He flipped...

My Virgo and I are watching the horse races on TV, some names are said and I thought they mentioned a very prominent jockey that races locally... No, that was something to do with the name of the horse (very arrogantly said btw, like a Virgo fwiw), "they NEVER mention jockey's name during a race" (I took his word for it, no big deal). Next race, they specifically state a jockey's name. I ask the question, "wasn't that the jockey?" referring to his name. He flipped out totally and uncontrollably. Said it wasn't Rose in the first race, well, that's not what I asked, they just said the name of the jockey in the race we were watching. Kept going on about the first. So, he is going on and the next race comes on and goes, then he asks, "did you hear a jockey's name?" NO, not over your ranting and raving I heard nothing. Then he starts calling me a Cunt and everything else under the sun.

Because he was wrong, and "they NEVER" but they did, I somehow am the bad guy. How was this an issue? How did it become an issue? It was never a big deal! It was what it was. No, he turns it into something crazy.

I threw him out of my house! I told him no one was going to speak to me that way and to leave as I pushed him toward the door. When I tried to grab his stuff to 'help' him, he grabbed me. I demanded he take his hands off me and leave, he shoved me across the room. IDK what else happened, there was a little more physical altercation, but it's all a blur now, I know I hit the wall. I'm sure it wasn't intentional on his part... (and yeah, I know I'll get slammed for that statement, but I believe it to be true).

I addressed his name calling candidly and that no one was going to speak to me that way and call me names, the only reference to him pushing me against the wall that I made was that I told him that the stories I've heard are true, he knew what I was talking abut, his response: his ex-wife said under oath he never did those things to her, I told him she lied! And I truly believe so at this point.

I have a voice mail and text - he's sorry and should have never said to me the things he said... really?

Life is lovely...

Damn.... Not cool at all... 😢


Respect for throwing him out on his ass though..

Who? Him? He's perfect (in true Virgo style I might add)! It's EVERYONE else who is whacked! *rolls eyes*

Venus in Leo... but, that's par for the course, that's what I seem to attract, Venus in Leo, Mars in Libra guys.

Gotta love them virgos...

He deserved a good box before you threw him out, just for using the C word.

Posted by lildol
My Virgo and I are watching the horse races on TV, some names are said and I thought they mentioned a very prominent jockey that races locally... No, that was something to do with the name of the horse (very arrogantly said btw, like a Virgo fwiw), "they NEVER mention jockey's name during a race" (I took his word for it, no big deal). Next race, they specifically state a jockey's name. I ask the question, "wasn't that the jockey?" referring to his name. He flipped out totally and uncontrollably. Said it wasn't Rose in the first race, well, that's not what I asked, they just said the name of the jockey in the race we were watching. Kept going on about the first. So, he is going on and the next race comes on and goes, then he asks, "did you hear a jockey's name?" NO, not over your ranting and raving I heard nothing. Then he starts calling me a Cunt and everything else under the sun.

Because he was wrong, and "they NEVER" but they did, I somehow am the bad guy. How was this an issue? How did it become an issue? It was never a big deal! It was what it was. No, he turns it into something crazy.

I threw him out of my house! I told him no one was going to speak to me that way and to leave as I pushed him toward the door. When I tried to grab his stuff to 'help' him, he grabbed me. I demanded he take his hands off me and leave, he shoved me across the room. IDK what else happened, there was a little more physical altercation, but it's all a blur now, I know I hit the wall. I'm sure it wasn't intentional on his part... (and yeah, I know I'll get slammed for that statement, but I believe it to be true).

I addressed his name calling candidly and that no one was going to speak to me that way and call me names, the only reference to him pushing me against the wall that I made was that I told him that the stories I've heard are true, he knew what I was talking abut, his response: his ex-wife said under oath he never did those things to her, I told him she lied! And I truly believe so at this point.

I have a voice mail and text - he's sorry and should have never said to me the things he said... really?

Life is lovely...

If you continue to stay in an abusive relationship because you think he will change and start treating you well, think again. An abusive man does not change without long-term therapy.

The fact they cry and beg forgiveness really amounts to zero. Stay safe.

...All that negativity he held in finally exploded.

Did you recognize the signs lildol?

You gotta leave him alone. I haven't read alot of your history with him, but the little that I do read makes me think there's a love/hate thing going on in him concerning you. Nothing positive will ever come from that, so it's best to let it go. Might be hard, but I can only see things getting worse.

Besides, I think relationships are about bringing out the best in people. If you are bringing out his worst and he's bringing out yours then that's not a healthy relationship, nor can a solid foundation be built on that.

this is what I read about virgo

their 'attention to detail' is for a reason: to help others. Virgos, more than any other sign, were born to serve, and it gives them great joy. They are also tailor-made for the job, since they are industrious, methodical and efficient. The sense of duty borne by these folks is considerable, and it ensures that they will always work for the greater good.



The great strength of the Virgo-born is in their practicality, sharp mind and attention to detail. When merged with their willingness to serve, Virgos become essential helpmates. They can be picky -- so what?

It sounds like your man is very much interested in attention to detail and prides himself on it..so if you point out that hes failing in this endeavour itll be a sore spot. BUT hes lost himself somewhere hes forgotten why the details are important..because they might help the greater good. With this problem one could become critical and fussy and perfectionist etc with a selfish ego mind behind it ..in which case that energy is driven into hating those they are close to as failures, inadequate people and a mind despising others seeing them as lazy or not caring enough to make an effort.

It sounds to me like hes built up a hatred for you paying attention to THESE details and maybe he considers the greater good to be 'sorting you out' or 'curing' you of your 'faults'. This is dangerous hatred. It starts off what seems like noble quest to help someone and it turns into belittling them and feeling nauseated by them such to the point of rage.

if he is willing to discuss I would explain to him in the language of virgo. And then I would stay well away for a long time..take it back to dating, give him to space to seriously think about those virgo words and how he has to master them to impress you. Its not just about you because he could go do this to the next woman too. So if your a goat you can ram this down him with a regular stubborness and distant aura.

the virgo words are something like this. Id send it written so he can read every time hes missing you:

Why is attention to detail important
why is perfection important
What do i do when others are lazy, imperfect and not noticing detail- frustration, judgement? or non judgemental
What about the detail of how to acccomplish a life where everyone is not seeing faults in each other? This could be a great accomplishment
is the greater good to sort people out discovering their faults and helping them overcome them? If the mission to be of benefit of others is not a doctor patient one what is it?
What details are important and what details are not important?
How can I accomplish the ability to serve and benefit others with all my skills if I am angry with them and seeing them in a negative way?
How can I see them positively unless I do detailed work on overcoming the critical mind towards others?