WTH happened?

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by ConfusionBeyondSanity on Tuesday, February 3, 2009 and has 11 replies.
This Cancer guy was coming around all the time and begging me not to move back to VA to be with my family so I decided after thinking about things that I would stay in the area. He was always around and stuff for three weeks or so. After hanging out and having fun he texted me that if I stayed he would so love to see where a relationship with me would go. Well today after hanging out and having fun he says that he wants to get to know me better as friends before he gets into a relationship... WTH? What did I do wrong?
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I forgot to include we did have a slight disagreement before I got out of his car and I did say "I give up." but i didn't mean it. I wonder if that is what brought on this whole friendship stuff.
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I think I'm gonna text him an apology and leave him to sulk for a couple days.
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Ugh, he just texted me back and is now telling me he is not ready for a relationship. Something about not feeling like he is enough. I don't see how he could not be enough and I told him so. After a few texts he quit responding. I hope I didn't run him off. I did not tell him I love him or anything like that but that if he never takes a risk how will he ever know. An hour later asked him what he was up to and no response. This guy is driving me batty with his behavior.
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Ugh, he just texted me back and is now telling me he is not ready for a relationship. Something about not feeling like he is enough. I don't see how he could not be enough and I told him so. After a few texts he quit responding. I hope I didn't run him off. I did not tell him I love him or anything like that but that if he never takes a risk how will he ever know. An hour later asked him what he was up to and no response. This guy is driving me batty with his behavior.
Enjoy the ride honey it gets way better than THIS! LOL!
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I did stop texting him thank you. After the watcha doing no response crap. I left him alone.
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1) we did have a slight disagreement before I got out of his car and I did say "I give up." but i didn't mean it
2) I think I'm gonna text him an apology and leave him to sulk for a couple days.
3) here is a thought...STOP TEXTING HIM. never cater to their sulk.
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I meant to say 'though about number 1-ing'... sorry about that.
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Update:
Well we ended up trying to date. All was well for a while but as soon as I started to like him a little more, and he agreed for us to get closer, he immediately turned around an did a 180. He pulled the friendship card again. Claims we were going too fast, which I do not understand since we only held hands once. Then he started pulling away more and more and I barely initiated contacted with him but he doesn't seem to be interested anymore. I did ask for clarification and he doesn't seem to want to share much. Really sucks because we work together and I have to see him daily and all our friends don't understand what the heck happened either.
I guess I should mention that I am in the middle of a divorce and he suddenly is saying it not being finished yet is a problem for him and he doesn't want to be a rebound and that he "needs for us to be friends" I don't know why he would need my friendship if he isn't interested anymore. He knew the situation when he started pursuing me so I don't understand his hesitation now. Oh well. Sad
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After he said that he feels like he's not enough, you should have bolted and never looked back. Ignore this Cancer and move on.
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The update is he doesn't want to be a rebound. He basically gave up on us and wouldn't give me a straight answer. I had to ask our mutual friends. He never comes by anymore and we rarely talk at all outside of work yet we are supposedly "friends"..I have given up on him because he isn't treating me right.
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