Virgo/Cancer what’s happening?

Hey everyone! So I’m a Virgo (9/21) and he’s a cancer (7/20). We’ve been talking for about a year now and he does this disappearing thing where he won’t talk to me for weeks-months. (I don’t text or try talking to him during these times because I have a life and don’t want to chase him lol). He does alwaysss come back but I just wanted to know why he does this? In all honesty it doesn’t bother me because I’m not the needy gf type, I just want to know if I’m wasting my time. Also, a few days ago he messaged me “if we keep doing this, someone’s going to catch feelings” and I laughed it off & then he said “you’re going to be first” & I said “maybe but you would never know it” & he said “I already know, it’s too late for you” & well I just laughed again because I didn’t know what to say & I got stuck. Did I ruin it? We haven’t talked since (it’s been 2 days).

If he's saying this, he probably has caught some feelings, other wise there's no reason t bring it up. Doesn't seem like anything is ruined.

Posted by saggurl88

If he's saying this, he probably has caught some feelings, other wise there's no reason t bring it up. Doesn't seem like anything is ruined.

Thank you for your reply! I just keep going over the convo in my head & I can’t understand why I didn’t just tell him how I felt right then. Ugh

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Posted by saggurl88

If he's saying this, he probably has caught some feelings, other wise there's no reason to bring it up. Doesn't seem like anything is ruined.

Thank you for your reply! I just keep going over the convo in my head & I can’t understand why I didn’t just tell him how I felt right then. Ugh

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You're welcome. 🙂 Good luck!

I had two relatively long relationships with Virgo ladies.

I'm relatively sure he has feelings for you, the attraction isn't controllable.

The question is, how deep are the feelings. In both my cases they weren't deep enough to endure, on one side or the other.

This will be an ongoing thing ...push/pull circle jerk unless one of you steps up.

Posted by Logger

I had two relatively long relationships with Virgo ladies.

I'm relatively sure he has feelings for you, the attraction isn't controllable.

The question is, how deep are the feelings. In both my cases they weren't deep enough to endure, on one side or the other.

The attraction is insane! I’ve never felt like this about anyone else - it’s weird. The feelings are relatively strong on my side but I’m not sure about his.

Posted by LostinmyMind11

This will be an ongoing thing ...push/pull circle jerk unless one of you steps up.

Well I mean I would totally say something but I don’t want to scare him off lol

>The attraction is insane! I’ve never felt like this about anyone else - it’s weird. The feelings are relatively strong on my side but I’m not sure about his.<



In my case, (I'm 2nd decan Cancer), with Virgo #1, she loved me, but I fell out of love with her after about a yr., and Virgo #2, about 4 years later, I was super infatuated, intense, thought it was love, but she didn't reciprocate. I ended up hurting myself pretty badly over a 4 month thing.

I'm sure you're in for a wild ride, so buckle up.

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We've been "talking" for about a year now.





ok

I’m not exactly sure what you meant by that but please keep your negative comments to yourself.

Thank you.

Posted by Logger

>The attraction is insane! I’ve never felt like this about anyone else - it’s weird. The feelings are relatively strong on my side but I’m not sure about his.<



In my case, (I'm 2nd decan Cancer), with Virgo #1, she loved me, but I fell out of love with her after about a yr., and Virgo #2, about 4 years later, I was super infatuated, intense, thought it was love, but she didn't reciprocate. I ended up hurting myself pretty badly over a 4 month thing.

I'm sure you're in for a wild ride, so buckle up.

Were you with the second Virgo for 4 years or 4 months?

How old are you two?

It sounds a bit immature.

Posted by virgal_perfectionist

How old are you two?

It sounds a bit immature.

It is! We’re both late 20’s.

Posted by Devil

Not. Going. To. Happen. Until. One. Of. You. Opens. Up. And. Is. Honest.

Good luck.

Do you think me opening up would scare him off?

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Posted by Logger

>The attraction is insane! I’ve never felt like this about anyone else - it’s weird. The feelings are relatively strong on my side but I’m not sure about his.<



In my case, (I'm 2nd decan Cancer), with Virgo #1, she loved me, but I fell out of love with her after about a yr., and Virgo #2, about 4 years later, I was super infatuated, intense, thought it was love, but she didn't reciprocate. I ended up hurting myself pretty badly over a 4 month thing.

I'm sure you're in for a wild ride, so buckle up.

Were you with the second Virgo for 4 years or 4 months?

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I was 28 when starting with Virgo # 1, she was 24....and I was 32 with #2, and she was 29.

No. 2 lasted 4-5 months, but it took 12-15 months to get past it.

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Posted by Logger

I had two relatively long relationships with Virgo ladies.

I'm relatively sure he has feelings for you, the attraction isn't controllable.

The question is, how deep are the feelings. In both my cases they weren't deep enough to endure, on one side or the other.

The attraction is insane! I’ve never felt like this about anyone else - it’s weird. The feelings are relatively strong on my side but I’m not sure about his.

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Tell him. Stop the circle jerk. For all you know it's mutual and neither of you want to put yourself out there to find out if the other is interested in trying for more. Just reference the conversation and start from there. You don't need to admit you caught feelings. What you can do is admit you willn't admit that you caught feelings to him lol. Saying "I would like to see more of you on a more consistent basis" is another good one as well.

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Not. Going. To. Happen. Until. One. Of. You. Opens. Up. And. Is. Honest.

Good luck.

Do you think me opening up would scare him off?

He's probably thinking the same thing. Whatever you're doing isn't going anywhere fast. You decide how much you really want this. I lost my chance with a Virgirl. You get to decide how you want this to go. If the Crab can't follow up and decides to bury himself in the sand better to know sooner than continue whatever it is you're doing.

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You’re right. I guess I’ll bring it up the next time he texts me...I’ll keep you updated. Thanks for the advice!

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Posted by Logger

I had two relatively long relationships with Virgo ladies.

I'm relatively sure he has feelings for you, the attraction isn't controllable.

The question is, how deep are the feelings. In both my cases they weren't deep enough to endure, on one side or the other.

The attraction is insane! I’ve never felt like this about anyone else - it’s weird. The feelings are relatively strong on my side but I’m not sure about his.

Tell him. Stop the circle jerk. For all you know it's mutual and neither of you want to put yourself out there to find out if the other is interested in trying for more. Just reference the conversation and start from there. You don't need to admit you caught feelings. What you can do is admit you willn't admit that you caught feelings to him lol. Saying "I would like to see more of you on a more consistent basis" is another good one as well.

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I’m going to bring it up the next time he text me or I see him in person. I’m just ready to know lol. Thanks for the advice!

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Posted by Logger

I had two relatively long relationships with Virgo ladies.

I'm relatively sure he has feelings for you, the attraction isn't controllable.

The question is, how deep are the feelings. In both my cases they weren't deep enough to endure, on one side or the other.

The attraction is insane! I’ve never felt like this about anyone else - it’s weird. The feelings are relatively strong on my side but I’m not sure about his.

Tell him. Stop the circle jerk. For all you know it's mutual and neither of you want to put yourself out there to find out if the other is interested in trying for more. Just reference the conversation and start from there. You don't need to admit you caught feelings. What you can do is admit you willn't admit that you caught feelings to him lol. Saying "I would like to see more of you on a more consistent basis" is another good one as well.

I’m going to bring it up the next time he text me or I see him in person. I’m just ready to know lol. Thanks for the advice!

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I want to say in person would be best. Hang out and bring up the conversation. Don't be emotional heavy about it. Find the excitement and curiosity in finding out. Reframe it in your head to relieve the pressure and tension you may feel. Don't focus on the outcome and wind yourself up Virgo 🤗

So it’s just a talking thing?

Do you see each other in person ever

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So it’s just a talking thing?

Do you see each other in person ever

Yes we see each other, sorry. I meant “talking” as in we’re not exclusive or official. The other night was the first time that I had any indication that he may be into me a little.

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Posted by Logger

I had two relatively long relationships with Virgo ladies.

I'm relatively sure he has feelings for you, the attraction isn't controllable.

The question is, how deep are the feelings. In both my cases they weren't deep enough to endure, on one side or the other.

The attraction is insane! I’ve never felt like this about anyone else - it’s weird. The feelings are relatively strong on my side but I’m not sure about his.

Tell him. Stop the circle jerk. For all you know it's mutual and neither of you want to put yourself out there to find out if the other is interested in trying for more. Just reference the conversation and start from there. You don't need to admit you caught feelings. What you can do is admit you willn't admit that you caught feelings to him lol. Saying "I would like to see more of you on a more consistent basis" is another good one as well.

I’m going to bring it up the next time he text me or I see him in person. I’m just ready to know lol. Thanks for the advice!

I want to say in person would be best. Hang out and bring up the conversation. Don't be emotional heavy about it. Find the excitement and curiosity in finding out. Reframe it in your head to relieve the pressure and tension you may feel. Don't focus on the outcome and wind yourself up Virgo 🤗

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Thank you!!! 🤍

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Posted by LadyNeptune

So it’s just a talking thing?

Do you see each other in person ever

Yes we see each other, sorry. I meant “talking” as in we’re not exclusive or official. The other night was the first time that I had any indication that he may be into me a little.

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In what capacity?

As a friends hangout vibes? Do you kick it solo. Is there sex, kissing, cuddling involved?

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Posted by LadyNeptune

So it’s just a talking thing?

Do you see each other in person ever

Yes we see each other, sorry. I meant “talking” as in we’re not exclusive or official. The other night was the first time that I had any indication that he may be into me a little.

In what capacity?

As a friends hangout vibes? Do you kick it solo. Is there sex, kissing, cuddling involved?

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No it feels like something more, he’ll take me out to dinner then we’ll go back to my place & cuddle/kiss. We haven’t had sex yet.

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Posted by LadyNeptune

So it’s just a talking thing?

Do you see each other in person ever

Yes we see each other, sorry. I meant “talking” as in we’re not exclusive or official. The other night was the first time that I had any indication that he may be into me a little.

In what capacity?

As a friends hangout vibes? Do you kick it solo. Is there sex, kissing, cuddling involved?

No it feels like something more, he’ll take me out to dinner then we’ll go back to my place & cuddle/kiss. We haven’t had sex yet.

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Ok I keep having more questions 😆

So a year of romantic dinner dates, kisses and cuddles...but no peen in vag?

Are you religious? Or is there some particular reason your waiting to fuck?

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Posted by LadyNeptune

So it’s just a talking thing?

Do you see each other in person ever

Yes we see each other, sorry. I meant “talking” as in we’re not exclusive or official. The other night was the first time that I had any indication that he may be into me a little.

In what capacity?

As a friends hangout vibes? Do you kick it solo. Is there sex, kissing, cuddling involved?

No it feels like something more, he’ll take me out to dinner then we’ll go back to my place & cuddle/kiss. We haven’t had sex yet.

Ok I keep having more questions 😆

So a year of romantic dinner dates, kisses and cuddles...but no peen in vag?

Are you religious? Or is there some particular reason your waiting to fuck?

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Lmao no! Nothing religious it’s just we’ve only actually seen each other 5-6 times between the weeks-months of no contact. Whenever I feel like I’m ready to sleep with him he disappears 🥴

Posted by Anothervirgo

Hey everyone! So I’m a Virgo (9/21) and he’s a cancer (7/20). We’ve been talking for about a year now and he does this disappearing thing where he won’t talk to me for weeks-months. (I don’t text or try talking to him during these times because I have a life and don’t want to chase him lol). He does alwaysss come back but I just wanted to know why he does this? In all honesty it doesn’t bother me because I’m not the needy gf type, I just want to know if I’m wasting my time. Also, a few days ago he messaged me “if we keep doing this, someone’s going to catch feelings” and I laughed it off & then he said “you’re going to be first” & I said “maybe but you would never know it” & he said “I already know, it’s too late for you” & well I just laughed again because I didn’t know what to say & I got stuck. Did I ruin it? We haven’t talked since (it’s been 2 days).

I'm a Cancer man and I believe he might have feelings for you. By him telling you that, seems like he's taking a cautious approach and is hoping you tell him that you feel something for him. Maybe then he can fully express his feelings towards you.

Posted by Arielle83

I’m a cancer, and the fact that there seems to be nothing going on, I will disappear and do what I want. He doesn’t need to chase or entertain you. You haven’t told him you want him to.

We met on a dating app but we live 45 minutes from each other. We’ve met in person numerous times.

I didn’t say that he needed to chase or entertain me lol. I just wanted to know a cancers opinion on what he may be getting at by bringing up feelings. It just seemed out of place because he’s never indicated he wanted anything serious with me, unless were joking about getting married.

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Hey everyone! So I’m a Virgo (9/21) and he’s a cancer (7/20). We’ve been talking for about a year now and he does this disappearing thing where he won’t talk to me for weeks-months. (I don’t text or try talking to him during these times because I have a life and don’t want to chase him lol). He does alwaysss come back but I just wanted to know why he does this? In all honesty it doesn’t bother me because I’m not the needy gf type, I just want to know if I’m wasting my time. Also, a few days ago he messaged me “if we keep doing this, someone’s going to catch feelings” and I laughed it off & then he said “you’re going to be first” & I said “maybe but you would never know it” & he said “I already know, it’s too late for you” & well I just laughed again because I didn’t know what to say & I got stuck. Did I ruin it? We haven’t talked since (it’s been 2 days).

I'm a Cancer man and I believe he might have feelings for you. By him telling you that, seems like he's taking a cautious approach and is hoping you tell him that you feel something for him. Maybe then he can fully express his feelings towards you.

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That’s what I’m hoping he was doing, but it’s been almost a week and we haven’t talked since - albeit I haven’t tried talking to him. (I don’t know how to follow up after that convo)

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I’m a cancer, and the fact that there seems to be nothing going on, I will disappear and do what I want. He doesn’t need to chase or entertain you. You haven’t told him you want him to.

We met on a dating app but we live 45 minutes from each other. We’ve met in person numerous times.

I didn’t say that he needed to chase or entertain me lol. I just wanted to know a cancers opinion on what he may be getting at by bringing up feelings. It just seemed out of place because he’s never indicated he wanted anything serious with me, unless were joking about getting married.

He’s teasing. It’s shit talk. He thinks you like him and boosting your ego, planting the seed so you give him attention. He will come and go as he pleases because there is nothing holding him there. Plus cancers aren’t big on texting.

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He just doesn’t seem like that type of guy. (I’m aware I may be in denial - which is why I’m here.) I’m going to bring it up the next time he calls.

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Hey everyone! So I’m a Virgo (9/21) and he’s a cancer (7/20). We’ve been talking for about a year now and he does this disappearing thing where he won’t talk to me for weeks-months. (I don’t text or try talking to him during these times because I have a life and don’t want to chase him lol). He does alwaysss come back but I just wanted to know why he does this? In all honesty it doesn’t bother me because I’m not the needy gf type, I just want to know if I’m wasting my time. Also, a few days ago he messaged me “if we keep doing this, someone’s going to catch feelings” and I laughed it off & then he said “you’re going to be first” & I said “maybe but you would never know it” & he said “I already know, it’s too late for you” & well I just laughed again because I didn’t know what to say & I got stuck. Did I ruin it? We haven’t talked since (it’s been 2 days).

I'm a Cancer man and I believe he might have feelings for you. By him telling you that, seems like he's taking a cautious approach and is hoping you tell him that you feel something for him. Maybe then he can fully express his feelings towards you.

That’s what I’m hoping he was doing, but it’s been almost a week and we haven’t talked since - albeit I haven’t tried talking to him. (I don’t know how to follow up after that convo)

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Just reach out to him with something simple and go from there.

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Hey everyone! So I’m a Virgo (9/21) and he’s a cancer (7/20). We’ve been talking for about a year now and he does this disappearing thing where he won’t talk to me for weeks-months. (I don’t text or try talking to him during these times because I have a life and don’t want to chase him lol). He does alwaysss come back but I just wanted to know why he does this? In all honesty it doesn’t bother me because I’m not the needy gf type, I just want to know if I’m wasting my time. Also, a few days ago he messaged me “if we keep doing this, someone’s going to catch feelings” and I laughed it off & then he said “you’re going to be first” & I said “maybe but you would never know it” & he said “I already know, it’s too late for you” & well I just laughed again because I didn’t know what to say & I got stuck. Did I ruin it? We haven’t talked since (it’s been 2 days).

I'm a Cancer man and I believe he might have feelings for you. By him telling you that, seems like he's taking a cautious approach and is hoping you tell him that you feel something for him. Maybe then he can fully express his feelings towards you.

That’s what I’m hoping he was doing, but it’s been almost a week and we haven’t talked since - albeit I haven’t tried talking to him. (I don’t know how to follow up after that convo)

Just reach out to him with something simple and go from there.

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You make it seem so easy 😂

**Update**

So, 6 days after that last conversation I text him asking if he wanted to hangout and he replied “can’t this weekend sorry”.

He’s never this short with me so I’m assuming he’s in one of his moods.

It’s kind of off putting because I felt like we could have been getting somewhere...

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Hey everyone! So I’m a Virgo (9/21) and he’s a cancer (7/20). We’ve been talking for about a year now and he does this disappearing thing where he won’t talk to me for weeks-months. (I don’t text or try talking to him during these times because I have a life and don’t want to chase him lol). He does alwaysss come back but I just wanted to know why he does this? In all honesty it doesn’t bother me because I’m not the needy gf type, I just want to know if I’m wasting my time. Also, a few days ago he messaged me “if we keep doing this, someone’s going to catch feelings” and I laughed it off & then he said “you’re going to be first” & I said “maybe but you would never know it” & he said “I already know, it’s too late for you” & well I just laughed again because I didn’t know what to say & I got stuck. Did I ruin it? We haven’t talked since (it’s been 2 days).

No you didn't ruin anything. You guys are just flirty friends. You aren't serious bf/gf.

This is perfectly normal.

If you want to be more serious and consistent you have to tell him you want to see if things could really work between you.

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Thanks for your reply!

I actually contacted him yesterday because I wanted to tel him in person but all he said was “can’t this weekend sorry”.