This cancer man is driving me insane!! Please help

I dated this sweet cancer 3 years ago for a short period but we broke up bc he was going away for school. 3 years later last year he came back from school and we started dating again. I gave up my then-relationship to be with him, but there was a short period when i was seeing them both (the Cancer knew about it) bc i wasn't sure if the cancer was being serious. We've been together for almost a year and a half now but he still blames me for cheating on him in that period. I'm Aries and I would give up everything to be with this cancer man. I even dropped out from Vet school to be with him (he was the most insecure when I left for school.) But there is only so much I can do to save this relationship if he keeps pushing me away. We broke up almost 10 times but always got back together. We lived together and recently got a kitten, but he just kicked me out again!!! Everything was perfect until he had the mood swings. His parents love me and everyone in his family thinks that we will get marry. I could only hid this bitter sweetness under as a "perfect couple". I don't know what to do. I had to leave and stay away for good. It's been a whole week and he hasn't called. He always said he wanted me to be out of his life every time we fought. But he always begged me back. What should I do now??
Thanks everyone.

You basically need to prove yourself to him. If you ever cheat on a Cancer, they're going to hold it against you for the rest of your life, I'm sorry to break it to you. You fucked up, but you MIGHT be able to help slowly get him to trust you again. You cheating on him makes him feel insecure and makes him feel inadequate as a lover since you had to do that. In order to prove to a Cancer that you're the real deal and that you've learned from your mistake, you need to show that with actions, rather than words. It might be another few years before he doesn't hold it against you *as much,* but he's definitely not going to forget it.

Things are going to be shaky for a while, unfortunately. Talking to him about it isn't going to make it better. You guys need to spend a lot of time rebuilding your relationship from the ground up.

I don't expect him to forget it. I just hope that we would get better. I mean he was already getting better. We couldn't go on one day without fighting. Now it's once a month. Before this breakup, he said:"I don't want you to leave. But it has to happen. And I know we'll get back together. I love you. That's never going to change," I'm not sure what he meant. I don't want to wait for something that never happens.

He just assumed I broke up with the other one. He never asked, so at the same time i thought he wasn't serious enough about us. But you see this is so unfair, you can't reason with cancers like this. I tried to tell him i didn't technically cheat on him bc i never agreed to be his girlfriend.

So I left him. We agreed to break up. We also agreed that I take care of the kitten we got together. He was crying so much when I was leaving with the cat. He kept telling me how much he loves me and that will never change. He said I'll always have his heart. That made me really sad. We agree on keeping in touch. I know that we both greed to the break up; but I don't think we agreed to move on. Bc we still tell each other how much we love each other. I realized he really shields up when he feels hurt. But he competletly opened up to me about how much he loves me ; and how much he wanted to take care of me. I told him I understand. His obssection about the past is a part of the love he ha for me. That's why it's as strong. I wanted to suggest being apart for a little see how it goes. Maybe there will be improvement if we don't live together and in each other's ce all the time. But I didn't bc I don't want to make myself pathetic. So none of us said anything. Although his mom said she'll talk to him. She said we shouldn't give up if this is the only problem we have in our relationship.

Please please never drop your goals for ANY man. You are sure to loose them. Men what you the way they met you, never forget that regardless of how much pressure they put on you to change. Once you change for them they lose respect. Strange game they play be you are better suited to a man who likes you for you and supports your goals.

I agree with LunarMaiden. You should never drop your goals to please a man (or your mom, or anybody!). You'll find the right person to start a really good life with, don't worry. Just like you found a guy after he left, you can find another one waaaay better. You'll be wondering what took you so long to move on.

I hope that's the case but there's something really special between. We both thought we were the one and only one in each ither's life. About the giving up the goal, I'm applying for school again. Hopefully can get in and start in Aug. But this means that I have to move away again. I wonder if this is the reason he's acting this way. He's worried I might get invoked with my classmates when I go away for school. By not being in a relationship he's leased stressed. We're talking on the phone still and he's Still really sweet to me. It's jut confusing.

Just wanted to add this: You're all right about not changing yourself for a man. But He's different. He respects what I do, and totally loves the way I am. He never tried to change me. It was my own decision to come back from school. I sometimes blame him for not sticking with me till the end after I sacrificed so much for this relationship. But I know he tried really hard to deal with what happened in the past. He was in pain and the mental torture makes him feel like he's in jail. He know he'll never love another person the way he loves me. But since he can't deal with it he'd rather be alone.
DOES ANYONE THINK when we get older/more mature(I'm 25, he's 27), we'll get back together if we really have this special feeling for each other? Maybe when i come back from school 4 years later.