told him i loved him, he told me he likes me a lot

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by sunniegrrl on Friday, June 16, 2006 and has 2 replies.

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i wrote a note to my cancer boyfriend thanking him for taking me out recently. (I always leave sweet notes for him everywhere.) I signed it I love you. Never done that before but i do love him, and it's been almost seven months, so I thought I was ok.
He responded with an email the next morning that said "hey sorry i didn't write back sooner, it was really hectic around here yesterday, i rewly wish i could say those words back but they get tossed around too much and i just want to make sure i mean em before i say em but i really like you alot so please dont take it the wrong way. talk to you later xoxo."
i have read everywhere on this board that they don't show their feelings, and that i would be the first one to say it, and that it would prolly take some time before i'd hear it back, but i am feeling embarrassed, and hurt, and I don't knwo what to do now. please help.

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Hey Sunnie:
I haven't posted on this board in a while, I come and go like a phantom, lol, but I wanted to respond to what you wrote because I can relate. I have been with a Cancer now for about two years.
I also went through the same thing where I would tell him that I loved him and he wouldn't say it back. He would just remain silent and this went on for several months while we were together. He finally did tell me he loved me back and when he did, I knew he really meant it.
I know that it can be hurtful to not hear those words back, but I suspect that when he does he will mean it. I think that's just one of their characteristics and how they view and process love.
Have confidence in who you are, and don't let that hurt your self-esteem too much ok.
Hope that helps some.