What does this cancer want—

Ok, met him on 01/25/09 through a friend at her house. She was secretly trying to set me up with this guy all along and I didn't know it. While at her house she told me he had been in two serious relationships, were both times he was cheated on or hurt, and just recently stopped talking to someone who was playing the same games. So he gives me a ride home and calls me that night. The next day I call him and we talk. So monday goes by, nothing. I send him one text tuesday, he texted back, then calls later that night. So two days go by and I drop hints to him that im feeling neglected and he ask "what's wrong, what do you want me to do", but I don't really say. Later on that day I tell him I dont think we should talk anymore and he calls me back immediately saying I didn't even give us a chance to get to know each other, etc. So I agree and we smooth things out. So the next day, Sunday we talk, but now four days have gone by and nothing. What's with this guy? Im ready to give up.
Advice please

leokitten how long should I wait for a guy to call me, I mean damn! I dont like 2,3,4,5 days to go by and nothing. i dont want to play the hot and cold game with this guy. If you want me, pursue me. What's soo hard about that. Plus he says he looking for something to turn into a relationship, so am I. I've never been in one, and I'm tired of the games. Let's get this thing started!

THANKS A LOT LEOKITTEN! GREAT ADVICE!!!!

I agree! Im soo sick of going through this b.s. He isn't worth my time or my energy.

melyssa calm down, men aren't on the same time schedule as women, he will get back with you when he feels like he wants to connect with you and really that's the way it should be, your coming off as pushy, needy and desperate, I would suggest you find something and someone else to focus on like another hot guy and your daily busy routine, get busy and let him find his way back to you, you expecting him to call makes him feel he already HAS YOU and he's done nothing to earn all this attention. He's a man and unless he's completely ready to get married or jump back into a relationship quickly, he's going to be hot and cold, he's going to take his time and he's not going to be pressured to go beyond his comfort zone, if he doesn't call then he's not that interested which is your que to move on.

...uhhh.

Did you ever think that he doesn't have anything interesting to tell you at the moment and doesn't want to just blab on about a bunch of inane crap that won't keep your attention?
If you enjoyed yourself the one time you went out with him (and I'm guessing you did... most women wouldn't bother asking the questions you have unless they were interested) it really isn't showing patience by saying "He isn't worth my time or my energy."

"She was secretly trying to set me up with this guy all along and I didn't know it."
...maybe he didn't know either.

"she told me he had been in two serious relationships, were both times he was cheated on or hurt, and just recently stopped talking to someone who was playing the same games."
At this point you can be the most beautiful woman in the world...
and that ugly chick on the other side of the room has just as much a chance as you do.
He needs breathing room to get his own $ #!t together before he can focus on you, pushing/rushing him will only drive him away.

"So he gives me a ride home and calls me that night. The next day I call him and we talk."
Here's the proof... and its too late to hide it from him that you like him (even if it is just a little bit). Now that he knows this (if he likes you back [and I'm guessing he does, if he called you after giving you a ride home]) he's going to back off some. We don't like to get attached too fast... nor do we find it attractive when a potential partner does either.

Ok guys i get. Back off and maybe he will come back. But like i said we havent talk since Sunday and todays Friday. Oh well.... I will just chill on it.

Lmao, So what he doesn't call. Call him if its a problem. I have been dating my Cancer for a year now and we hardly speak on the phone. I really don't like chattin on the phone anyway, it's lame to me. I rather see him. When I call, short convo, Hey I wanna see u then he says come through. That's it. We both work and go to school so we really have any time to chat on the phone which we both really don't like. We rather spend time with each other + we Cancers will not call anyone if were going through somthing give him space if u want him.