Whyyyyyy

I guess the drama with my boyfriends momma ain’t over. I ran the most recent incidents by a best friend, and she said it sounds like le future MIL is trying to break us up.

Back in August-ish my bf was installing hidden cameras at his moms office. It was just us 3 there. My bf was getting worked up because the cameras weren’t connecting to the WiFi properly, so I read the instructions to him and he snapped at me. After he stormed out of the room his mom told me, “if I were in your shoes I wouldn’t let him talk to me like that.” I was just thinking “wtf kind of comment is that?” He didn’t say anything personally attacking me; he just raised his voice out of agitation because the instructions didn’t work. So I explained to his mom that he’s just tired & stressed and she was like “well tired and stressed ain’t an excuse to act like that. If you don’t say something now he’s going to think he can treat you like that all the time”. I feel like I should mention my bf treats me like an angel 99% of the time; it’s just the 1% of the time when he’s doing things for his mom when he gets a short rope.

I guess I just felt like she was trying to plant the seed in my head that my bf is like my verbally/emotionally abusive dad 🙄 My bf said she’s just retarded, but when I told my bff about it she said it sounds like the mom is tryna break us up.

Then, in September my bfs mom offered to pay for new tires for my car. At the time, my parents were saying they’d pay for the tires, so I told that to his mom. Word for word I said “I think my parents are going to pay for the tires” and left it at that. Fast forward to October, she’s having a convo with my bf talking mad trash about me not having a job (that she knows of), and one thing she mentioned was me “turning my nose up” at her offer to pay for my tires. And then she mentioned how if she’s going to buy my bf a condo next year (for college) I better get a job to pay some of the bills because she’s not going to sponsor a free loader. She told him he can date who he wants after he graduates, but she “just can’t support” the both of us (it should be noted I’m making bank right now, and when we move next year I’ll have more job opportunities pertaining to what I want to make a lifelong career, so there’s no reason for her to be talking trash like I’m a dead beat).

Finally, today apparently she called him and they got to talking about my boyfriends mattress. My bf wants to get a new mattress this winter so he’s going to sell our current one to his mom. They’ve been talking about this for months now, but at first he was apprehensive because he didn’t know if we’d want it for a guest bedroom. Anyways, when they were talking about it today his mom apparently said she didn’t know if he was still selling it to her because I didn’t seem like I wanted to give it to her. I was like wtf? I’ve never talked to her about our mattress situation; it’s not my business.

I just don’t understand why she talks all this shit. I don’t like when people manipulate like that, and I absolutely can’t stand when people make up things about me and go telling those fake stories to people I care about. I know my boyfriend knows the truth, but I still feel like it’s disrespectful to both of us for her to even try spinning these stories. Most of all it’s just hurtful because it feels like she’s trying to paint me like some person who is trying to compete with her or some mean person who doesn’t want anything to do with her, when quite literally I was looking up to her for a while and wishing to turn her into a second mom since my own mom lives 1000 miles away.

I understand it would be helpful to maintain a relationship with her so she buys my bf a condo next year, buuuuut at this point I’m confident I could just pay for an apartment for us and support us by myself while he’s in college. I don’t want to accept anything from her because it just gives her more things to talk shit about.

Now I finally understand why my boyfriend has hated her all these years.

Another drama. The advice stays the same, Y'all need to go home ! 😄

On a more serious note tho, I'd stay away from her if I was you. Thank god my bf's mom is a wonderful woman

Oh and then there was this other incident that gave me weird vibes. She took us out to dinner for my birthday. She knew what she wanted because she gets the same thing every time. The waiter started the ordering with her husband, and when he was done ordering the waiter said “for you ma’am?” I obviously thought he was talking to my bf’s mom since I was still reading the menu, but there was silence and I looked up at the waiter was looking at me so I decided to order and my boyfriends mom was like “uhh...” and the waiter was like “oh...ok”.

Then when the waiter jumped back to my bf’s mom she ordered right away.

I just thought it was strange, and seemed like a typical move a narcissist would employ to make you feel humiliated. But maybe I’m reading too much into it. But it just didn’t sit right with me.

Posted by IAteMyGrandmaInMonkeyTown

Wait, why is this in a Cancer forum, weren't you with a Gem?

Yeah but his mom is a cancer

Posted by IAteMyGrandmaInMonkeyTown

Wait, why is this in a Cancer forum, weren't you with a Gem?

Apparently momma is Cancer.

I can be sure because mine is similar and Cancer as well...

Whorpio, tell her you need to take care of your hands to give her son good hand job. 😂

What school? I thought he was a provider. 🤷‍♀️

Posted by Whorpio

Oh and then there was this other incident that gave me weird vibes. She took us out to dinner for my birthday. She knew what she wanted because she gets the same thing every time. The waiter started the ordering with her husband, and when he was done ordering the waiter said “for you ma’am?” I obviously thought he was talking to my bf’s mom since I was still reading the menu, but there was silence and I looked up at the waiter was looking at me so I decided to order and my boyfriends mom was like “uhh...” and the waiter was like “oh...ok”.

Then when the waiter jumped back to my bf’s mom she ordered right away.

I just thought it was strange, and seemed like a typical move a narcissist would employ to make you feel humiliated. But maybe I’m reading too much into it. But it just didn’t sit right with me.

You ARE too sensitive! Are you sure you aren’t pregnant?

Posted by IAteMyGrandmaInMonkeyTown

Yeah but his mom is a cancer

Are you dating her?

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You showed your intelligence in first post so you can stop now. We got it...you slow. It’s ok. Read. Don’t write...🤦‍♀️

Posted by IAteMyGrandmaInMonkeyTown

Yeah but his mom is a cancer

Are you dating her?

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I have mommy issues and just want a second mother figure 😩

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Posted by IAteMyGrandmaInMonkeyTown

Wait, why is this in a Cancer forum, weren't you with a Gem?

Apparently momma is Cancer.

I can be sure because mine is similar and Cancer as well...

Whorpio, tell her you need to take care of your hands to give her son good hand job. 😂

What school? I thought he was a provider. 🤷‍♀️

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If I make sexual comment she will look at me like 😳

He is going back to get bachelors degree so he can make even better $ $ $ $ $ $

Posted by Gemitati You ARE too sensitive! Are you sure you aren’t pregnant?

You're making waaaaaaay big of a deal out of nothing, like it's some huge conspiracy lol.. I read the whole damn text and there was nothing, just some random pettiness and some other shit that needn't that much reading into

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Posted by Whorpio

I understand it would be helpful to maintain a relationship with her so she buys my bf a condo next year, buuuuut at this point I’m confident I could just pay for an apartment for us and support us by myself while he’s in college.

You realize she is his mother and you will have a relationship with her regardless of how you treat her right?

You two don't mix well. That's the issue. You are very different people and you don't like her. You don't have to like her. You just have to be nice. You can hate her ..just be nice.

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I usually like her, but now that I know she talks shit about me it’s sort of off putting 🤷‍♀️

A few months ago my boyfriend was even talking about severing ties with her for a year so she could hopefully shape up, but I begged him not to because back then I thought she was nice.

Posted by enfant_terrible

You're making waaaaaaay big of a deal out of nothing, like it's some huge conspiracy lol.. I read the whole damn text and there was nothing, just some random pettiness and some other shit that needn't that much reading into

That’s how I used to see it, buuut a couple of my friends now have said it’s abnormal behavior, that she sounds like a narcissist and like she’s trying to break us up and it’s just been making me re-evaluate all my interactions with her.

She’s trying to buy a used mattress? 😷😖

Posted by saggurl88

She’s trying to buy a used mattress? 😷😖

It’s for my boyfriends older brother who still lives with the mom.

So she doesn't kiss your ass? I can't believe the stuff you're complaining about it sounds like you "take issue" with anything less than worship.

She's kind enough to take you out for your birthday and offer to buy you tires and you still complain about her.

Who's disrespectful again? gtfo

Scorpios are too much problem, & dont take accountability

Posted by shellshocker

So she doesn't kiss your ass? I can't believe the stuff you're complaining about it sounds like you "take issue" with anything less than worship.

She's kind enough to take you out for your birthday and offer to buy you tires and you still complain about her.

Who's disrespectful again? gtfo

You’re right, I should feel lucky she calls me a golddigger who thinks I’m too good for this family when I try to show I’m not 🤦🏻‍♀️

On the note of being ungrateful, my boyfriend tells me stories of how she’ll willingly gift you money just to use it as a reason to get you to do something for her months later. I’d rather someone be upfront and tell me their terms, since I have several money sources who don’t play games like that 🤷‍♀️

Posted by 777

Scorpios are too much problem, & dont take accountability

Idk man, since I first met her I tried to be her friend and even gave her insight as to why my boyfriend gets frustrated with her so she can fix it.

Obviously I’m not perfect and I know I’ve done some things that upset her. But I still try to right my wrongs (is someone not condoning giving a toaster full of rat shit to your mom really a wrong tho?) and reset things every time I’ve apparently upset her, but it just gets exhausting feeling like I’m the only one trying to form a genuine friendship.

This is petty and stupid as hell 🤦 You sound like you're extra sensitive, wearing your feelings on your sleeve.

Additionally, you're dating a dude "who hates his mother", yet, he needs her to still buy him things? He doesn't quite sound like he's grown.

She's not trying to break y'all up but she does seem direct. Get thicker skin. Mom mentioned that you shouldn't allow her son to raise his voice at you. That's sound advixe NOT manipulation. If you think that frustration excuses a heightened tone of voice, there is much more to come.

Grow up. Stop whining about petty nonsense. Stop going to your lil gfs for advice. If anything, they'll be the ones to "break y'all up".

Good luck 🤦

His mother has mixed feelings about you and her son’s relationship. She obviously loves her son and I thinks she likes you but is unsure about your motives. She is showing some form of support by offering to pay for your tires and offering to help you all while he is in college. I think she wants you to open up more to her and show some gratitude. Because right now she sees you as an ungrateful girl that has her head too far up her ass. Maybe try showing her a softer more lovable side of you.

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Posted by 777

Scorpios are too much problem, & dont take accountability

Idk man, since I first met her I tried to be her friend and even gave her insight as to why my boyfriend gets frustrated with her so she can fix it.

Obviously I’m not perfect and I know I’ve done some things that upset her. But I still try to right my wrongs (is someone not condoning giving a toaster full of rat shit to your mom really a wrong tho?) and reset things every time I’ve apparently upset her, but it just gets exhausting feeling like I’m the only one trying to form a genuine friendship.

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The mom is not feeling something about you. Mothers know who they want & dont want their sons to be with. There is a reason you see, dont see, or trying not to see why she dosent think ur good fit

Posted by shellshocker

So she doesn't kiss your ass? I can't believe the stuff you're complaining about it sounds like you "take issue" with anything less than worship.

She's kind enough to take you out for your birthday and offer to buy you tires and you still complain about her.

Who's disrespectful again? gtfo

Right! 👏👏👏

I agree with Maiden the most, she made some good points. This whole thing is just misunderstanding after misunderstanding from you and her.

Posted by Whorpio

I guess the drama with my boyfriends momma ain’t over. I ran the most recent incidents by a best friend, and she said it sounds like le future MIL is trying to break us up.

Back in August-ish my bf was installing hidden cameras at his moms office. It was just us 3 there. My bf was getting worked up because the cameras weren’t connecting to the WiFi properly, so I read the instructions to him and he snapped at me. After he stormed out of the room his mom told me, “if I were in your shoes I wouldn’t let him talk to me like that.” I was just thinking “wtf kind of comment is that?” He didn’t say anything personally attacking me; he just raised his voice out of agitation because the instructions didn’t work. So I explained to his mom that he’s just tired & stressed and she was like “well tired and stressed ain’t an excuse to act like that. If you don’t say something now he’s going to think he can treat you like that all the time”. I feel like I should mention my bf treats me like an angel 99% of the time; it’s just the 1% of the time when he’s doing things for his mom when he gets a short rope.

I guess I just felt like she was trying to plant the seed in my head that my bf is like my verbally/emotionally abusive dad 🙄 My bf said she’s just retarded, but when I told my bff about it she said it sounds like the mom is tryna break us up.

Then, in September my bfs mom offered to pay for new tires for my car. At the time, my parents were saying they’d pay for the tires, so I told that to his mom. Word for word I said “I think my parents are going to pay for the tires” and left it at that. Fast forward to October, she’s having a convo with my bf talking mad trash about me not having a job (that she knows of), and one thing she mentioned was me “turning my nose up” at her offer to pay for my tires. And then she mentioned how if she’s going to buy my bf a condo next year (for college) I better get a job to pay some of the bills because she’s not going to sponsor a free loader. She told him he can date who he wants after he graduates, but she “just can’t support” the both of us (it should be noted I’m making bank right now, and when we move next year I’ll have more job opportunities pertaining to what I want to make a lifelong career, so there’s no reason for her to be talking trash like I’m a dead beat).

Finally, today apparently she called him and they got to talking about my boyfriends mattress. My bf wants to get a new mattress this winter so he’s going to sell our current one to his mom. They’ve been talking about this for months now, but at first he was apprehensive because he didn’t know if we’d want it for a guest bedroom. Anyways, when they were talking about it today his mom apparently said she didn’t know if he was still selling it to her because I didn’t seem like I wanted to give it to her. I was like wtf? I’ve never talked to her about our mattress situation; it’s not my business.

I just don’t understand why she talks all this shit. I don’t like when people manipulate like that, and I absolutely can’t stand when people make up things about me and go telling those fake stories to people I care about. I know my boyfriend knows the truth, but I still feel like it’s disrespectful to both of us for her to even try spinning these stories. Most of all it’s just hurtful because it feels like she’s trying to paint me like some person who is trying to compete with her or some mean person who doesn’t want anything to do with her, when quite literally I was looking up to her for a while and wishing to turn her into a second mom since my own mom lives 1000 miles away.

I understand it would be helpful to maintain a relationship with her so she buys my bf a condo next year, buuuuut at this point I’m confident I could just pay for an apartment for us and support us by myself while he’s in college. I don’t want to accept anything from her because it just gives her more things to talk shit about.

Now I finally understand why my boyfriend has hated her all these years.

Back in August-ish my bf was installing hidden cameras at his moms office. It was just us 3 there. My bf was getting worked up because the cameras weren’t connecting to the WiFi properly, so I read the instructions to him and he snapped at me. After he stormed out of the room his mom told me, “if I were in your shoes I wouldn’t let him talk to me like that.” I was just thinking “wtf kind of comment is that?” He didn’t say anything personally attacking me; he just raised his voice out of agitation because the instructions didn’t work. So I explained to his mom that he’s just tired & stressed and she was like “well tired and stressed ain’t an excuse to act like that. If you don’t say something now he’s going to think he can treat you like that all the time”.

Good on you for being understanding and caring of your boyfriend and knowing that him snapping at you had NOTHING to do with you. But also your MIL actions towards you have nothing to do with you and shows more of who she is than anything.

“She wouldn’t let him talk to her like that” I bet she doesn’t lol he wasn’t attacking you, right, but maybe mom thinks that when he talks to her like that, he’s attacking her, which he’s not but you know better. That’s how she probably feels tho, nothing you can do to change that. That whole ordeal was just her experience with him. She was basically telling you, “You should feel how I feel when he does that do me and this is what I think when he does that and you should think this way too” lol

Anyone who offers to pay for your stuff but expects anything in return is questionable. However, you could have said “Thank you but my parents are paying for them” and hell who knows, maybe she would have thought the same damn exact way regardless of what you say to her.

She could have said everything about buying him a place for college and leaving the free loader comment out. It was rude but again it says more about her than you because obviously that isn’t you. You could tell her “I will help pay bills because I wouldn’t want you to think I’m a FREE LOADER” 😂

Jk that would cause more drama than it’s worth and I know you would probably help pay bills anyway but you two need to sit down and have a conversation.

“First of all I want to thank you for offering to buy my tires but my parents were getting them, I appreciated the gesture though” (even though she could have been doing it for her self) who knows. Thats why responses are always hard. No one knows what is really going on through that woman’s head lol unless you sit down and ask and even then you may not find out the truth.

Anyways, continuing with your talk. “Also I understand you don’t want to take care of your son and I financially by getting us a condo and that’s perfectly fine but calling me a free loader was out of line. I do have the funds to help pay bills, I have the funds to get our own apartment to live in if that is what we agree on. I would just really appreciate it that if you had an issue with me, you’d come to me about it so we could sort these things out because it seems we’ve had a few misunderstandings lately and since I have been and will continue to be a part of your sons life, we should try to sort things out with each other like adults. I look up to you and want us to be able to fix our issues.

Ugh, Idk, I want you to go to her being understanding and caring but not kiss her ass which I know you won’t

With the mattress tell her it’s not that you don’t want to give it to her, it’s just that you’re thinking of keeping it for a spare bedroom. Simple and if she still talks shit for y’all wanting to keep it, that’s her issue

Meh my MIL is a shady bitch too 🤷🏼‍♀️ What can you do? It’s his mom.

Just keep it cute.

Let her always be the problem, not you

If you're making bank, why are you even entertaining the idea of someone else buying tires for your brand new mustang?

Posted by _Dazed

If you're making bank, why are you even entertaining the idea of someone else buying tires for your brand new mustang?

This was before I was making bank, a couple months ago.

Posted by blvckphvse

If he hates her why does he allow her to be so involved in your lives? She's a fkn nightmare.. You're a champ for putting up with that! Couldn't do it.

I think he doesn't hate her, but she stresses him out, agitates him. I think it might be a trigger for him when there's both mother and gf in the same room.

Just ignore the woman and her antics.

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Posted by _Dazed

If you're making bank, why are you even entertaining the idea of someone else buying tires for your brand new mustang?

This was before I was making bank, a couple months ago.

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Like back when you were renting a "condo on a golf course?"

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Posted by _Dazed

If you're making bank, why are you even entertaining the idea of someone else buying tires for your brand new mustang?

This was before I was making bank, a couple months ago.

Like back when you were renting a "condo on a golf course?"

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They’re called townhomes and back in June we got upgraded to the 4 bedroom unit still on the golf course 🥰

Four people here have my exact address sooooooo

Posted by brianafay

Meh my MIL is a shady bitch too 🤷🏼‍♀️ What can you do? It’s his mom.

Just keep it cute.

Let her always be the problem, not you

This is how I feel:

But I guess you’re right; I should just keep playing it nice and sweet.

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Posted by _Dazed

If you're making bank, why are you even entertaining the idea of someone else buying tires for your brand new mustang?

This was before I was making bank, a couple months ago.

Like back when you were renting a "condo on a golf course?"

They’re called townhomes and back in June we got upgraded to the 4 bedroom unit still on the golf course 🥰

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"upgraded" lol

No.. you simply moved into a more expensive unit with more room.

You like to exaggerate. Just like you did before I pointed out the picture you posted on the golf course, wasn't from a house.. but most likely a shitty Lindsay & Associates unit.

You've been "making bank" for quite some time now, which is why you've been trying to sell us lies of living in homes on golf courses.

You're not stripping or hooking anymore, so what ARE you doing that makes bank?

Have you gotten new tires for your mustang yet, and who paid for them?

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Posted by Whorpio

Posted by _DazedLike back when you were renting a "condo on a golf course?"

They’re called townhomes and back in June we got upgraded to the 4 bedroom unit still on the golf course 🥰

"upgraded" lol

No.. you simply moved into a more expensive unit with more room.

You like to exaggerate. Just like you did before I pointed out the picture you posted on the golf course, wasn't from a house.. but most likely a shitty Lindsay & Associates unit.

You've been "making bank" for quite some time now, which is why you've been trying to sell us lies of living in homes on golf courses.

You're not stripping or hooking anymore, so what ARE you doing that makes bank?

Have you gotten new tires for your mustang yet, and who paid for them?

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Look up the definition of “upgrade” and you’ll learn it is a word that can apply to space. So yes, it’s a space upgrade. Plus we got white marble counters in this unit as opposed to the green marble in the 3 bedroom, and we like the wood floors better in this one since they’re not hand scraped (they say hand scraped is more fancy but try cleaning up vomit and dog diarrhea off hand scraped floors 👀).

I guess you don’t know the definition of townhouse; it’s okay, I didn’t either and used to call our place an apartment until people kept correcting me.

Obviously it’s not an individual house; the houses in this area are McMansions and lord knows we can’t afford that yet.

Idk who Lindsay & Associates are, but I don’t live in Arkansas. I’m sorry y’all lack luxurious golf course housing 🤦🏻‍♀️ But just because that’s your experience doesn’t mean it’s the same everywhere else. How crazy is that?!

Um no I haven’t even claimed to be making bank since I retired from escorting. I had a job at Starbucks last year that was minimum wage. After I lost that job I went to school for medical coding and devoted all my energy towards that. After I got my certificate it’s been a struggle to find a coding job without experience so my bf and I recently made an agreement regarding something I can do to make money while also volunteering as a medical coder.

I started this job venture in October. I’m not fixin to announce it here, for privacy reasons. Ended up buying the tires myself my first week working.

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Posted by _Dazed

Posted by Whorpio

Posted by _DazedLike back when you were renting a "condo on a golf course?"

They’re called townhomes and back in June we got upgraded to the 4 bedroom unit still on the golf course 🥰

"upgraded" lol

No.. you simply moved into a more expensive unit with more room.

You like to exaggerate. Just like you did before I pointed out the picture you posted on the golf course, wasn't from a house.. but most likely a shitty Lindsay & Associates unit.

You've been "making bank" for quite some time now, which is why you've been trying to sell us lies of living in homes on golf courses.

You're not stripping or hooking anymore, so what ARE you doing that makes bank?

Have you gotten new tires for your mustang yet, and who paid for them?

Look up the definition of “upgrade” and you’ll learn it is a word that can apply to space. So yes, it’s a space upgrade. Plus we got white marble counters in this unit as opposed to the green marble in the 3 bedroom, and we like the wood floors better in this one since they’re not hand scraped (they say hand scraped is more fancy but try cleaning up vomit and dog diarrhea off hand scraped floors 👀).

I guess you don’t know the definition of townhouse; it’s okay, I didn’t either and used to call our place an apartment until people kept correcting me.

Obviously it’s not an individual house; the houses in this area are McMansions and lord knows we can’t afford that yet.

Idk who Lindsay & Associates are, but I don’t live in Arkansas. I’m sorry y’all lack luxurious golf course housing 🤦🏻‍♀️ But just because that’s your experience doesn’t mean it’s the same everywhere else. How crazy is that?!

Um no I haven’t even claimed to be making bank since I retired from escorting. I had a job at Starbucks last year that was minimum wage. After I lost that job I went to school for medical coding and devoted all my energy towards that. After I got my certificate it’s been a struggle to find a coding job without experience so my bf and I recently made an agreement regarding something I can do to make money while also volunteering as a medical coder.

I started this job venture in October. I’m not fixin to announce it here, for privacy reasons. Ended up buying the tires myself my first week working.

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"Volunteering" as a medical coder lol

Please tell me more about this.

As a medical professional, I want to hear more about these volunteer opportunities as a medical coder.

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Posted by WhorpioLook up the definition of “upgrade” and you’ll learn it is a word that can apply to space. So yes, it’s a space upgrade. Plus we got white marble counters in this unit as opposed to the green marble in the 3 bedroom, and we like the wood floors better in this one since they’re not hand scraped (they say hand scraped is more fancy but try cleaning up vomit and dog diarrhea off hand scraped floors 👀).

I guess you don’t know the definition of townhouse; it’s okay, I didn’t either and used to call our place an apartment until people kept correcting me.

Obviously it’s not an individual house; the houses in this area are McMansions and lord knows we can’t afford that yet.

Idk who Lindsay & Associates are, but I don’t live in Arkansas. I’m sorry y’all lack luxurious golf course housing 🤦🏻‍♀️ But just because that’s your experience doesn’t mean it’s the same everywhere else. How crazy is that?!

Um no I haven’t even claimed to be making bank since I retired from escorting. I had a job at Starbucks last year that was minimum wage. After I lost that job I went to school for medical coding and devoted all my energy towards that. After I got my certificate it’s been a struggle to find a coding job without experience so my bf and I recently made an agreement regarding something I can do to make money while also volunteering as a medical coder.

I started this job venture in October. I’m not fixin to announce it here, for privacy reasons. Ended up buying the tires myself my first week working.

"Volunteering" as a medical coder lol

Please tell me more about this.

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It’s called “job shadowing” but it’s coordinated by the hospitals volunteer department. I basically just help the billing department input data for 8 hours a week, but it’s something to put on my resume 🤷‍♀️

Are you still getting all expenses paid? You know.. back before you were making bank?

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Posted by _Dazed

Posted by WhorpioLook up the definition of “upgrade” and you’ll learn it is a word that can apply to space. So yes, it’s a space upgrade. Plus we got white marble counters in this unit as opposed to the green marble in the 3 bedroom, and we like the wood floors better in this one since they’re not hand scraped (they say hand scraped is more fancy but try cleaning up vomit and dog diarrhea off hand scraped floors 👀).

I guess you don’t know the definition of townhouse; it’s okay, I didn’t either and used to call our place an apartment until people kept correcting me.

Obviously it’s not an individual house; the houses in this area are McMansions and lord knows we can’t afford that yet.

Idk who Lindsay & Associates are, but I don’t live in Arkansas. I’m sorry y’all lack luxurious golf course housing 🤦🏻‍♀️ But just because that’s your experience doesn’t mean it’s the same everywhere else. How crazy is that?!

Um no I haven’t even claimed to be making bank since I retired from escorting. I had a job at Starbucks last year that was minimum wage. After I lost that job I went to school for medical coding and devoted all my energy towards that. After I got my certificate it’s been a struggle to find a coding job without experience so my bf and I recently made an agreement regarding something I can do to make money while also volunteering as a medical coder.

I started this job venture in October. I’m not fixin to announce it here, for privacy reasons. Ended up buying the tires myself my first week working.

"Volunteering" as a medical coder lol

Please tell me more about this.

It’s called “job shadowing” but it’s coordinated by the hospitals volunteer department. I basically just help the billing department input data for 8 hours a week, but it’s something to put on my resume 🤷‍♀️

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Billing and coding are two different departments. Do you know what I do? Curious..

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Are you still getting all expenses paid? You know.. back before you were making bank?

My boyfriend has been paying the bills. Now that I got my source of income I’m gonna contribute once he starts school full time.

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Billing and coding are two different departments. Do you know what I do? Curious..

Yes, I know they’re different departments. But the volunteer coordinator said I’ll eventually get moved to coding. She said I’ll be doing a little of everything. It’s just wherever I’m needed.

IIRC, you’re a medical coder too, right?

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Billing and coding are two different departments. Do you know what I do? Curious..

Yes, I know they’re different departments. But the volunteer coordinator said I’ll eventually get moved to coding. She said I’ll be doing a little of everything. It’s just wherever I’m needed.

IIRC, you’re a medical coder too, right?

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Do you remember just saying this?

"I recently made an agreement regarding something I can do to make money while also volunteering as a medical coder."

Are you camming or doing porn?

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Billing and coding are two different departments. Do you know what I do? Curious..

Yes, I know they’re different departments. But the volunteer coordinator said I’ll eventually get moved to coding. She said I’ll be doing a little of everything. It’s just wherever I’m needed.

IIRC, you’re a medical coder too, right?

Do you remember just saying this?

"I recently made an agreement regarding something I can do to make money while also volunteering as a medical coder."

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At the end of the day it’s going on my resume as “medical coding” since that’s most relevant to the career I want in the future and that is what my credential (CPC-A) is for.

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Billing and coding are two different departments. Do you know what I do? Curious..

Yes, I know they’re different departments. But the volunteer coordinator said I’ll eventually get moved to coding. She said I’ll be doing a little of everything. It’s just wherever I’m needed.

IIRC, you’re a medical coder too, right?

Do you remember just saying this?

"I recently made an agreement regarding something I can do to make money while also volunteering as a medical coder."

At the end of the day it’s going on my resume as “medical coding” since that’s most relevant to the career I want in the future and that is what my credential (CPC-A) is for.

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Sooo.. exaggerated? Like your apartment and volunteer position? Who are you trying to impress here? What good comes from lying about your life in dxp?

Ps.. just putting it on your resume won't help you. When they start asking you in the interview the coding difference of a traditional vs modified DS, or a SB resection for necrosis vs a revision gastrojejunostomy..

They are going to laugh at you.

Posted by _DazedPs.. just putting it on your resume won't help you. When they start asking you in the interview the coding difference of a traditional vs modified DS, or a SB resection for necrosis vs a revision gastrojejunostomy..

They are going to laugh at you.

Okay so you do coding for the gastro unit, we get it. Besides, this volunteer thing is also fairly recent. I’ll be looking for a coding job in about a year so I’ll have more experience by then. If I’m not confident with my experience I can get an externship via the AAPC website, duh.

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Posted by _DazedPs.. just putting it on your resume won't help you. When they start asking you in the interview the coding difference of a traditional vs modified DS, or a SB resection for necrosis vs a revision gastrojejunostomy..

They are going to laugh at you.

Okay so you do coding for the gastro unit, we get it. Besides, this volunteer thing is also fairly recent. I’ll be looking for a coding job in about a year so I’ll have more experience by then. If I’m not confident with my experience I can get an externship via the AAPC website, duh.

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I'm not a coder lol

What do you do that's making bank? Porn? Camming? Hooking?

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Are you still getting all expenses paid? You know.. back before you were making bank?

My boyfriend has been paying the bills. Now that I got my source of income I’m gonna contribute once he starts school full time.

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Also..

How were you getting all expenses paid?

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So she doesn't kiss your ass? I can't believe the stuff you're complaining about it sounds like you "take issue" with anything less than worship.

She's kind enough to take you out for your birthday and offer to buy you tires and you still complain about her.

Who's disrespectful again? gtfo

she didn't shit on the woman for taking her out to dinner

and she didn't shit on the woman for offering to buy her tires

in fact she didn't shit on the woman at all.

she said she got a strange feeling at dinner

and the woman talked trashed when she told her that the tires were taken care of.

which, to me, suggests that while the GESTURE was noble the MOTIVATION was not.

I've met many people who were "generous" and it was "nice" but the motivation was either a leverage move for them or it made them feel powerful and had nothing to do with selflessness.

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Where do you meet all these people?