusp Cancer/Leo
Sorry, I can't help, i'm a Cusp Cancer/Leo
i was going to send an e-mail to a cancer that i've been fancying for a while to wish him a good birthday, but in the end decided against it because i don't know him that well (and didn't want him to think that i was weird or anything). so about your v-gal doing that, i would say she's curious/interested. what else has she been doing that might suggest to you that she's interested?
I just get this "feeling"....then again it could well be just in my head 🙂.
Well there is one thing I found a bit odd, she's really into her charity group and invited me to attend a couple of session. She asked what I thought about it, I said it's great but I'll be moving to another country to which she said "but you can come down on weekends". Then in the next meeting she told me to come and attend, to which I said, I'm not gonna be around from next time, but she said to come anyway.
That sorta made me think well, okay maybe she's interested in knowing more about me by interacting in her social group? or maybe she's just being social and introducing me to a wider group of people.
Oh yeah and she does smile when she see's me (I dunno, are virgo's generally friendly - I know I'm not until I know/like the person).
The problem is I can't discern whether she's a friend or more, I've made mistakes in the past (taking friendship for romance) on more than one occasion - through my efforts...changing the nature of the relationship that didnt last very long....so naturally this time around I'm extremely cautious.
Well there is one thing I found a bit odd, she's really into her charity group and invited me to attend a couple of session. She asked what I thought about it, I said it's great but I'll be moving to another country to which she said "but you can come down on weekends". Then in the next meeting she told me to come and attend, to which I said, I'm not gonna be around from next time, but she said to come anyway.
That sorta made me think well, okay maybe she's interested in knowing more about me by interacting in her social group? or maybe she's just being social and introducing me to a wider group of people.
Oh yeah and she does smile when she see's me (I dunno, are virgo's generally friendly - I know I'm not until I know/like the person).
The problem is I can't discern whether she's a friend or more, I've made mistakes in the past (taking friendship for romance) on more than one occasion - through my efforts...changing the nature of the relationship that didnt last very long....so naturally this time around I'm extremely cautious.
"She asked what I thought about it, I said it's great but I'll be moving to another country..."
well then, what do you have to lose? ask her out! she suggested that you can come down on weekends, so obviously she wants to see you, or at least keep in contact with you.
"are virgo's generally friendly - I know I'm not until I know/like the person"
some are, some aren't. to me, it depends on the person. if i get a good vibe from them, i'll smile. if i don't, then well, you get the picture...i need to get to know them otherwise they don't exist to me.
well then, what do you have to lose? ask her out! she suggested that you can come down on weekends, so obviously she wants to see you, or at least keep in contact with you.
"are virgo's generally friendly - I know I'm not until I know/like the person"
some are, some aren't. to me, it depends on the person. if i get a good vibe from them, i'll smile. if i don't, then well, you get the picture...i need to get to know them otherwise they don't exist to me.
"well then, what do you have to lose? ask her out!"
I'm extremly afraid of rejection, the brooding and self-pity after being rejected is miserable, the fear keeps me from taking chances.
I think she's already rejected my asking her out once, it was for coffee, but I know the timing was all bad (it was during work hours). Since then I haven't tried.....I'm just trying to evaluate whether there is a something there before making any real attempts...
I'm extremly afraid of rejection, the brooding and self-pity after being rejected is miserable, the fear keeps me from taking chances.
I think she's already rejected my asking her out once, it was for coffee, but I know the timing was all bad (it was during work hours). Since then I haven't tried.....I'm just trying to evaluate whether there is a something there before making any real attempts...
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I sooooo hate being alone 😢
I sooooo hate being alone 😢
"...the fear keeps me from taking chances."
if you don't take risks, then you're taking the biggest risk of all. nobody likes
rejection, and when you fall, you must learn from it to grow stronger. mull in your
sorrow then dust yourself off and start over. life will be very bland if you lay in a
puddle for too long. if you ask her out and she turns you down, then you know that you
gave it your all and there was nothing else you could do. or you could live for the rest
of your life WONDERING what could've been between the two of you. it's your call. life
is what you make of it. if you don't want to be alone, then make an attempt to not be alone.
"I think she's already rejected my asking her out once, it was for coffee, but I know
the timing was all bad (it was during work hours). Since then I haven't tried.....I'm just
trying to evaluate whether there is a something there before making any real attempts..."
it seems to me that she's giving you a second attempt if i'm reading her virgoan clues
correctly. i don't invite men to my functions unless they're really close friends of mine
or someone i'm interested in. if you're still unsure, then still attempt to see her (on
weekends as she suggested) and see how the relationship blossoms.
if you don't take risks, then you're taking the biggest risk of all. nobody likes
rejection, and when you fall, you must learn from it to grow stronger. mull in your
sorrow then dust yourself off and start over. life will be very bland if you lay in a
puddle for too long. if you ask her out and she turns you down, then you know that you
gave it your all and there was nothing else you could do. or you could live for the rest
of your life WONDERING what could've been between the two of you. it's your call. life
is what you make of it. if you don't want to be alone, then make an attempt to not be alone.
"I think she's already rejected my asking her out once, it was for coffee, but I know
the timing was all bad (it was during work hours). Since then I haven't tried.....I'm just
trying to evaluate whether there is a something there before making any real attempts..."
it seems to me that she's giving you a second attempt if i'm reading her virgoan clues
correctly. i don't invite men to my functions unless they're really close friends of mine
or someone i'm interested in. if you're still unsure, then still attempt to see her (on
weekends as she suggested) and see how the relationship blossoms.
Nameless
Please don't take the following negatively, as I am approaching this the same way I would
with any of my near and dear friends... If you don't like the answer, change the question.
You're brooding, and self destructing over a situation that you have control over yet refuse
to take action. Thought without action IS destructive, you can think yourself into circles
all you want to, but in the end, what will mean most is what you DO about it. I don't know
anyone that takes rejection well, myself included. But this virgo is giving you a doorway
and your mulling yourself into a frenzy instead of seizing the moment. I happen to be friends
with a lot of Virgo's, I myself have a lot of virgo tendancies. And I can tell you that if
you choose not to act on the doorway, you won't stand a chance. Find your self worth in all of
this, stop messing up all that you've worked hard to accomplish, because in the end, no matter
what, you will still have to face yourself.
Understand that I hold all Cancers in high regard mainly because I can relate on an emotional
level. I too suffer bouts of depression, but in the end I've learned that if you don't take
care of yourself- be it in your goals, ambitions, or dreams, no one will... Don't be a victim
of circumstance, not unless that's what you truly want for yourself. You have a tenacious side
use it.....
Best wishes....
Please don't take the following negatively, as I am approaching this the same way I would
with any of my near and dear friends... If you don't like the answer, change the question.
You're brooding, and self destructing over a situation that you have control over yet refuse
to take action. Thought without action IS destructive, you can think yourself into circles
all you want to, but in the end, what will mean most is what you DO about it. I don't know
anyone that takes rejection well, myself included. But this virgo is giving you a doorway
and your mulling yourself into a frenzy instead of seizing the moment. I happen to be friends
with a lot of Virgo's, I myself have a lot of virgo tendancies. And I can tell you that if
you choose not to act on the doorway, you won't stand a chance. Find your self worth in all of
this, stop messing up all that you've worked hard to accomplish, because in the end, no matter
what, you will still have to face yourself.
Understand that I hold all Cancers in high regard mainly because I can relate on an emotional
level. I too suffer bouts of depression, but in the end I've learned that if you don't take
care of yourself- be it in your goals, ambitions, or dreams, no one will... Don't be a victim
of circumstance, not unless that's what you truly want for yourself. You have a tenacious side
use it.....
Best wishes....
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