whats with me—...calling all cancers.....

Lately ive been really indecisive when it comes to my relationship with my libra. We have not been seeing eye to eye and i think its time that we go our seperate ways...sounds simple right— Well not exactly...how do i let him know how i feel about us seperating without coming off wrong— i care for him but it's alot of things about him that drives me up the wall. for example...money, we i have it i have no problem dishing out on him but when he has it it's a secret and i never know...and also he gets into these moods where it's like it's him against the world....weird i kno but as a cancer ive always found it extremely hard to just cut to the point and simply say it's not working even if i kno that i will be lonely....

Do you want to break up, or work things out? A good conversation can go a long Long way. I don't think two people have to see eye to eye to make a relationship work, but they at least have to understand where the other person is coming from.

If you want to break up, just do it. You're not doing it for him, you're doing it for yourself. Make sure it's for the right reasons, then do it. There is no way to make a break up easy. It is going to hurt, no matter what you say. So cut to the chase, which you are good at, and get'er done.

Not to sound insensitive... but I have learned over the past few months, that if you want to make things emotionally easy on yourself and others...
You should just say what's on your mind. I used to have reasons to keep secrets from others, because of how they might feel about what I say.
But I noticed after just saying how I feel (and not worrying about whether people CHOOSE to accept or deny what I have to say to them), I have alot less on my mind when we're done talking. And as hard as it can be, I am learning to take better care of myself and put ME first. It is just as true as when they tell you on an airplane before taking off, "if you are sitting next to a young child, put the mask on yourself first and then assist the child." When I was a younger, I never understood that. But now it makes plenty of sense... if you can't help yourself (in any way) how can you expect to help someone else (in that same way)?

People choose to take things the way they WANT to. Its not your fault if you tell them the truth about what's on your mind, or how you feel. They would be more angry if you told them some nonsense that sounds really nice... because when the truth comes out, they will ask you "Why didn't you say that in the first place?" If someone wants to be mad at you for telling the truth... that's not the kind of person you want in your life anyway. I say this because I have given up keeping things from people to keep from hurting their feelings. At the end of the day I sleep easier knowing that I told people how things are, and not how they want to believe them to be. They can stay up all night angry with the actuality of things. I'm done with wasting hours and hours of my life contemplating whether or not someone, I know, can handle the truth... friend or otherwise.