When cancer wants it to be serious

So i heard a lot that cancer is pretty indirect.

I know that he's always very bold when he tells me he loves me and he does that all the freaking time. Every few minutes even. Seems like he's trying to not giving me any chances to doubt his love.

He visited me few weeks ago and we spent 3 weeks together. The whole time he was here, he said / mentioned pretty serious things like marriage, relocation, me being his wife, kids, etc.

Randomly dropped hints in a goofy and witty way here and there.

But i didn't really respond to it because i thought oh he's just joking around anyway and I actually kind of scared. I still kind of have some fears, even though i love him and the thought of us being together more excites me. So the talk never really go further, anti climax.

He asked me to let him meet my mom, he's very eager about it like it's annoying sometimes. They met and he told her about how it would be so amazing if his mom and my mom in the same place right now, how our families would get along and he promised my mom that he's gonna come back soon.

His family knows about me for years and he wanted me to talk to them more. Introduced me to each of them on video call. And sent his friends pic of us together.

Is that how crabs do to get into the next level?

If you guys want more serious relationship are you being direct about it or just drop hints here and there?

Or are you guys just saying those things for fun so it's actually ok if i didn't respond much to it?

I just don't want to hurt him when he's actually being serious anyway.

Posted by Foxy777

Posted by aquaglass

So i heard a lot that cancer is pretty indirect.

I know that he's always very bold when he tells me he loves me and he does that all the freaking time. Every few minutes even. Seems like he's trying to not giving me any chances to doubt his love.

He visited me few weeks ago and we spent 3 weeks together. The whole time he was here, he said / mentioned pretty serious things like marriage, relocation, me being his wife, kids, etc.

Randomly dropped hints in a goofy and witty way here and there.

But i didn't really respond to it because i thought oh he's just joking around anyway and I actually kind of scared. I still kind of have some fears, even though i love him and the thought of us being together more excites me. So the talk never really go further, anti climax.

He asked me to let him meet my mom, he's very eager about it like it's annoying sometimes. They met and he told her about how it would be so amazing if his mom and my mom in the same place right now, how our families would get along and he promised my mom that he's gonna come back soon.

His family knows about me for years and he wanted me to talk to them more. Introduced me to each of them on video call. And sent his friends pic of us together.

Is that how crabs do to get into the next level?

If you guys want more serious relationship are you being direct about it or just drop hints here and there?

Or are you guys just saying those things for fun so it's actually ok if i didn't respond much to it?

I just don't want to hurt him when he's actually being serious anyway.

What IS the next level tho?

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Relocation & marriage, according to his words.

Posted by Foxy777

In my mind this is it you're there.

I never think about the future in relationships.

If you are talking future stuff ....talking is one thing. DOING is another.

Yes, i would like to just see him doing more than just talking. He just left 2 weeks ago and now we're in long distance again, so far he has been persistent and did what he said he's going to do. Not all of them though, because some of them takes time to get done.

He said that he's getting his shit together now and gonna come back in 6 months to pick me up, just before my birthday in Feb.

Posted by Foxy777

You don't have any reason to think he is not serious. Why not trust he means it?

Yeah i got trust issues. Sigh

I’m going to give you sound advice which applies with everyone, not just Cancers.

Always look to actions. Words that don’t match actions mean nothing. As an Aqua who says a lot of charming things to people, I know words are cheap and require no effort on one’s part. Knowing myself and this makes me consider only what people do rather than say.