Will this cancer man come back?
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by Dapadon on Friday, June 7, 2013 and has 8 replies.
I'm a Pisces girl. I would always see this guy around school a lot and we would lock eyes. One day he finally approached me and I was glad he did because I was too shy.??
He listened very attentively to what I said and he was very affectionate-he ALWAYS LIKED TO TOUCH. Anyways, our date was lovely and we were off to a great start.
I noticed that he was coming on very strong and I wasn't ready to move at a faster pace yet. I communicated to him that I wanted to take things slow but I wasn't going anywhere. He agreed, so I thought...but still acted the same and continuously told me that I was too busy for him. I only seemed busy because I started to take on work loads in advance to keep myself busy. I did this because I wanted to slow things down a bit and I was scared that I would fall in love too quickly and get hurt. This was my defense mechanism.
Anyways, we got into a petty argument, and even though we've had many before, this time it seemed different. For almost 2 weeks he hadn't contacted me. When I saw him at work he walked right past me as if I was nothing to him. When I asked him about it he was very cold and direct, two traits I've never experienced from him EVER. He said he couldn't get to know me because I was too busy and we texted too much instead of being more personal. REALLY?! Then what on earth made him so cold towards me. I don't get it. If he wanted more attention and communication from me why would he treat me like a stranger?
I told him that I was being cautious because I have trust issues. I asked him if it's over and he said he wasn't going further because I need to work on opening up. He seemed very ICE cold, direct, distant, and nonchalant. For some weird reason, I still think he cares but tried to act like he didn't.
Can someone tell me what this really means? Does he still think about me? Is he really done? Will he come back? (It's been almost a month)
I really like him and think about him ALL of the time but part of me has resentment because I feel like he abandoned what we had. As much as i care i will NEVER turn back if it's too late. I NEED to know should I give up hope and move on?
You were not open enough from the start, so he felt like you were not interested as much as him. I react the same way. If you're willing to spend more time with him and not be afraid so much, you could try to talk to him, otherwise you shouldn't bother.
It's just the initial step that's a bit fast, because we need to know a lot about you to not feel like we're wasting our time. Phase 2 is hella slow.
Oh, and get rid of the dumb CAPS!!!111 lolrorz
It's just the initial step that's a bit fast, because we need to know a lot about you to not feel like we're wasting our time. Phase 2 is hella slow.
Oh, and get rid of the dumb CAPS!!!111 lolrorz
@mr.crabby I'm definitely willing to spend and make more time for him. The thing that makes me stay away is that I've reached out to him twice and he seemed cold. Are you sure I should talk to him? He doesn't seem to want to talk. How do I even approach him with his current behavior?
Btw, my CAPS are here to stay. I can't help it. Lol
Btw, my CAPS are here to stay. I can't help it. Lol
Posted by Dapadon
@mr.crabby I'm definitely willing to spend and make more time for him. The thing that makes me stay away is that I've reached out to him twice and he seemed cold. Are you sure I should talk to him? He doesn't seem to want to talk. How do I even approach him with his current behavior?
Btw, my CAPS are here to stay. I can't help it. Lol
Eh.
It's hard to know how long to wait with us. Things always take a very long time. I guess you could be nice but acting tough, like you're not going to feel bad or guilty or anything. Be up front and solid and make sure you don't do a puppy face. Make him feel bad that he's still being "like that".
Don't "reach out", just talk. If you can forget about all of that and not mention it again, it will be a lot better. Be current, talk about the NBA or something. I have the feeling you brought up some old stuff he didn't want to hear about the last you talked. We remember everything, so you don't need to bring it up again. Be casual.
*the last time you talked
@mr.crabby I never see him around anymore so it's hard to not "reach out" to him. I feel like he's avoiding me (taking the stairs instead of elevators, different entrances, etc). How can I spark up a conversation with him via phone? Apparently, he thinks texting is too impersonal but he seems so cold that a phone call doesn't seem like a good idea to me.
Do you think he's still interested? It's SO hard to tell.
Anyone?
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