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Well since I last posted information on my "cancer" man. Things have got better, but seem to be at a idle now. I backed off, and he came around. Now he is wanting more, and the part of me he is wanting I am afraid to show. He has a REALLY nice house, and it makes me feel ashamed of mine. I know, sounds crazy doesn't it? I should not feel that way lol, but compared to his I would feel awkward for him coming here, and that is something I have not took the next step in doing is inviting him to my place. I always went to his, or met him out. So your advice on this situation would be most appreciated.

The "love" thing has went into over drive, and he out right told me he wants more and a lot more. Am I willing to give it? I feel like yeah I could, but for some reason, and this is the part I do not understand. When we are together it's AWESOME, but when we are not, it is like he is in some other world telling me when I want more to let him know, the he feels like I do not. How much work does a girl have to do , in order to convince a man that this IS what she wants and she is trying her best to let him know that when she is with him?..I mean do I have to rope the flippen moon and hand it to him? lol

just tell him that after seeing his house you are a little emberrased for him to come to yours..let him be the one to say it doesn't matter cause i like you not what you own. if it were me as long as you kept it clean i wouldn't mind. but i can say if he really likes you then he isn't going to mind..

Well, I mean my house isn't a dump, but it isn't as fancy as his. I am insecure when people I am in a relationship has more than I do. Materialistic me is that way. I am to a sense but not in a bad way if that makes any sense at all. He told me he once dated a girl, and he went to her house for the first time, and never went back. He said while he was there, he had to wash HER dishes, because he could not take it. Apparently there was mold on the dishes!! ( Ew I know). Now that would be a just cause not to go back, but then again if he was dating her, why would that be such a factor. I could understand the whole clean thing, but still. Makes me think well if my house does not suit you, then you are gone?


Yeah he does he care for me I can see that now. All the worry is at ease on that now. I tried something with him to see what he would do. ( Yes I tested him) I would not answer him when we got in a deep subject, he blew the cell up texting me. Then when he said plz talk to me I did. Later that night he told me that he realized how much he did care about me, because when I was not responding to him drove him crazy at the thought of never seeing me again. So it worked well. I just have never felt this way about nobody but my ex husband, and swore I would never let anyone else in. I was doing good too. Nobody was able to penetrate the walls I had up, but he shook the damn foundation. I feel at ease when I am with him, and loved. Something I realized I missed feeling. I am happy to say we are B/f & G/f. I burnt my bridges, and he did his while I was in front of him,and he even had me to tell a few of the girls that he was off the market. Which was kinda fun, until one gal started crying on me over him. I was sitting there like UMMMMMMMMM WTF..I looked at him like how long had u been seeing her, and he said before I first met you 4 months. So she was in love with him, and I just broke a heart, then he got on the cell and said I am sorry for hurting you, but my soul mate is standing in front of me. I was like awwwww..Who does that? lol

LK yeah he does. We are spending together with his son on x-mas .

"I burnt my bridges, and he did his while I was in front of him,and he even had me to tell a few of the girls that he was off the market. Which was kinda fun, until one gal started crying on me over him. I was sitting there like UMMMMMMMMM WTF..I looked at him like how long had u been seeing her, and he said before I first met you 4 months. So she was in love with him, and I just broke a heart, then he got on the cell and said I am sorry for hurting you, but my soul mate is standing in front of me. I was like awwwww..Who does that? lol"

If he did that to them, you will be done that way as well...I see so many red flags in your post but I believe your a big girl and you need to go through this with him...I know I have learned many lessons in my llife and a man like this will teach you LOL!

And just so you know if the word love has been whispered that's a huge red flag, you don't know him and no amount of saying you do equals knowing him...I truly wish you the best...yet I feel your going to crash and burn, I hope I'm wrong

I mean do I have to rope the flippen moon and hand it to him?

LOLOLOLOL !

I think you may have to --- joking !

seriously, what are you really worried about? if it's your house then that's not a relationship issue, it's more self-esteem I think, no? 😕

why do people test people? 🙂 always been curious about that - moonie baby, please be a dearie and start a thread asking that question *muah* 😛 common you star like a million threads !

zenalchemy prob so a self esteem issue. ...I don't know about others but I test to see if they mean what they say or do.

Tikki...I hope you are wrong as well babydoll. All I know is how I am feeling, and when I am with him I feel like I am on cloud 9.

you know we got your back, I def hope I'm wrong, I want someone to have the great relationship life on the cancer board d:

always is with us cancers..lol

Moon its over the house thing. He has plenty of money and I am not well off by any means. Makes me feel like uncomfy I guess is a way to put it, I am just scared to of feeling like this. Not use to it, and it's been so long that I forgot what it felt like to be really happy. I spent what seemed like forever getting over what my ex- husband put me through, that I gave up. Now Mr right is here I am like a bundle of nerves.

Like tonight, he told me to come over, but he was sick, and he said I want to see you but I don't want to get you sick and I am not going to be much fun. I said no you rest, but it took him 10 text to convince me I wasn't going to bother him if I came. So I brought him home made chicken noodle soup and cuddled him till he fell asleep, and I snuck out. I don't want to do anything to mess this one up. I have waited to long on him to arrive!


Tikki thanks its nice to know hun

I too see many red flags but once a woman has BELIEVED in a man there is nothing we can say, all the red flags go out the window and the woman allows herself to get deeply involved no matter what, once a woman ignores that gut feeling to get out, slow down their's not much any of us can say, I know this guy is moving to fast especially using love, I hope for the best and brace for the worst because he has shown too many behaviors that say he can't be trusted.

She is in it honey, there is no turning back LOL, she's going to cook and play house and once she lay eyes on that baby, she is HOOKED in and boound to them both. I would have high tailed it a couple weeks ago but I believe when a woman hits a certain age, she wants what doesn't exist but will do anything to try and have it anyway.

well most likely there was an issue of abuse, physical abuse, there is a restraining order in place and if libragal would go to the courthouse she could pull public records to find out more about this situation, if there is an appointed drop off that means restraining order. I wouldn't be suprised if there was infedility involved in this situation on his part, FACTS she needs facts before falling in love, facts and truth

well maybe libragal needs something instant, she needs an instant connection/relationship because she's feeling vulnerable, she's afraid of being single again and I'm sure fears of being alone and lonely is the primary driving force for allowing her emotions to take presedence over logic. This is why I say she's going to crash and burn, she's going to look back and wish she had paced herself instead of choosing to fall in love, she's had ample time to back up and slow down, but being newly single this could be a huge learning experience for her, I don't see longevity in this relationship but it could be a learning tool to know what NOT to do in future relationships

again there is a restraining order in place if the drop off isn't his home, which means some kind of abuse was being played out most likely on his end...look before you leap

this man is rebounding, his wounds are still fresh, drama is still fresh, he's not THINKING at all okay, if he was he would take his time, wait 6 months to make sure libragal truly is the one and go slow with it...men that rush are HIDING something, men that confess love quickly are up to no good... He don't KNOW her from a can of paint to say the word love or have her around his child, he's by passing dating her and going stright into instant relationship which means this will be over just as fast as it began IF she doesn't slow down...she will be slapped with a restraining order too if his ex finds out that she's been around her child, she will suddenly be enemy #1 and involved with something she knows nothing about...if he loves her now he will love her AFTER the divorce is final..I would stay away until things are finalized...if his ex finds out, he's going to be out of pocket

well libragal is going to feel the rage of the baby's mama's wrath if she doesn't play her cards right....the minute BM gets a whiff of her around her child, all hell is going to break loose

lol@illogical, all I can say is she better be ready for the illogical rage that comes with these kind of issues, this is why it's so important that her foundation with him is very strong before meeting and forming a bond with his child.

i have to agree with kitten and the other ladies about Xmas with him and his child. your guy should be putting his child ahead of himself and ahead of you.

children of divorce have so many changes to absorb.....change of residences to accommodate changes in their relationships with their parents, declining involvement of one of the parents etc. he needs to build on a relationship with his child and not bring more confusion with new relationships into the mix at this early stage. what if you meet the child and things don't work out? the child is already likley dealing with abandonment issues. try and think of this man's child first.

LG~~~ where are you? what happened?

he had *YOU* tell his girls he was off the market?

I'm sorry - there's something about that, that is WAY wrong. One woman was in love with him and he cared about her feelings enough to let another woman doing his rejection for her?

I personally believe, that people are true to their core. If he can be that insensitive to one woman's heart - he's capable of being indifferent to yours. Sorry, that's a huge red flag.

I mean what if that were you that was blind-sighted by a text from another woman telling you, he was off the market?