advice anyone?

Havent been on this site for years, and back in the day I was dating a leo and didn't work out, then because of that leo I met a very very very sweet capricorn and it got serious I almost got engaged to him, but had to break it off because of my non-commited nature (gem) and I think he was a wonderful person, we still keep in touch, he did so much for me and he wasn't even stingy and he used his savings money on me and I felt awkward because I am independent gem and he made me feel like a princess but he was moody, and it irritated the crap out of me, he was always insecure. so fast forward ( that before was 2006), I met a new capricorn at this gym and i hung out with him and other friends, and he reminded me of my old cap, and I realized how much i need this type of man in my life. this is gonna sound bad but, i want a guy to support me, i will cook, clean as long as he is sweet and is gone most of the day so i can spend time on my artistic pursuits, i think caps are great for this and i need security, i never found security with fire signs, they bug me so much now, and water signs confuse me. anyhow, he was kind of 'touchy' with me when we hung out and as if by accident, but I knew he wanted to stand next to me and be close, we had hella of a good time, and i next time i go work out and see him, i want to get to know him more, what should my next move be? i am so serious about this one... he is so smart too, i like guys that are smart and challenge me. thank you all for your help. im gem 22, and he is cap 26.

oh yea, I was into this virguy for the last 3 weeks, but he doesn't like me, so this is my new pursuit. lol

Hey My bother (cappy) is dating a Gem for over 3yrs if not longer.
I have to say she has changed a lot of my opinions about Gems - she's a Gem in every sense of the word.

''and I realized how much i need this type of man in my life. this is gonna sound bad but, i want a guy to support me''

This is a common need with most women and Cap can give you this in heaps.
This is apparently a tough combo but what seems to work with Caps is loyalty - they are very cautious by nature. If you're a May Gemini with less of the flirtiness/flightiness, it works well, if you're not, then you may need to go easy when spreading your wings or your other twin :-)))))

I'm a fire sign - I bug me too.
I've noticed a lot of air and fire signs tend to get irritated by water and earth moodiness/worries, etc, but they're have a grounding effect for us depending on your needs.

Good luck

Hey, this is so cool.

I like a gem guy myself I'm a capricorn by the way.

advice? don't listen to what they say about caps, we are really all over the place (just like you gems). some of my BEST friends are gems and they are because they have the ability to make me laugh more than other signs. you will probably get frustrated when he needs his "me time" and he will get frustrated when you feel the need to explain everything and elaborate too much with words. i know you love to read (all gems do) and he will love nothing more than being in the same room with you while you're reading. so when he gets moody or distant (and he will, probably work related) just tell him you'll be in the next room reading a book and that will be the sweetest thing ever, him knowing you're around, but not having the pressure of having to express himself emotionally (but having the option to do so). remind him to have fun and he'll take care of you like no other.

Aww yay warholian! Gives me hope lol. My Cap doesn't talk half as much as I do, unless he gives me the go ahead to play 21 Questions lol. Then he'll answer any questions I ask. But I only get him in that mood once in a blue moon. Other than that, he prompts me to talk... asking me questions and follow-up questions until I force myself to shut up and give him a chance to speak because he WILL (and it always leaves me stunned lol).

But I always send him little messages when he's having hard times letting him know that I'm praying for him or that I'm in his corner. He just had a big career change, I mean BIG and it's really hard on him but it's what he's dreamed of his whole life. Because his responsibilities are so huge now, I email him from time to time and tell him to remember to have fun. I have faith lol.

See, this is my problem! I'm supposed to be giving someone else advice and I'm rambling. See below lol.

SpicyWater, the main thing I've learned with Caps is PROGRESS. If he can't grow from it and become better, he doesn't want it. My Cap has explicitly listed out the things he wants in an ideal mate to me and the first thing on his list was someone who could "make him better overall". Second, and most NOT surprising, was "goal-oriented, with a drive like mine or similar." Do you know how high that sets the bar? LOL.

The last thing on his list was someone to understand him and his personality because he's "rude". So you have to understand that he is VERY aware of the things he does to you intentionally. INTENTIONALLY. Sometimes I get upset with him for unintentional things that I blew out of proportion and he'll look confused, but when he's done something rude on purpose, it's very obvious. So be sure this guy's personality is something you can live with. Don't expect him to be willing to talk out every issue the way a Gem wants.

So since this is in the beginning stages, to draw his attention I would say be you. He's already shown positive signs by being around you. Every Cap I know is perfectly content in his lone bubble. But lately I've been seeing a lot of Cap/Gem attractions, so there must be something in the air... or solar system lol. Caps are intrigued by us Gems. As long as you aren't a total looney bin, he should be watching you from afar, calculating his next move.

Don't come out and tell him your entire life, but don't try to be too mysterious either (he'll regard you with suspicion... Does your Cap squint often? I've noticed this trend with Caps too, shows just how suspicious they are. He has 20/20 vision!) But be you! Gems like to talk and if you restrict yourself, it'll be obvious. Find out something he has a serious passion for and ask him about it. This may be work-related, it may not be. But don't pry. Take whatever he gives you and mock his pace, follow his lead. They're initiators. (Although, sometimes you have to just go for it!) If you don't follow, you'll end up somewhere by yourself.

Oh, and a tip from my personal experience... throw a random but HONEST compliment in there somewhere. He will try very hard to not act fazed, but you will see his eyes light up or some part of his face turn red or something. KNOW that he is affected by it and will cherish that compliment. The uber-confidence is a facade. They NEED admiration.

thank you thank you thank you! for all the advice. I haven't seen him in a week because either im not there, or he's not there..ugghh.. I'm a may gemini, so may that I'm taurus cusp, maybe this is a plus in the situation? ONE QUESTION: he doesn't have my # and I don't have his, should I ask for his or give him mine or neither? I really don't want to lose contact with this one.

You could create a bridge for it and easily give him your number. Like if you're talking about something and one of you has to go, say, "I'd really like to continue this conversation..." or something, and give him your number. My Cap isn't really fond of VERY up front girls, he actually talks about them a lot lol. Do you guys work at the same place? That could be another way to exchange numbers.