What's up with her?
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by melody on Wednesday, July 5, 2006 and has 5 replies.
I have a Cancer 'friend'....she and I met a guy around the same time (same social circle, different parties within the same month)....he was unattached, fair game...she stepped in and slept with him pretty quickly, then weeks later ended up with another guy, who she's still with today.
The first guy and I ended up together for a short while after she hooked with the second guy, but she would keep flaunting her 'conquest' of guy #1 every now and then, even after being monogamous with #2. She did sleep with both for a while at first; every time she found out I had a date with guy #1, she had to have a date with him....that went on for about 3 weeks.
I told a close friend about all this and she said 'I wouldn't trust her, she's way too fast.' Hell, I haven't even been around her in 6 months - mainly because my schedule has been so busy with school and family stuff, but also because I don't understand her motives...
We are now nearly a year past all this, she's still seeing guy #2 as her main person -- but casually also seeing others -- and last week, she chatted with me briefly and was fishing around to see if am still in contact with guy #1....I am not, and told her so, and she didn't say anything more about him....She mentioned that we don't hang together that much anymore...I didn't say answer. I couldn't. I didn't feel it was necessary to confront her on stuff that's so far in the past, over guys and relationships that are long gone. So we just continued to chat about other things and I was pleasant as usual.
Are many cancer women this bent on flaunting sexual conquests? Are cancer women that insecure? Or is it competitiveness? Do I have the right perspective on this? Should I dredge up all this old stuff and tell it to her once and for all?
The first guy and I ended up together for a short while after she hooked with the second guy, but she would keep flaunting her 'conquest' of guy #1 every now and then, even after being monogamous with #2. She did sleep with both for a while at first; every time she found out I had a date with guy #1, she had to have a date with him....that went on for about 3 weeks.
I told a close friend about all this and she said 'I wouldn't trust her, she's way too fast.' Hell, I haven't even been around her in 6 months - mainly because my schedule has been so busy with school and family stuff, but also because I don't understand her motives...
We are now nearly a year past all this, she's still seeing guy #2 as her main person -- but casually also seeing others -- and last week, she chatted with me briefly and was fishing around to see if am still in contact with guy #1....I am not, and told her so, and she didn't say anything more about him....She mentioned that we don't hang together that much anymore...I didn't say answer. I couldn't. I didn't feel it was necessary to confront her on stuff that's so far in the past, over guys and relationships that are long gone. So we just continued to chat about other things and I was pleasant as usual.
Are many cancer women this bent on flaunting sexual conquests? Are cancer women that insecure? Or is it competitiveness? Do I have the right perspective on this? Should I dredge up all this old stuff and tell it to her once and for all?
Also wanted to add that previous dealings with Cancer women have all been very good; one of my best, longtime (25 years) girl friends is a Cancer.
That first question of the last paragraph, I swear I don't mean to make a blanket statement about all cancer women but it was totally different from anyone I've ever dealt with in my life, it really blindsided me.
Well, I did brag about getting numbers one time...which was right after a trip to the Salon. It was my way of saying "I still got it". It was just number though....NO conquests. BUT, the only person I told was saggitarian friend who THEN went and blabbed to the guy I happen to like.(and who seems to like me back). Things were really bad for me after that because, like I mentioned in another thread, we act like school children around eachother-he felt rejected. . I don't blame him though, because if the situation was reversed I would've backed off too. He did wanna to talk to me last Christmas but I was too chicken to go up to him.I don't know if that makes sense to you but.... it does to me...lol. The brighside is, I went to see a psychic and things will be okay with him soon.
So, no more bragging for this cancer
So, no more bragging for this cancer
hehe thank you SourPatch for being the only one brave enough to reply 
Seriously we all get our emotional times...I understand you being too shy to talk to the guy, I was too....still am, decided to let it all go, drama sucks, but it feels good to be loved.
Seriously we all get our emotional times...I understand you being too shy to talk to the guy, I was too....still am, decided to let it all go, drama sucks, but it feels good to be loved.Leave Your Feedback
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