What do cancers do in hostile situations

Hi, again.
This time I wanna know what you/we crabs do in hostile situations, like say for instance your friends turn against you or your best friend is friends with your enemies and s(h)e isn't trustworthy anymore or has fake smiles all of a sudden. Do you go in 'shell-time' do you fight back ( against hostile attacks ) I wanna know what you do.
Thnx

That's not a hostile situation...those are just shitty decisions people make.

A hostile situation to me is if someone is trying to harm me and I have to beat the living daylights out of them!

But to stay on topic...

If my best friend was friends with my enemies and turned fake like that then they weren't my best friend to start with. They were just frontin' so fuck 'em! I let go of that type of shit too easily (I'm not a typical crab). I can make new friends and forget about them in a blink of an eye. They will learn WHY those people were my enemies when they get burned later on down the road and when they come crawling back, they won't get my sympathy. "GO FUCK YOURSELF!" is my motto!

Same goes for friends who turn against me...FUCK 'EM! Life is too short to be worried about shit like that. You don't like me...oh fuckin' well LOL!!! I'm going through that shit right now and I'm saying, "FUCK 'EM" with a smile on my face! LOL!

Some crabs I know will be hurt, but at the end of the day...why fight for someone to be on your team or not? Fuck 'em I say! This ain't high school! LOL!!!

Posted by PurrrrHissss
I flat-out ask them why they're behaving that way.

but they can still lie and say there is nothing wrong !!!

Posted by Sarinka_Moon
That's not a hostile situation...those are just shitty decisions people make.

A hostile situation to me is if someone is trying to harm me and I have to beat the living daylights out of them!

But to stay on topic...

If my best friend was friends with my enemies and turned fake like that then they weren't my best friend to start with. They were just frontin' so fuck 'em! I let go of that type of shit too easily (I'm not a typical crab). I can make new friends and forget about them in a blink of an eye. They will learn WHY those people were my enemies when they get burned later on down the road and when they come crawling back, they won't get my sympathy. "GO FUCK YOURSELF!" is my motto!

Same goes for friends who turn against me...FUCK 'EM! Life is too short to be worried about shit like that. You don't like me...oh fuckin' well LOL!!! I'm going through that shit right now and I'm saying, "FUCK 'EM" with a smile on my face! LOL!

Some crabs I know will be hurt, but at the end of the day...why fight for someone to be on your team or not? Fuck 'em I say! This ain't high school! LOL!!!

I understand what ur saying......................and lol to the -html-version of this now I understand the 'new'words: treetrunk and butter 🙂

So what ur saying is that ur very fast in ending the relationship if ur friend turns secretly hostile/false ?
Then u didn't love ur friend enough to forgive them !!Or work it out

I gave my best -friend 2nd chances and the last time she blew it.......................NOW IT'S OVER !! 4-REAL.
She takes me for granted !!

People have that misconception about Crabs and holding on for life. Nope, nope, nope! As a young Cancer, yes I took a lot of shit and gave chance after chance. I'd also spend large amounts of time asking myself why, why why.... would someone do/treat me that way.
Draining. Exhausting. Not worth it.

Now, I am more about the "FUCK EM" way of thinking... but am trying to find a balance between brash and tact. I have told many so called friends to fuck off in the last few years and they have been replaced by more interesting and integral people. Leaves me thinking... "Why the hell did I wait so long?"

I recently told my mother and brother to "FUCK OFF", a first for me and the final frontier for this Crab. They like to put me in highly emotion situations or drop bombs on me, then wait for me to react. This puts me on the defensive while they maintain an offensive position. If I explode, they guilt me for my emotions rather than address the problem and manipulate from their advantage. If I don't react, they like to pretend like everything is fine and hope it all just goes away.
This time, I didn't react emotionally , I just cut through the bullshit and told them what I thought in a cold, logical manner.... then walked away while their mouths hit the floor.

I stayed silent, while they tried to pick apart my delivery, calling me rude and disrespectful.... once again ignoring the truth of the situation. I just stayed silent.

Weeks later, they were still in disbelief because shellshocker is not being emotional or reacting. She's just going about her life not giving a FUCK!

Then guess what I got from them... two apologies!!! They actually addressed the pink elephant they tried to step around and apologized for the position they put me in. WTF?

Look! I just saw a pig fly by my window!

@Storm:

"Didn't love my friend enough to forgive?!?!!!?" I wouldn't have anything to "forgive" if they loved me enough not to turn into a shady individual! Ain't shit TO forgive! Usually when people turn on you they will do it again if you "forgive them." They will try to SEEM like they have changed, but know you will ALWAYS forgive if they do you wrong! NO WAY! If it's not intentional...that's ONE thing. You can forgive a mistake, but the shit you're talking about..."FUCK 'EM!" They are NOT worth my time OR my love (or anyone else's for that matter)! I'm quick to wash my hands of bullshit...I don't like the smell 😉

Now in your case, when a person starts to feel taken for granted you can either A: Hash out your issues w/ the other person (if you feel like it's worth salvaging) or B: You already know what I'm gonna say LOL!!! You gave your friend two chances to fuck you over. That's unfortunate for you, but at least now you can delete her from your life and find BETTER people to be around. Next time...be the reader and not the open book so you know who you are dealing with. Good luck to you! 🙂

@SS...your family sounds like bullies and I'm not trying to be disrespectful either. Sorry they do that to you 😢 but GOOD JOB for telling them to KICK ROCKS! 🙂

Posted by shellshocker


I recently told my mother and brother to "FUCK OFF", a first for me and the final frontier for this Crab. They like to put me in highly emotion situations or drop bombs on me, then wait for me to react. This puts me on the defensive while they maintain an offensive position. If I explode, they guilt me for my emotions rather than address the problem and manipulate from their advantage. If I don't react, they like to pretend like everything is fine and hope it all just goes away.

Wow.........you told ur mother and brother that ? Ur strong and for me to do such a thing.;then they must have really pushed you to the limit......................well I must be honest I told some of my family the same, we haven't spoken in years !!! 🙂
Good luck to you, I kinda understand you

Posted by Sarinka_Moon
@Storm:

"Didn't love my friend enough to forgive?!?!!!?" I wouldn't have anything to "forgive" if they loved me enough not to turn into a shady individual! Ain't shit TO forgive! Usually when people turn on you they will do it again if you "forgive them." They will try to SEEM like they have changed, but know you will ALWAYS forgive if they do you wrong! NO WAY! If it's not intentional...that's ONE thing. You can forgive a mistake, but the shit you're talking about..."FUCK 'EM!" They are NOT worth my time OR my love (or anyone else's for that matter)! I'm quick to wash my hands of bullshit...I don't like the smell 😉

I understand: A mistake is a mistake but doing things intentionally is something different. Usually I don't believe in best friends ( they are all false ) but my recent BF knows I'm threw with her because she is the one contacting me..............I'm just moody with her. SHe the false one constantly saying how I'm like a sis to her and she loves me...........but F $ % ^ she is also the one talking behind my back negatively so F..... it !!
thnx

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Posted by PurrrrHissss
I flat-out ask them why they're behaving that way.

but they can still lie and say there is nothing wrong !!!

Yes, but I can usually tell by the way they say it if they're lying.

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And do you shy away or attackwhen the time is right !! 😉

@Storm: What's her sign? She sounds EXACTLY like someone I had to kick to the curb while back! Same fake ass "like a sister" shit then running her mouth about me. You can pretty much guess what happened after that LOL!!!

If you're done...just be DONE! Delete her from your life and get some new kick ass friends and soon you won't even remember her name! 🙂

Posted by shellshocker

Now, I am more about the "FUCK EM" way of thinking... but I am trying to find a balance between brash and tact. I have told many so called friends to fuck off in the last few years and they have been replaced by more interesting and integral people. Leaves me thinking... "Why the hell did I wait so long?"

I am a Cancer who is trying to enter the "self actualized" phase of his life as well. I am working on that balance between brash/tact in my emotion/anger and replacing alot of people in my life with ones who I feel are better role models for me going into my 30's. I had alot of friends that filled a need for me at a certain point in life and I still tried to remain friends with them even though it was a lost cause. I am starting to realize just to move on and not try to make a salad out of old lettuce.

I think sometimes a Cancer will go after the underdog type of friend early on because you think they will be loyal to you for the longrun and appreciate you being there for them, yet later on they turn out to be such unappreciative people who drop you once they have a better situation come along for them. I guess it serves us right for our emotional manipulation in friendship even though some people truly appreciate our loyalty streak.

interesting topic storm, well, depending on the severity of the dilemma, cancerians can go either way,
one (most popular) is to shrug off the incident, and keep it within our shell. We instantly make a future plan, and like sarinka moon said it best we'll "fuck'em", leave them for a while.

the other means is the dark side, a deviant rage that you don't want to exhibit. we can turn a lake into an abrupt tsunami.
again depending on the severity. I have witnessed this myself as well as with other cancerians, we will hold the individual in contempt, we will be burning, and boiling inside/outside while displaying our frustrations. the person on the other side will pretty much get the point from seeing our faces, and will most undoubtly back the fuck off.

On very rare occasion, the person on the other side won't get the point, and continue their actions. thats when we snap, we can turn pretty violent, much more than any other sign, think "Mike Tyson" on a vengeance. no matter what our size, and strength, we will exhibit an enormous amount of strength and physically assault the individual in a matter of a few short but rather super strong blows. which is no wonder why there are more cancerians in jail than any other sign.

I had some tough times growing up in a public school in NYC in the 90s, and was picked on by this bully one day who was 2 desks behind me, he was spitting paper balls through a straw and getting me from the back of my head, over, and over and over again. the teacher knew and didn't do a damn thing. I eventually got up, lifted my desk up with one hand and threw it at his face at a speed that he didn't even know it was coming, he went unconscious for 2 hours, I was mortified.

Posted by highlander
interesting topic storm, well, depending on the severity of the dilemma, cancerians can go either way,
one (most popular) is to shrug off the incident, and keep it within our shell. We instantly make a future plan, and like sarinka moon said it best we'll "fuck'em", leave them for a while.

the other means is the dark side, a deviant rage that you don't want to exhibit. we can turn a lake into an abrupt tsunami.
again depending on the severity. I have witnessed this myself as well as with other cancerians, we will hold the individual in contempt, we will be burning, and boiling inside/outside while displaying our frustrations. the person on the other side will pretty much get the point from seeing our faces, and will most undoubtly back the fuck off.

On very rare occasion, the person on the other side won't get the point, and continue their actions. thats when we snap, we can turn pretty violent, much more than any other sign, think "Mike Tyson" on a vengeance. no matter what our size, and strength, we will exhibit an enormous amount of strength and physically assault the individual in a matter of a few short but rather super strong blows. which is no wonder why there are more cancerians in jail than any other sign.

I had some tough times growing up in a public school in NYC in the 90s, and was picked on by this bully one day who was 2 desks behind me, he was spitting paper balls through a straw and getting me from the back of my head, over, and over and over again. the teacher knew and didn't do a damn thing. I eventually got up, lifted my desk up with one hand and threw it at his face at a speed that he didn't even know it was coming, he went unconscious for 2 hours, I was mortified.

I've been to this point as well. I actually scare myself when it has happened on rare accounts 😢 Strength I have no idea where it comes from and rage that is nothing but seeing red. And completely agree it only happens when the other person just doesn't get it and repeats their actions and where I have been pushed beyond comprehension. Or too, through passion this can erupt.

Thank you Legend of the Falls!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Fuck'em all!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I've been there too Ocean and High, but I don't feel bad about it because they had it coming! I mean c'mon...how many times do we have to say, "Chill the fuck out or you're going to regret it" before we actually pop off and they get what's comin' to 'em! Yeah...the little insignificant situations can be brushed off without batting an eyelash, but people LOOOOOOOOOOVE to fuck with us Cancers don't they?! They ALWAYS think because some of us are quiet, we can be fucked with or fucked over or fuckedwhicheverwaytheywanttofuckwithus! PFFFT! There's a "crazy crab" in all of us LOL!!!

But I have noticed though that most Cancers don't give warnings...just BOOM! Fire and brimstone. Unlike those crabs, I scream at the top of my lungs like a banshee and go head first into battle. Claws extended. Eyes wild. And the rest...well...think "Chicago" and the song "He had it comin'!" LOL!

All I can say in regards to that part of us is I never blow up unless it's justified and at least ONE warning has been given. And it's a stern, straight to the point warning. Not that indirect no eye contact bullshit! I like to be courteous before I go ape shit on someone LOL!!!

Posted by Claire
I'll fight if I have to stick up for someone close to me.

So you will not fight for urself —?

Posted by Sarinka_Moon
@Storm: What's her sign? She sounds EXACTLY like someone I had to kick to the curb while back! Same fake ass "like a sister" shit then running her mouth about me. You can pretty much guess what happened after that LOL!!!

If you're done...just be DONE! Delete her from your life and get some new kick ass friends and soon you won't even remember her name! 🙂

Her birthday is on 9th oct ..............and she is always telling me how much she adores me as a friend, NOT ME !!If I am friends with someone I just take it cool; I NEVER say ur my best friend ..I SHOW YOU WITH MY ACTIONS I GIVE YOU MY LOVE..........I'm there when you need me etc.

I've had friends turn against me, and just simply had to move on and continue life without them. These same friends have tried to become friends with me again, several times over the years and I've declined, ignored, and had to snap on this bitch one good time to let her know. Life goes on. I have a good solid group of friends/confidentials very few but enough for me. I have learned to live life being independent on certain things such as happiness. I don't depend on other ppl for that.

Posted by prettyladii
I've had friends turn against me, and just simply had to move on and continue life without them. These same friends have tried to become friends with me again, several times over the years and I've declined, ignored, and had to snap on this bitch one good time to let her know. Life goes on. I have a good solid group of friends/confidentials very few but enough for me. I have learned to live life being independent on certain things such as happiness. I don't depend on other ppl for that.

Ur sooo right, I've learned one thing : Don't expect anything from people ,expect a lot from urself and expect everything from GOD................!
thnx

I am not a Cancer, but a while back one of my best friends at the time was a Cancer, and he was very aggressive and sometimes verbally abusive. He was incredibly abrasive about being disagreed with or felt attacked when someone made any comments about something he did/did not like. He was just rude. He was very expressive about it, but if he felt pushed too far, he would be very extreme in his verbal abuse. Not a pretty sight.

Posted by highlander
interesting topic storm, well, depending on the severity of the dilemma, cancerians can go either way,
one (most popular) is to shrug off the incident, and keep it within our shell. We instantly make a future plan, and like sarinka moon said it best we'll "fuck'em", leave them for a while.

the other means is the dark side, a deviant rage that you don't want to exhibit. we can turn a lake into an abrupt tsunami.
again depending on the severity. I have witnessed this myself as well as with other cancerians, we will hold the individual in contempt, we will be burning, and boiling inside/outside while displaying our frustrations. the person on the other side will pretty much get the point from seeing our faces, and will most undoubtly back the fuck off.

On very rare occasion, the person on the other side won't get the point, and continue their actions. thats when we snap, we can turn pretty violent, much more than any other sign, think "Mike Tyson" on a vengeance. no matter what our size, and strength, we will exhibit an enormous amount of strength and physically assault the individual in a matter of a few short but rather super strong blows. which is no wonder why there are more cancerians in jail than any other sign.

I had some tough times growing up in a public school in NYC in the 90s, and was picked on by this bully one day who was 2 desks behind me, he was spitting paper balls through a straw and getting me from the back of my head, over, and over and over again. the teacher knew and didn't do a damn thing. I eventually got up, lifted my desk up with one hand and threw it at his face at a speed that he didn't even know it was coming, he went unconscious for 2 hours, I was mortified.

I totally Identify with this... In sixth grade I was bullied constantly by a kid and his group of friends day in day out for about a month or so and I tried my best to take it and just move on but he kept pushing my buttons . I went to my parents and told them about the situation and the fact that no one was doing anything to make him stop. They told me to fight back and stand up for myself and that I wouldn't be punished for doing so. So the at lunch time the next day he started up terrorizing me and I calmly asked him to step out side and we would handle this . I made sure he threw the first blow and I proceeded to savage the kid. I lost all control fo

My advice to anyone about to argue with a Cancer (regardless of sex) by DECAN:

Decan I: Expect a civil discussion

Decan II: Expect everything, including the damn kitchen sink, to be relentlessly thrown at you IN ORDER TO PREVENT ANY POSSIBLE DIFFERENCE OF OPINION FROM BEING HEARD.

Decan III: Expect a civil discussion

That is all.

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Posted by Claire
I'll fight if I have to stick up for someone close to me.

So you will not fight for urself —?

Not really, I see it as pointless. Unless someone is physically coming over to me with their arms flailing about and I have to protect myself. 🙂

Or if I have to write a few letters and make a few phone calls to rectify a financial mix-up.

Socially, I only really pay mind to people I know I can trust 100% so situations don't tend to arise in that area of life where I might have to fight or stick up for myself. If someone close to me or family members do a 180 on me and communication & compromise isn't helping then I just leave them to it.

Oh, I should probably point out that I really don't care if someone chooses to dog me or chat behind my back. Like I don't care about it at all. Some family members did this for about 5 months early on this year and I ended up telling the mediator to either tell them to stfu about me or to stop telling me about it .. because it got a bit irritating after a couple of months. At first it was funny because I knew their reasons for it stemmed from their own problems & insecurities and that it was uncalled for. I also felt a little sorry for them for caring so much about the negatives that were fabricated solely from themselves & their own minds. Anyhow, they got over it/ themselves in the end and we're all friends again now. 🙂

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You don't care if someone talks behind ur back —!!! If it's ur bestfriend then I'd care !

Posted by ScorpioFish
My advice to anyone about to argue with a Cancer (regardless of sex) by DECAN:

Decan I: Expect a civil discussion

Decan II: Expect everything, including the damn kitchen sink, to be relentlessly thrown at you IN ORDER TO PREVENT ANY POSSIBLE DIFFERENCE OF OPINION FROM BEING HEARD.

Decan III: Expect a civil discussion

That is all.

Uhm.........................WHAT —?!!

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I flat-out ask them why they're behaving that way.

but they can still lie and say there is nothing wrong !!!

Yes, but I can usually tell by the way they say it if they're lying.

And do you shy away or attackwhen the time is right !! 😉

It really depends on the situation and how serious it is.

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If it's ur best friend................like she has been ur best friend for along time — and then is friends with ur enemies who only want to see ur downfall — What do you do ?

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Posted by ScorpioFish
My advice to anyone about to argue with a Cancer (regardless of sex) by DECAN:

Decan I: Expect a civil discussion

Decan II: Expect everything, including the damn kitchen sink, to be relentlessly thrown at you IN ORDER TO PREVENT ANY POSSIBLE DIFFERENCE OF OPINION FROM BEING HEARD.

Decan III: Expect a civil discussion

That is all.

Uhm.........................WHAT —?!!

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Having a hard time reading today?

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Posted by ScorpioFish
My advice to anyone about to argue with a Cancer (regardless of sex) by DECAN:

Decan I: Expect a civil discussion

Decan II: Expect everything, including the damn kitchen sink, to be relentlessly thrown at you IN ORDER TO PREVENT ANY POSSIBLE DIFFERENCE OF OPINION FROM BEING HEARD.

Decan III: Expect a civil discussion

That is all.

Uhm.........................WHAT —?!!

Having a hard time reading today?

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Being nice isn't much asked try not to be rude ! !BTFU !

Posted by scorchedearth

Posted by ScorpioFish
My advice to anyone about to argue with a Cancer (regardless of sex) by DECAN:

Decan I: Expect a civil discussion

Decan II: Expect everything, including the damn kitchen sink, to be relentlessly thrown at you IN ORDER TO PREVENT ANY POSSIBLE DIFFERENCE OF OPINION FROM BEING HEARD.

Decan III: Expect a civil discussion

That is all.

you mad?

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Read his thread here in the Cancer forum about sociopaths, and it's re: 2nd Decan Cancer ex girlfriend. His comment ^^^ will make sense now 😉

Posted by scorchedearth
he's still mad.

i love all cancers, regardless of the week they were born.

he's a hater. a weekist, if you will. 😉

Yeah yeah, he's a hater fo sho lol I'm a 2nd Decan myself. Personally I don't see myself as he describes us heathens. Makes more sense to me why I wasn't always the timid, afraid of my own backbone kinda Cancer. Maybe he and she go at it because of that decan placement...he's a scorp isn't he? He should appreciate it enough to kiss her even though he wants to choke the hell out of her lol I kid, I kid.

Decan 2 cancers are the only ones I attract.

My bf has sun and moon in decan 2. He is definitely the "fuck you" type. Unless it's his family. He tells them to shove it in a much nicer way.

My first bf was a decan 1 cancer. There was no civil conversation from that guy either. He could barely hold one. I'll take decan 2 type any day. They have that edge I like in a person. This Leo appreciates it.

Posted by scorchedearth
judging by the level of on the internet asshurt he's spewing out it's more likely that he's a pisces. sun sign scorpios are usually a bit more secretive about all their business it seems. unless they're whining about a pisces. lol

different weeks have different strengths and weaknesses. don't hate, appreciate. 😆

Now I'm perplexed! I had him as a Scorp....must.find.out.now. I agree btw, shall be interesting if he does spill the beans... shitslinging Pisces? or, your time is coming Scorpio? lol

Posted by ninjamu
Decan 2 cancers are the only ones I attract.

My bf has sun and moon in decan 2. He is definitely the "fuck you" type. Unless it's his family. He tells them to shove it in a much nicer way.

My first bf was a decan 1 cancer. There was no civil conversation from that guy either. He could barely hold one. I'll take decan 2 type any day. They have that edge I like in a person. This Leo appreciates it.

Ah, ha! *raises pointed finger to skies* I dated a Decan 1 myself....what was your take on the 'no civil convo' when you say that—

I myself tend to have the 'fuck off' attitude as well...both friends and family, family I'm more 'understanding' and let them get away with more, but it's not unheard of to cut them off for indefinite amounts of times...including my parents. Less likely now that I'm older, but too I think they've learned that they can only push me so far or they will risk the chance of me walking out of their lives again. Can only take so much, and so much of 'I'm expected to just understand or say "it's okay" ' when it's not.

On a sidenote, I tend to attract Scorps quite a bit, but for the life of me cannot build a (romantic) relationship with them...dissolves fairly quickly even though the connection is out of this world right off the bat and continues afterwards. Bugs me, because I seem to relate to them so easily, and get them the same just as much. Hmmm, with you being Leo and your guy being 2nd Decan...maybe the fixed end of it? Does he have other Scorp placements?

*** and they get me the same just as much

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I flat-out ask them why they're behaving that way.

but they can still lie and say there is nothing wrong !!!

Yes, but I can usually tell by the way they say it if they're lying.

And do you shy away or attackwhen the time is right !! 😉

It really depends on the situation and how serious it is.

If it's ur best friend................like she has been ur best friend for along time — and then is friends with ur enemies who only want to see ur downfall — What do you do ?

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If it were me, there would be a talk. Dependent if something happens that leads to the talk, or I broach the subject due to them taking teams. Now what is said, or how it goes from there on out is a toss up and only a guess. If that person doesn't get, understand, wanna talk, etc. or one or all of those, that person would more than likely be cut off and out. Best friend or not. BUT, my best friend falls into the family end of my rels, so it honestly would have to be pretty, pretty bad for me to never talk to them again. That doesn't mean I have a set time of when I will/won't talk to someone (namely family/best friends/boyfriends, exes) but I have gone a few years not talking to my parent(s), siblings, etc. ...eventually we make amends. People who mean less to me, no matter the length they've been in my life, will more than likely go a lifetime from there on out of me icing them out completely..walk by without a second glance, etc.

I will say though, the older I get I'm more flexible. Meaning, I am less likely to get upset if my friends/family etc. would be friends with someone (since this is your example) that I don't like and/or don't get along with. As long as they don't try and make me be something I'm not to that person, or expect me to get along with them on their behalf, I'd be okay. Kinda like "You like them. I respect that. I don't like them. I ex

...Kinda like "You like them. I respect that. I don't like them. I expect you to respect that."

What exactly are you looking for in terms of answers from us? How to react and/or what to expect with your bestie??

Posted by scorchedearth
judging by the level of on the internet asshurt he's spewing out it's more likely that he's a pisces. sun sign scorpios are usually a bit more secretive about all their business it seems. unless they're whining about a pisces. lol

different weeks have different strengths and weaknesses. don't hate, appreciate. 😆

You're right. Pisces.

@ OceanDeep: Nope. Not a drop. However, my mars is in scorpio, his venus, mercury, and saturn are in Leo, his rising and mars are in virgo, and my moon and mercury are in virgo. Somewhere in there it makes sense how we're compatible.

Posted by ninjamu
@ OceanDeep: Nope. Not a drop. However, my mars is in scorpio, his venus, mercury, and saturn are in Leo, his rising and mars are in virgo, and my moon and mercury are in virgo. Somewhere in there it makes sense how we're compatible.

Lovely mix between you two 🙂 I dated a Leo for a few months. We clicked right away, his Venus was in Cancer. I think that's why we seemed to understand each other. Those who didn't know him outside of a superficial relationship think he's a jerk. Underneath all that fur and roar is a big pussycat, and a very sensitive and sentimental soul...people don't believe me. I find it to be his Venus. He's a sweety, but a damn stubborn one 😄

Mine is just one moody mother effer sometimes. People either love him or hate him. Seriously. Either people are falling over themselves just to know him or they can't stand to be in the same vicinity.

What can I say? Fiery water meets earthy fire. Things are bound to happen!

Posted by ninjamu
Mine is just one moody mother effer sometimes. People either love him or hate him. Seriously. Either people are falling over themselves just to know him or they can't stand to be in the same vicinity.

What can I say? Fiery water meets earthy fire. Things are bound to happen!

Mmmm hmmmm. I will say, at least in my experience the Cancer men and their moodiness is of no other. My ex was one of the moodiest mother effers too...he was the Decan 1, and if I read you right any convo could not be civil if it was a 'taboo' subject in his eyes. You might as well go in with guns blazing because regardless there was bound be a show down. Oi. I briefly dated a Sag with a Cancer moon, OMG. It was a nightmare. Nice guy, but one of the biggest pouting babies I've seen in grown man jeans. Emotional manipulation to the max..........zoom to the MOON Alice with him.

I do love firey water though. I may be partial tho since my moon is Sag lol!!

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My advice to anyone about to argue with a Cancer (regardless of sex) by DECAN:

Decan I: Expect a civil discussion

Decan II: Expect everything, including the damn kitchen sink, to be relentlessly thrown at you IN ORDER TO PREVENT ANY POSSIBLE DIFFERENCE OF OPINION FROM BEING HEARD.

Decan III: Expect a civil discussion

That is all.

Uhm.........................WHAT —?!!

Having a hard time reading today?

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Who is this joker (scorpiofish)? first he's all up in George Bush's (JR) nuts praising the guy for being a cancerian leader, and at the same time he's hypocritically biased against decan II cancer's for being insane lunatics who throw kitchen sinks? NEWS FLASH buddy he's a decan II. It's not the first time you've said some dumb sheeeet in this forum, stop looking like an idiot to other's unless it sexually gratifies you ??

Posted by Stormn

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I flat-out ask them why they're behaving that way.

but they can still lie and say there is nothing wrong !!!

Yes, but I can usually tell by the way they say it if they're lying.

And do you shy away or attackwhen the time is right !! 😉

It really depends on the situation and how serious it is.

If it's ur best friend................like she has been ur best friend for along time — and then is friends with ur enemies who only want to see ur downfall — What do you do ?

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Stormn, don't feel so guilty about how you feel. If what your so called friend did bugs you so much you feel like you have to cut her/him off... then do it. Don't go against your natural instincts. Or.. feel the way you do until you don't feel that way anymore. Don't give yourself a time limit. Just get the feelings out and then you can move on with a clearer head.

Don't feel obligated or try to people please because you'll just carry that resentment around with you and it will come out somewhere else at a different time...

my 2 cents

Posted by Claire

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I'll fight if I have to stick up for someone close to me.

So you will not fight for urself —?

Not really, I see it as pointless. Unless someone is physically coming over to me with their arms flailing about and I have to protect myself. 🙂

Or if I have to write a few letters and make a few phone calls to rectify a financial mix-up.

Socially, I only really pay mind to people I know I can trust 100% so situations don't tend to arise in that area of life where I might have to fight or stick up for myself. If someone close to me or family members do a 180 on me and communication & compromise isn't helping then I just leave them to it.

Oh, I should probably point out that I really don't care if someone chooses to dog me or chat behind my back. Like I don't care about it at all. Some family members did this for about 5 months early on this year and I ended up telling the mediator to either tell them to stfu about me or to stop telling me about it .. because it got a bit irritating after a couple of months. At first it was funny because I knew their reasons for it stemmed from their own problems & insecurities and that it was uncalled for. I also felt a little sorry for them for caring so much about the negatives that were fabricated solely from themselves & their own minds. Anyhow, they got over it/ themselves in the end and we're all friends again now. 🙂

You don't care if someone talks behind ur back —!!! If it's ur bestfriend then I'd care !

I doubt very much that my best friends today would do that, they're really nice people.

I've been in the situation before where i've had 'friends' that talked behind my back and tried to hurt me or whatever .. I had to have a total clear-out and I started again from scratch. I could do it again if I had to. 🙂

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Well Clair I thought my best friend was the same but in the end she was false and I'm still hurt over the fact that someone can be soo mean and still smile in ur face 😢