what do i do?!?!
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by Lady Aries on Monday, June 20, 2011 and has 8 replies.
He verbally expressed to me that I hurt his feelings. I am in such deep dodo with this cancer guy. I feel so helpless, like there is not a thing in the world I can do to help him feel better. What happened was a natural progression of things. I get no feedback from him. We met on a more serious than just hook up dating site. So whatever, we had one date, hooked up the same night, and about every other week since. No real communication in between. Earlier on when we first met, he would call to say hi or wish me happy mothers day or whatever holidays came up. But its pretty much been quiet until when the mood comes for him.... pretty much feels like he has me on a schedule, its weird, like he has me jot down in his calendar. Haha.
The last time was a little spontaneous... Lunch time hook up. He fell asleep after, so I took a shower, ate, and left. He texts me a few hours later to tell me that I made him feel like "a dirty little whore."
OMFG! He's slept with at least one other person since him and I met. He didn't validate me when I told him I like him, nor did he when I asked if he's still looking. With no communication, I can only be left with the assumption that it is what it is, just a booty call. Am I wrong? Fuck! I'm so frustrated. Plus, he knows I'm not sleeping with anyone else.
I don't feel like I did anything out of context. He calls, I come over. He's got to be able to see that I did put effort into this. I've never turned him down, I figure that's how I let him know he has some priority. I always answer his calls and texts. I did tell him, however, in our last conversation that I only have eyes for him and its a feeling I cannot help. MF. I'm cursing up a storm. He gives me no impression that he has even thought about offering more than just dick. Now he's hurt?
I'm hurt because I know the feeling and for a cancer, that feeling is x a bajillion. I cannot undo it. And last question, if he ever speaks so me again... I don't know how to take it. He seems to be so aloof to everything I say that is serious. He must be super good at this deflecting. He's witty too so he has an answer for everything, but not always to the question at hand.
The last time was a little spontaneous... Lunch time hook up. He fell asleep after, so I took a shower, ate, and left. He texts me a few hours later to tell me that I made him feel like "a dirty little whore."
OMFG! He's slept with at least one other person since him and I met. He didn't validate me when I told him I like him, nor did he when I asked if he's still looking. With no communication, I can only be left with the assumption that it is what it is, just a booty call. Am I wrong? Fuck! I'm so frustrated. Plus, he knows I'm not sleeping with anyone else.
I don't feel like I did anything out of context. He calls, I come over. He's got to be able to see that I did put effort into this. I've never turned him down, I figure that's how I let him know he has some priority. I always answer his calls and texts. I did tell him, however, in our last conversation that I only have eyes for him and its a feeling I cannot help. MF. I'm cursing up a storm. He gives me no impression that he has even thought about offering more than just dick. Now he's hurt?
I'm hurt because I know the feeling and for a cancer, that feeling is x a bajillion. I cannot undo it. And last question, if he ever speaks so me again... I don't know how to take it. He seems to be so aloof to everything I say that is serious. He must be super good at this deflecting. He's witty too so he has an answer for everything, but not always to the question at hand.
I could be in tears right now. Ugh!
My initial response was : Fwd: I got the impression that you weren't wanting to offer me anything more than just a fuck. I'm sparing my own feelings. I'm sorry you feel that way.
Then he texted back: Cause you rode me til I fell asleep?
I tried to explain to him that I am all or nothing.... If I can't have all of him, its who I become, i don't do it to hurt anyone, only to keep myself from hurting anymore.
I got so flustered and didn't know what to say, I just told him to not hurt. He said he's fine and sorry. I told him no. I'm sorry. With big hugs.
In the end, I sent him the saying that I like him enough to not have eyes for anyone else, and that it is a feeling I cannot help. No response yet.
I feel like kissing some serious ass Hahaha at the same time I want to give him his space. Then again, space is all I've been giving him unless he specifically asks for my attention, I don't even know if he's expecting more on my behalf. I will give people their space before anything else, until I know for sure it is what they need.
My initial response was : Fwd: I got the impression that you weren't wanting to offer me anything more than just a fuck. I'm sparing my own feelings. I'm sorry you feel that way.
Then he texted back: Cause you rode me til I fell asleep?
I tried to explain to him that I am all or nothing.... If I can't have all of him, its who I become, i don't do it to hurt anyone, only to keep myself from hurting anymore.
I got so flustered and didn't know what to say, I just told him to not hurt. He said he's fine and sorry. I told him no. I'm sorry. With big hugs.
In the end, I sent him the saying that I like him enough to not have eyes for anyone else, and that it is a feeling I cannot help. No response yet.
I feel like kissing some serious ass Hahaha at the same time I want to give him his space. Then again, space is all I've been giving him unless he specifically asks for my attention, I don't even know if he's expecting more on my behalf. I will give people their space before anything else, until I know for sure it is what they need.
Thanks wineaux. Through this whole time of knowing him, I keep hoping that the 'next time' he contacts me, it would be more than just a hookup. Even a few extra words would get me thru. Or that he won't contact me at all, so I can move on.
Anyway, thanks again, I can be an earfull.
Anyway, thanks again, I can be an earfull.
Wow I am ridiculously mentally frustrated over this man. I had an awesome date with one guy last night, have been giddy over a vacation date I have coming up in two weeks with another prospect, yet today I wake up with a guy I haven't seen in a month in my head. MF! As if I want to love this one and want him in MY life. I'm sure he's moving along just fine. As was I these past few weeks. I wouldn't be talking to anyone new if my mind is stuck on someone else, even if its over. There's plenty of room to continue to peruse this guy, the connection is there, but his walls are seemingly very high. He wants to be in this too, but waiting for me to give a solid sign? Fucking bummer man! VENT!
I want to pursue, but at the same time, I am slowly putting the distance between us. my instincts have never done me wrong, nor has my gut, but they're at a crossroad.
I could use some comforting words. Thanks.
Did you guys hear about the robber who broke into a salon only to have the owner whoop his ass and keep him as a sex slave? She is my new idol.... Now I just need to find a pharmacist to prescribe me diagram to pop on unsuspecting people. Lmao!
I want to pursue, but at the same time, I am slowly putting the distance between us. my instincts have never done me wrong, nor has my gut, but they're at a crossroad.
I could use some comforting words. Thanks.
Did you guys hear about the robber who broke into a salon only to have the owner whoop his ass and keep him as a sex slave? She is my new idol.... Now I just need to find a pharmacist to prescribe me diagram to pop on unsuspecting people. Lmao!
I'm confused why you would leave without at least giving him a kiss goodbye if in fact you "like him enough to not have eyes for anyone else". Ah, but what do I know, I'm just a cold hearted Cap (and it's what I'd do regardless) 
@lildol I can't change what I've done. I am confused how to move forward. My mind can't keep playing tricks on me like this. I left him a voiceMail wishing him happy birthday last week, he called back to say thank you, also mentioning that I keep ignoring his phone calls. I didn't get any, but have been turning my phone off. Grrrrrr. This is just a big bowl of frustration soup.
Posted by everevolvingepithet
diazepam ?
Hehe are you offering?
Diagram.... FML. Haha viagra
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