What to do with this Cancer man...

Hi all, I'm a gemini woman, age 31 and I'm getting myself involved again with this Cancer guy (July 22nd so a cusper) with a history beginning in freshman year of high school. He was my first boyfriend at 14, not long lasting the moment he started saying he loved me and I freaked at such a young age... although always secretly in love with him throughout high school and beyond. We physically hooked up a couple times in our early 20s (his initiation) but never called afterwards everytime so I moved on. At 22 I moved out of state and every few years, he would text... for months... then disapear again like clockwork. He did it again this past summer the day I broke up with my bf and started telling me I should move home, which is totally doable and over the last few months I have made arrangements to do just that (for more reasons than just his request) but over the next 6 months, he's gone from texting "I can't stop thinking about you love" and talking about trying to buy my childhood home, which I'm moving back into, to nothing and even avoiding my texts after new years... I don't know if I should just let him do his thing knowing he'll be back, or literally asking WTF (as us gemini's have a tendancy to do at a certain extent lol) I just seem to get paranoid to think I did something to piss him off or he's trying to hide for some reason. I just don't know what to do.

It's possible I'm not communicating the right things but I also don't want to blow him up all the time and have him think "this girl's a nut" even though he said I couldn't annoy him if I tried. I feel like it's touchy and I don't want to come off as desperate as I really am lol trying to let him have space and come to me... but I know there's a chance he will be gone again and I really want to hold onto this one.

I have this fear of him running if I come on too strong. About 4 or 5 years ago I drank a little too much and splurged that I loved him. I always have and that was the end of that communication session... lol I'm trying to avoid that and go slow in the friend zone with the occasional flirt and provocative picture but I also think he's thinking I do this with more than just him which is not true. How do I communicate my feelings without going overboard?

I would have if I didn't experience a few very happy combinations of this kind going on for over 20 years. He also has gemini in his charts and I have earth so it's not impossible. I also hear that Leo is a good match for me and I'll never date another one of those for the rest of my life after the last so to each their own.