Well first off im a cancer 7/11 and so is my friend 7/16..Basically we us to be fwb but he cut it off abruptly one day when I refused to come see hime due to his moody bad attitude. But we still texted and talked being mean to each then nice..u ko the emotional rollercoaster thing. Anywho he kno I have a new friend and so does he (im not stupid us cancers are very secretive) the issue is that when we talk he's always so mean and nasty but then turns around and say how much he cares for me and he will refuse to hang up until my mood is back happy. Also when i'm talking to him telling him I want to go back to the old times, I miss him blah blah..he would only respond by saying DONT U HAVE A NEW FRIEND..SMH..ANOTHER THING ugghh im all over place excuse me lol ....Back to what I was saying he keeps saying how he hates me stop calling/texting him...and yet he engages in the arguement everytime..We have this crazy weird unspoken bond. We have said the most hateful things to each other then 5 mins later we're back in each other face or texting like nothing happen. IDK if he's jealous, if he likes, me if he hates me..If I ignore him he goes nutz calling me..But when I start talking about feelings and cry he get pissed off saying how he doesnt feel like the mushy shit lol...smh I dont get it???
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Sep 13, 2010Comments: 0 · Posts: 1095 · Topics: 43
I say ask him right out. My advice may not be the best, because to me there are two types of cancer men. The mean ones that can pop off or blow up out of nowhere (perhaps they are mad about something they never mentioned and need to lash out all of a damn sudden), and then there are the really sweet ones that can get mean if pushed. I can deal with the 2nd one, because that??s how I am. Sweet on the surface, but don??t eff with me though, or I??ll will get cold as ice and shut you completely out.
Your cancer sounds like the cancer I just cut off. I cut him off every time he gets like that. True he always comes back, but if he acts out I will cut him off again. Life is too short, and I??m nobody??s emotional punching bag. I will tell him straight out, I don??t know what you want and I cannot read your mind whether you believe it or not! So open up your mouth, use your words, or I can??t help you or the situation. I don??t give him a way out, its either speak or leave. If he chooses to speak we talk it out, and we go from there. If he chooses to shut down, I leave him alone until he??s ready to talk. Like I said my advice may not be best because, I??m an air sign and I believe in giving people space whether they want it or not, because I??m not about to be emotionally abused because you??re going through something and don??t know how to talk about it. So that??s my take on it. Sorry if it didn??t help.
Classic Cancer testing 101. To see how you react to certain situations or statements. Think of an elastic band, you snap it back and forth until eventually it will stretch beyond it's original form and snap.
That's how they see things when intrigued or interested in someone.
Nip that ish in quick cause it can go on indefinitely until they are sure about you.
No, I mean call him out on it and tell him you won't put up with it.
You have to go about it the right way though as they won't take it seriously until you stay a certain way and don't budge.
These guys never come directly so you have to try and challenge them in way that almost will suit them but don't dance around it like they do.
I appreciate the advice everyone.. I hadnt answer any of his calls since Wednesday..since he thinks he's the only one who can answer when he wants. Also I left out that he's 24 im 30. Hes mature for his age unless whe have to discuss something about feelings..He shuts down then..He's always being mean and nasty to me but wants to see me then changes his mind..Emotional Rollercoaster.. He is like an angry grumpy Cancer while im the happy loving one..The only time he shows emotion is when I threaten to cut him off..We're always testing each other with these psychological mind games.
Hope he comes around for you because I walked away from mine but we still talked and expressed unspoken feelings towards each other, I being the more stubborn moon in taurus pulled back until more recently. I wouldn't say I went about it the right way but now I know patience does really pay off with them.