What the hell is wrong with him............?? JERK
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by poeticsounds on Thursday, May 17, 2007 and has 23 replies.
I talked with this Cancer sun/scorpio moon/pisces rising online for over a year and half. He was in a serious relationship and had gotten out of it, he was always weird about meeting(not ready, not wanting to, flaking out), he drove me crazy, and had written him off. Then he'd IM me out of nowhere(weeks, months, etc of not talking) and say really sweet things like he doesnt connect to that many people, and he thought i was pretty, etc. Well, he was always evasive, elusive, and hard to reach. For the most part, I just ignored him till he started saying these really deep things like he could love me, he loved me, he thinks we'd be good together, blah bklashfdfg..ANYWAYS
we finally met last week(i seriously never thought it'd happen), it was great(i think), he was kind, sweet, tender, always showing affection, hugging me, kissing me, holding my hand, asking me personal questions, esp about my family. I thought we had had connected the way we connected online. He dropped me off, and he texted me, i wrote to him "i liked you more than i thought i would" and he said "i liked you better too", and me being an impatient person, texted him 2 days later "lets do something thursday", he said "OK", this pissed me off coz i said OK WHAT? but he never responded, so i told him the next day "HEY LOOK i thought us meeting would change things but youre still acting the same i wont deal with your childish BS i need direct people in my life you have a lot of anger and resentent " blah blah i sort of rambled on, i wrote him off.
he texted me saying he wanted to and he said he did, and blah blah, totally backtracking acting like he was giving me straight answers, "OK" isnt a straight answer esp when i ask OK WHAT?!
anyways, i said ok fine, we'll do something thursday.
Well wednesday i texted him telling him the plans(i said id figure it out) and he didnt respond, I IMED him, and he said he'd go read his text, 10 mins go by and he doesnt anything, i sign off, hours later, i call him, he doesnt pick up, i try to text, nothing, i finally texted him "actions speak louder than words" and "scr2w you" and nothing. I signed on, really angry, and annoyed, I said Im blocking you, and if there was a way Id block you on my phone, i said I wont waste my time on someone who wont waste their time on me, and dont bother calling or texting coz id ignore him.
I was wondering what you guys think....Do you think he'll call me after I said this? Is this typical cancer behavior? give me a
we finally met last week(i seriously never thought it'd happen), it was great(i think), he was kind, sweet, tender, always showing affection, hugging me, kissing me, holding my hand, asking me personal questions, esp about my family. I thought we had had connected the way we connected online. He dropped me off, and he texted me, i wrote to him "i liked you more than i thought i would" and he said "i liked you better too", and me being an impatient person, texted him 2 days later "lets do something thursday", he said "OK", this pissed me off coz i said OK WHAT? but he never responded, so i told him the next day "HEY LOOK i thought us meeting would change things but youre still acting the same i wont deal with your childish BS i need direct people in my life you have a lot of anger and resentent " blah blah i sort of rambled on, i wrote him off.
he texted me saying he wanted to and he said he did, and blah blah, totally backtracking acting like he was giving me straight answers, "OK" isnt a straight answer esp when i ask OK WHAT?!
anyways, i said ok fine, we'll do something thursday.
Well wednesday i texted him telling him the plans(i said id figure it out) and he didnt respond, I IMED him, and he said he'd go read his text, 10 mins go by and he doesnt anything, i sign off, hours later, i call him, he doesnt pick up, i try to text, nothing, i finally texted him "actions speak louder than words" and "scr2w you" and nothing. I signed on, really angry, and annoyed, I said Im blocking you, and if there was a way Id block you on my phone, i said I wont waste my time on someone who wont waste their time on me, and dont bother calling or texting coz id ignore him.
I was wondering what you guys think....Do you think he'll call me after I said this? Is this typical cancer behavior? give me a
Welcome to the club of women involved with the cancer males. Yes this is typical behavior. All I can say is decide now before u get too emotionally involved whether or not u can deal/handle someone like this. All that texting/IMing/calling won't do a thing except piss u off.
What's ur sign?
What's ur sign?
Im a virgo :/ Im so critical of his actions, I have gone off on him many times(before we met) I thought meeting would change things, but obviously not, I think to myself, if he really was interested he'd make the effort. I just dont get it.
Sheesh...you really flew off the handle their huh poeticsounds? I understand being upset because he is not responding but you have to pick and chose your battles. You'll learn that with age. I mean what was texting him and I'Ming him doing besides making you angry?
I can say for one thing he has an AWFUL lot of water in his chart! Damn! He is a emotional wreck. He may not know how to handle it. Because having a Cancer Sun Sign is enough but then to have Scorpio and Pisces in your chart? Wow!
I can say for one thing he has an AWFUL lot of water in his chart! Damn! He is a emotional wreck. He may not know how to handle it. Because having a Cancer Sun Sign is enough but then to have Scorpio and Pisces in your chart? Wow!
"Welcome to the club of women involved with the cancer males. Yes this is typical behavior. All I can say is decide now before u get too emotionally involved whether or not u can deal/handle someone like this. All that texting/IMing/calling won't do a thing except piss u off."
Yikes!
Has a mature explanation been offered from the Cancer males on dxpnet for this sort of behavior?
Yikes!
Has a mature explanation been offered from the Cancer males on dxpnet for this sort of behavior?
OCEAN, was that too harsh? Sorry but I had to let her know because its the truth.
This is what I learned about these cancer guys and you have to CHOOSE whether or not u want to and can handle that. As far as with me, I have chosen to accept it. I'll take the good with the bad because the good out weighs the bad by a lot with my guy. And also, I realize its nothing personal against me.
This is what I learned about these cancer guys and you have to CHOOSE whether or not u want to and can handle that. As far as with me, I have chosen to accept it. I'll take the good with the bad because the good out weighs the bad by a lot with my guy. And also, I realize its nothing personal against me.
Hi, LS...
No, so, what are these Cancer men about? Do they just space out and lose track? Are they wishy-washy?
I don't know any.
No, so, what are these Cancer men about? Do they just space out and lose track? Are they wishy-washy?
I don't know any.
OCEAN, my opinion is that they are emotional messes/moody and they don't know how to deal with that. When they are feeling like that they like their space and we women tend to take it personal when we shouldn't.
But they really are great guys when they arent in their moods. Just read all the threads here. Thats all we talk about in the Cancer forum is how they drive us nuts. The only reason they drive us nuts is because one minute they are amazing, the next a real downer.
What's ur sign OCEAN?
But they really are great guys when they arent in their moods. Just read all the threads here. Thats all we talk about in the Cancer forum is how they drive us nuts. The only reason they drive us nuts is because one minute they are amazing, the next a real downer.
What's ur sign OCEAN?
I'm a Scorpio, female. I don't think I could deal with/handle the emotional immaturity of the Cancer male. His behavior seems to cause thoughts and feelings of insecurity within his partner, real or imagined, which he then gets points for making up for.
No thanks. lol.
No thanks. lol.
LOL Ocean, you are 100% right. I deal with it because I was in a extremely clingy 4 yr relationship prior to my current one with the cancer and his alone time makes me realize that I need alone time as well.
But definately, when they run and hide without an explanation, it stirs up insecurities and I immediately think it has something to do with me when its not the case. My guy is going on a 3 week run with his distance.....but he is slowly coming around. I better get a gift out of this one. I want diamonds.
But definately, when they run and hide without an explanation, it stirs up insecurities and I immediately think it has something to do with me when its not the case. My guy is going on a 3 week run with his distance.....but he is slowly coming around. I better get a gift out of this one. I want diamonds.
Ocean....I'm shocked that you wouldn't be up for the challenge!
"Ocean....I'm shocked that you wouldn't be up for the challenge!"
LoL...I know, right?...And.bring.him.to.his.knees!! *evil laugh*
But, I want to be the chick in the relationship. I'm very girly. And, I think a Cancer man wouldn't make me nuts, he would just make me feel sorry for him. And, that would definately turn me off.
A gentle soul is sweet, but soft is sad.
LoL...I know, right?...And.bring.him.to.his.knees!! *evil laugh*
But, I want to be the chick in the relationship. I'm very girly. And, I think a Cancer man wouldn't make me nuts, he would just make me feel sorry for him. And, that would definately turn me off.
A gentle soul is sweet, but soft is sad.
Hi, MIA.
Oh!
And, LS, I hope you get your diamonds!
And, LS, I hope you get your diamonds!
I think a gentle man is sensitive to the feelings of his woman, and is still respected.
I think a soft man is a Momma's boy.
I think a soft man is a Momma's boy.
Thanks Ocean, but I doubt i'll get them since I know he's down about lack of money and his job.
But I'll settle for a hangbag or shoes.
But I'll settle for a hangbag or shoes.
"But I'll settle for a hangbag or shoes."
*giggle* We can never have too many!
*giggle* We can never have too many!
anyways, i said ok fine, we'll do something thursday.
Well wednesday i texted him telling him the plans(i said id figure it out) and he didnt respond, I IMED him, and he said he'd go read his text, 10 mins go by and he doesnt anything, i sign off, hours later, i call him, he doesnt pick up, i try to text, nothing, i finally texted him "actions speak louder than words" and "scr2w you" and nothing. I signed on, really angry, and annoyed, I said Im blocking you, and if there was a way Id block you on my phone, i said I wont waste my time on someone who wont waste their time on me, and dont bother calling or texting coz id ignore him.
I was wondering what you guys think....Do you think he'll call me after I said this? Is this typical cancer behavior?
Hi, krobe03,
If U like this guy, don't let him know that he makes U angry. He is just trying to figure out does he want 2 do this thing with U or not. If U call and he does not answer the VERY 1st time, don't call back 4 a couple weeks. I KNOW he will answer the next time U call. If he does not text back, text him that ONE time and don't text him anymore. I know I have the problem sometimes with the 1st time I try to call, however, after that I just leave him the hell alone. I give him his space. I take it as HE does not want 2 B bothered and I go on with my routine. I will either call him in a couple of weeks or just don't call until he starts begging me 2 call him again. After the 1st call, if U wait 4 a while and not call him anymore, U will notice that the next time U call, he will pick up the phone. These guys come out of their shells when they want 2.
So just enjoy your life and don't wait 4 him to come out! When he comes out, if U feel like being bothered talk, if not ignore him and ALL his calls and once he catches up with U, HE will B MAD! LOL! and the Cancer I know does that OK too! OK is just OK! don't ask 4 a direct answer. Just take it as OK! If something happens it happens, if it doesn't it doesn't!
Well wednesday i texted him telling him the plans(i said id figure it out) and he didnt respond, I IMED him, and he said he'd go read his text, 10 mins go by and he doesnt anything, i sign off, hours later, i call him, he doesnt pick up, i try to text, nothing, i finally texted him "actions speak louder than words" and "scr2w you" and nothing. I signed on, really angry, and annoyed, I said Im blocking you, and if there was a way Id block you on my phone, i said I wont waste my time on someone who wont waste their time on me, and dont bother calling or texting coz id ignore him.
I was wondering what you guys think....Do you think he'll call me after I said this? Is this typical cancer behavior?
Hi, krobe03,
If U like this guy, don't let him know that he makes U angry. He is just trying to figure out does he want 2 do this thing with U or not. If U call and he does not answer the VERY 1st time, don't call back 4 a couple weeks. I KNOW he will answer the next time U call. If he does not text back, text him that ONE time and don't text him anymore. I know I have the problem sometimes with the 1st time I try to call, however, after that I just leave him the hell alone. I give him his space. I take it as HE does not want 2 B bothered and I go on with my routine. I will either call him in a couple of weeks or just don't call until he starts begging me 2 call him again. After the 1st call, if U wait 4 a while and not call him anymore, U will notice that the next time U call, he will pick up the phone. These guys come out of their shells when they want 2.
So just enjoy your life and don't wait 4 him to come out! When he comes out, if U feel like being bothered talk, if not ignore him and ALL his calls and once he catches up with U, HE will B MAD! LOL! and the Cancer I know does that OK too! OK is just OK! don't ask 4 a direct answer. Just take it as OK! If something happens it happens, if it doesn't it doesn't!
WOW! the 1,000,000th post of its kind. We're quite popular.
N/O to all, but i'll bet this will be a new trend with consumer products websites. Number of complaints will be the new rating system insteed of quality.
But No poeticsounds, I don't think a bill collector would call after that.
JERKS ALL OF THEM *roar*!
abc- LOL..
oh well i probably hurt his feelings, i dont care, i dealt with a lot of his BS via the internet, and i thought he'd change once he met me, but hes still acting immature. I thought he was someone I could be with for a long time, and be myself with, but obviously not. I figure if its meant to be, it'll happen(im doubt it here though)...
I need a man not a boy. Ps- he has mommy issues.
oh well i probably hurt his feelings, i dont care, i dealt with a lot of his BS via the internet, and i thought he'd change once he met me, but hes still acting immature. I thought he was someone I could be with for a long time, and be myself with, but obviously not. I figure if its meant to be, it'll happen(im doubt it here though)...
I need a man not a boy. Ps- he has mommy issues.
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