Why do Cancer males come and go?

Is this common? And why do they do it... :s

seems like we're in the same boat renne...

It's terrible !!

Sometimes we aren't sure if you feel the same way about us..reassuring a cancer man that you feel the same way about him would help..

I pop in and out my ex's life she's a Gemini sometimes I want to be around her..then sometimes I just stay away for days,weeks, even months..

Cuz they are insanly selfish. He wants to be a part of your Life - but only in a way he wants it to be.
He only wants the good, not the bad nor ugly within you. Just one Word : Selfish. I'd stay away, don't let them use you as their entertainment. They do this to every girl they meet^^
And if he doesn't call you he's going to call someone else.

Posted by Fresco
I pop in and out my ex's life she's a Gemini sometimes I want to be around her..then sometimes I just stay away for days,weeks, even months..

What an selfish ass you are. You don't really give a fuck about her ^^
I hope she doesn't even care anymore.

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Posted by Fresco
I pop in and out my ex's life she's a Gemini sometimes I want to be around her..then sometimes I just stay away for days,weeks, even months..

What an selfish ass you are. You don't really give a fuck about her ^^
I hope she doesn't even care anymore.

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Actually she is really in love...I just don't have the heart to let her down...and you really don't know my situation so you shouldn't judge me ma'am

actually, stringing someone along and only going back to them for an emotional fix (for both parties)is pretty selfish... and an ego boast for you when you're feeling emotionally low.

cancer girls can do it too (guilty) but the men are worse

it really isn't fair. I am having that same problem right now. the worst part is that I met his parents,family, friends, even his barber.. lol and the very next day he disapeared on me and I havnt heard from him for weeeks and he just popped back into my life as if nothing and he is slowly drifting again. It really isn't fair to lead somebody on like that at all. it takes a toll on the heart and on the mind, not healthy.

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Posted by Fresco
I pop in and out my ex's life she's a Gemini sometimes I want to be around her..then sometimes I just stay away for days,weeks, even months..

What an selfish ass you are. You don't really give a fuck about her ^^
I hope she doesn't even care anymore.

Actually she is really in love...I just don't have the heart to let her down...and you really don't know my situation so you shouldn't judge me ma'am

Just let her down and let it go, forge forward, stop playing games with her. That's not fair.

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I agree with the people saying you don't really care about her, yeah, you on't have the heart to let her down YET you are happy with dragging it along? Yes. Stop playing games with her. It isn't fair! It makes me feel insane when people do what you are doing to her!!

Posted by Moodz2468
it really isn't fair. I am having that same problem right now. the worst part is that I met his parents,family, friends, even his barber.. lol and the very next day he disapeared on me and I havnt heard from him for weeeks and he just popped back into my life as if nothing and he is slowly drifting again. It really isn't fair to lead somebody on like that at all. it takes a toll on the heart and on the mind, not healthy.

That absolutely sucks. Yeah I've met his family too and well he didn't just disappear, he keeps coming back and we keep finding situations that give us a reason to hang out but he only wants to when he gets something out of it. Yeah, it's not healthy at all. :s

Okay.. i'll let her go..if it makes you all happy.

Yay! 🙂

😄

respect factor has shot through the roof 🙂

Cancers are hard to understand. At least, for me as an Aries and for the only Cancer I care.
We have a pretty long story. Seems now we have a sort of new beginning, we discussed and already planned a weekend in a neutral city to spend the weekend together (fixed 4 weeks ago, 2 more weeks to go). He was texting, calling all the time, we were getting closer again. Long talks, nice and teasing lovely messages. This Wednesday I sent him a good night message. Since than no answer, no text back.
It's pretty annoying, but this is the way they react. They feel they got too close, they stand back for a while. Live with it.

We come and go because sometimes we only like a certain percentage of a situation. And when that percentage is met it's time to drift. When we try to make a clean brake we get called jerks and tires get slashed so we dip, dive and dodge until we aren't really in your lives. Then we can finally be FREE! It's almost like peeling a scab.

It's common and they do it because they are selfish pricks.

Posted by starlover
I have known a fair few cancer men who cheat and also have left their wives and children. they dont seem to have much staying power do they? also if the chart has an influx of water, this gives a *feminine* feel to the chart, ie a water moon, maybe?

they probably have problems manning up, maybe?

Water sun and moon is not a common occurrence, but when this does happen these people are very hard. The most difficult are Cancer moons...arguing with them creates this feeling that you're in quicksand.

Posted by Fresco
Sometimes we aren't sure if you feel the same way about us..reassuring a cancer man that you feel the same way about him would help..

yup I have done that. made it quite clear and he still dipped and then came back the only thing now is I don't want him back for fear he is going to keep doing the same thing over and over again. My sister is going through the same thing and her cancer man is in and out. very frustrating. Both my sister and I are cancers and we both dealing with cancer men and going through the same motions. you would think that 2 cancers would understand each other, but I guess not. ehh it kinda sucks

Hmm. Maybe I??ve found the one thing me and my cancer have in common. I do this to people to avoid conflict, but once I see that it's only making them even more attached I completely dip for good. If that doesn't work then I will try to let them down as easy as possible. But honestly for some people no matter how gently you try to let them down, they still find some kind of way or loop trough your words to give themselves hope of being with you again, until disappearing seems like the perfect tactic. It may hurt at first but they can't latch on when they have nothing to hook themselves onto. My cancer dipping in and out is actually the least of my worries with him. To be honest sometimes I really need the space from his other little antics. Like his little tantrums and pouting whenever I don't say or do something the way he thinks I should do it, or when he thinks I should. That is so irritating. I literally have to ignore him until he has no choice but to speak his mind and tell me how he feels. I'm not a mind reader and I'm not about to start trying either. Either speak up, or shut up. Period. But nonetheless I love him. But I guess me being air sign, the in and out thing would only upset me if we are solid and living together or something I don't know??_

Posted by starlover
When people talk of aries men being big babies, at least they get over things quickly. Cancer men can hold a grudge for ages

really annoying!

Oh come on, let's not go overboard with words like "forever" 😛 😛.

It's more like a few weeks....maybe....sometimes...a few years....or decades...😛

Posted by starlover
oh did i use the word *forever* ~~ show me i cant see that 😄

*ages* is slightly less isnt it?

dont get me wrong i really like cancer men but the amount of committment phobes amongst you makes me think there must be some creedence in what these ladies write?

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oh ages ...forever...let's not be pedantic 😛 😛....

Commitment phobia among Cancer men is simply the expectation that something better will come along I think...it's definitely not a regular thing though. Quite frankly, most women that come here are not able to understand a subtle Cancer no.

Posted by Fresco
Okay.. i'll let her go..if it makes you all happy.

Ha! Yeah right you will!! You're nothing but a a parasite, sucking all her goodness from her.

I had a cancer male try to do this to me..blowing hot one day, nothing the next. I cut him off cold with no explanation. Blocked his number, blocked him on FB, blocked his email, everything.
He hunted me down at work after about a week for an explanation, trying to act like he was the victim. Yeah right! He certainly got his explanation, and I told him not to contact me again, but it didn't stop him. And he still calls/emails me at work (he works at a different branch) with BS questions about stuff, when he's been there 4 times longer than I have. I know it's just to keep in contact with me, and what is the point? Calls from 3 different numbers, but I have them all written down now so I can screen him. UGH. It's just a shame too, because I really liked him.
Cut them off ladies. Believe me, it will never ever stop. Don't lose your sparkle!!

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Posted by starlover
I have known a fair few cancer men who cheat and also have left their wives and children. they dont seem to have much staying power do they? also if the chart has an influx of water, this gives a *feminine* feel to the chart, ie a water moon, maybe?

they probably have problems manning up, maybe?

Water sun and moon is not a common occurrence, but when this does happen these people are very hard. The most difficult are Cancer moons...arguing with them creates this feeling that you're in quicksand.

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How are we very hard? Just curious.....