You people drive me psycho
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by SuperMissMan on Thursday, July 23, 2015 and has 21 replies.
I jst tried to open up my relationship with my extremely ultra cancer-pisces boyfriend for two days.
I m 16 and he recently turned 18 and i said its only fair to himsince we now live across the country to be free to explore nd not feel stuck if a situation comes about. "but Aasituation WONT come" *breaths shallow nd pauses to stop tears* "I love YOU and thats never changing."
JUST TAKE THE FUCKING FREEDOM.
I even told him if he doesnt want to set me free, fine. ive had experiac..he hasnt hes an adult and i don want to hold him backor stress him out. Im doing it for him i dont want him on my back like puppy he needs to enjoy his god damn life like holy shit. You cancers are waaaaay tl emotionally attached.
Guys would dream of this freedom.
I seriously m totly okay if h goes an explores sexually or emotionlly with other people. I hate him yes but i lov him and i trust him. I trus that watever he chooses to do is what will make him happy and i wnt that option open to him. I want him to b happy. why is that SOOOOO hard?
He knows il hold nothing against him.ima very open person and i swore that id be here in two years, i dont plan onhvig serious relatiknships for a long time and i move on fast. What is the problem here? I realy dont see it.
I m 16 and he recently turned 18 and i said its only fair to himsince we now live across the country to be free to explore nd not feel stuck if a situation comes about. "but Aasituation WONT come" *breaths shallow nd pauses to stop tears* "I love YOU and thats never changing."
JUST TAKE THE FUCKING FREEDOM.
I even told him if he doesnt want to set me free, fine. ive had experiac..he hasnt hes an adult and i don want to hold him backor stress him out. Im doing it for him i dont want him on my back like puppy he needs to enjoy his god damn life like holy shit. You cancers are waaaaay tl emotionally attached.
Guys would dream of this freedom.
I seriously m totly okay if h goes an explores sexually or emotionlly with other people. I hate him yes but i lov him and i trust him. I trus that watever he chooses to do is what will make him happy and i wnt that option open to him. I want him to b happy. why is that SOOOOO hard?
He knows il hold nothing against him.ima very open person and i swore that id be here in two years, i dont plan onhvig serious relatiknships for a long time and i move on fast. What is the problem here? I realy dont see it.
Honestly no one needs to explain if they dont want to waste their time.
I just wante to complain. I cant seem to figure out what the fucking problem is so im putting it on the shelf and going to bed. goodnight.
I just wante to complain. I cant seem to figure out what the fucking problem is so im putting it on the shelf and going to bed. goodnight.
Posted by SuperMissMan
I m 16 .....
It shows.
You're doing it for yourself... at least be honest about it.
I dont wnt to date anymore.
I literally told him he does not hve to give m that freedom if it mkes him uncomfortable and we agreed he wont. I make a mess when i go after pople. I honestly feel bad for him. i am his first everuthing...at least explore a little an make some dmn memories of college.
I literally told him he does not hve to give m that freedom if it mkes him uncomfortable and we agreed he wont. I make a mess when i go after pople. I honestly feel bad for him. i am his first everuthing...at least explore a little an make some dmn memories of college.
Si i have moved on from him but i gave my word id stay. I do have aspects where im doing it becas itll benefit me but i literally am doing it for him. Its slightly jncomfortble but i know he wont regret it.
Posted by TokerX
So what's the problem here?
You are.
He loves you and doesn't want to cheat on you. You want him to cheat. Well no, actually you're just breaking up with him. Pretty sure you're the one that wants to sleep around, so you tell him he is allowed to so that you don't have to feel guilty when you do.
As i said he didnt need to give me that freedom I dont care for it, im trying to work on myself WITHOUT drama I hbe 2 years eft to get myself straight and go to a good college.time cannot b wasted anymore. Hes barely an acception.
u kno what u guys are right.
I m doing it for me. Hes so commite to me and i used to be wen it was fresh.
But i maintaned hi happiness with me an made sure i did my part but he didnt do his. I chased him the entire time an i made ALL the moves not to mention al the en things hes saidan done. Im sixteen i dont want to commit until im MUCH olde an i DONT want to commit to him. Hes scared f his on shadow. i cant respect someon who desnt respect themselves and i don feel like the female in this relatiknhip tbh. im very unhappy and i want him to find slmeone else who will coddle himgladly.I care abou him an il do anything it tkes to make him see someone better for him i out there and igoing todo it wihout hurting him.
I m doing it for me. Hes so commite to me and i used to be wen it was fresh.
But i maintaned hi happiness with me an made sure i did my part but he didnt do his. I chased him the entire time an i made ALL the moves not to mention al the en things hes saidan done. Im sixteen i dont want to commit until im MUCH olde an i DONT want to commit to him. Hes scared f his on shadow. i cant respect someon who desnt respect themselves and i don feel like the female in this relatiknhip tbh. im very unhappy and i want him to find slmeone else who will coddle himgladly.I care abou him an il do anything it tkes to make him see someone better for him i out there and igoing todo it wihout hurting him.
the spelling hurts my eyes.
anyway, stop explaining and just leave. let him cry or whatever. he will see in the long run it does no good to hold on to someone who doesnt want to be
held on to. 16 and 18 - who said you'd be together forever anyway? this dose of reality is good for him. but be honest to him. dont tell him to go have
experiences with someone else. instead off bat say you want to leave and you dont want to settle down anymore. dont hold his hand. rip the bandage off.
anyway, stop explaining and just leave. let him cry or whatever. he will see in the long run it does no good to hold on to someone who doesnt want to be
held on to. 16 and 18 - who said you'd be together forever anyway? this dose of reality is good for him. but be honest to him. dont tell him to go have
experiences with someone else. instead off bat say you want to leave and you dont want to settle down anymore. dont hold his hand. rip the bandage off.
He's too damn old to be with a 16 year old. He needs to find some crotch his own age.
You sound like the mature one in the situation. I say, If he won't accept your no for an answer, talk to other boys and destroy his insides. Don't think about his feelings since clearly he isn't thinking about yours.
Just move on and be happy. Don't let a bitch boy ruin your teenage years.
You sound like the mature one in the situation. I say, If he won't accept your no for an answer, talk to other boys and destroy his insides. Don't think about his feelings since clearly he isn't thinking about yours.
Just move on and be happy. Don't let a bitch boy ruin your teenage years.
Crazy that a bunch of ADULTS are slut-shaming a young TEEN trying to get out of a toxic relationship.
If any of you were my kids, I'D be ashamed of THAT.
If any of you were my kids, I'D be ashamed of THAT.
Posted by libraqueen
Lmao don't mind these idiots on this board, they kinda lack common sense. If I had a daughter that was 16 I would totally tell her to move on because her whole life is ahead of her. You morons really think a 16 year old and 18 year old is going to end up together forever? She's doing the right thing. Good for you!
+100
Don't listen to these adults trying to use your sexuality against you. You are doing the right thing by leaving this situation.
Posted by KaptainKhaosPosted by libraqueen
Lmao don't mind these idiots on this board, they kinda lack common sense. If I had a daughter that was 16 I would totally tell her to move on because her whole life is ahead of her. You morons really think a 16 year old and 18 year old is going to end up together forever? She's doing the right thing. Good for you!
+100
Don't listen to these adults trying to use your sexuality against you. You are doing the right thing by leaving this situation.click to expand
-200
Don't listen to these tards, obviousely they're unfamiliar with the term personal accountability, which is what the "adults" here are driving at.
Why are YOU pussyfooting around, break up with him instead of sending him mixed signals. You want him to see other girls so he's not wasting his time on you in case this doesn't work out... and you don't see it working out, but you won't break up with him... just yet... or something... tbh you're kind of inconsistant and all over the place. At least he's certain what he wants here and now. So just tell him as it is.
And lmao @ "toxic relationship". What's toxic about it? "Omg there are feelz involved somewhere .... that shit is toxic!! "
Posted by Arielle83
Lol @ -200
And someone named kaptain khaos calling out toxic relationship.
What does my screen name have to do with anything???
"I jst tried to open up my relationship "
That what ppl do these days when they want out of a relationship, they open it selflessly (ha!)for the other person in the hopes that he/she will just go away gradually? lmao
That what ppl do these days when they want out of a relationship, they open it selflessly (ha!)for the other person in the hopes that he/she will just go away gradually? lmao
Do him a favor and leave. You are wasting his and your time.
He's investing his emotions into you and your just like "ugh, I don't want you in a way I kind of do but I'm just going to stay and make you think there's a chance we can further our relationship " .
If you are not content, leave. Grow some balls.
You don't really love him. Love is commonly confused for emotional attachment. I see no love for him the way you speak.
Stay single, at your rate you most likely will have problems with long term relationships. I won't shame you for being your age and doing the funny business, but it truly is a shame for you to have someone in your deck of cards because you simply cannot pull the plug for good.
You are young. You don't really know what love is (plain as day from what can be seen on your post/previous posts), and your relationship is long distance. Just a few things to take into account... As to why it won't work...
Yeah just be honest with him about how you feel and how his ass is expendable, no merry go round the mulberry bush.. Poor monkey can't chase the weasel forever.
He's investing his emotions into you and your just like "ugh, I don't want you in a way I kind of do but I'm just going to stay and make you think there's a chance we can further our relationship " .
If you are not content, leave. Grow some balls.
You don't really love him. Love is commonly confused for emotional attachment. I see no love for him the way you speak.
Stay single, at your rate you most likely will have problems with long term relationships. I won't shame you for being your age and doing the funny business, but it truly is a shame for you to have someone in your deck of cards because you simply cannot pull the plug for good.
You are young. You don't really know what love is (plain as day from what can be seen on your post/previous posts), and your relationship is long distance. Just a few things to take into account... As to why it won't work...
Yeah just be honest with him about how you feel and how his ass is expendable, no merry go round the mulberry bush.. Poor monkey can't chase the weasel forever.
Posted by ArriusPosted by Arielle83
No wonder so many teenage boys grow up to have such disdain towards young women.
Yep. And five years from now she'll be wailing about how guys treat her like a shake n' bake bag. smdhclick to expand
*dead* @ Shake n' bake bag
Make a clean cut. Stop sending mixed messages to him. He's hurt and doesn't want it to end - natural when you think* you're in love with someone. He will learn to be more cautious with his heart in the future. Then some girl will come to this site asking why he won't just reveal his heart to her! People!
What do you mean YOU PEOPLE????
Posted by kissmygrits
What do you mean YOU PEOPLE????
Not sure if your'e referring to my *People
stmt or someone else post. I see post after post - why is it so hard for cancers to open up. Geesh! Like fuck, because we've been so damn hurt - and they (*people*) get all frustrated at us- demanding that we just open up our feelings. They're like - why do they make it so damn hard? OP knows this guy loves her - she trust him, blah blah blah - then goes - I'll be back in two years??? In two years, he may not give a fuck - and then she'll be singing a different song! She has every right to leave and explore if she's not into the relationship anymore. But why dangle the *two year* carrot in front of him. I hope he doesn't give a fuck about her feelings when she returns like she doesn't give a fuck about his right now...
You're still 16? You were 16 last year.
If you want to break up with him, just come out and tell him that. Don't try to guilt him with "doing it for his own good". That's manipulative. Just own the fact that you want to break up. "I'm 16, I'm not into you now the way I was at first, and I want to try dating other people." Simple, honest, to the point.
If you want to break up with him, just come out and tell him that. Don't try to guilt him with "doing it for his own good". That's manipulative. Just own the fact that you want to break up. "I'm 16, I'm not into you now the way I was at first, and I want to try dating other people." Simple, honest, to the point.
I cnt. ive trie it any times months befkre a it aways wa awful. I dot want him hurtin himself again i want him to move on peacefully. I wa s very committed to him but my motiknl needs were never met. It wa lik h was the womn a it wa always about wat wa going on in hs life an how he fels bout every situation. Then if ha soething going on he sould act like it desnt even matter and then tlk about how he feels agin and im sick of it. Teo days ago wa the first time i ha tlked to him in two ad a half months. that space gave me perspective. I can do it openly becas he isnt mature nough o handl it but i want to d it graually
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