ALL YOU CAPPY ME PLEASE TELL ME WHAT YOU SEE OR WA

This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by Scorpionlady on Tuesday, November 29, 2005 and has 17 replies.
I am just curious and want to know more about Cappy men and how to handle them. I know I pretty much know my Cappy but I also know it does not stop there. We both are ver stubborn, and I refuse to give in to him sometimes, because I think he should give in to me. He once told me when I stop calling him he called me and said "Oh I have to call you to let you know I care" and I said "well I figured if you have not heard from me in a while you will call" and he said "is that right". I don't call him as much anymore he needs to call me for what ever he wants and the good part about it is that he does not have a car and I do so I basically have one up on him so if he does not call me I don't call him or asked him do he needs to use the car etc. he has to call and ask me. My last question is when is he going to give me a key to his Apartment. We are going ton 2 years of knowing each other. I have joked about getting one had opporutunities to make a copy on 2 occasion but I did not. That was not a nice thing to do to someone. I don't know if I want to move in with him just yet. Seen his house to many times ask to clean it up for him and he refuse so I just leave it alone, folded up his clothes a few times, Cook him breakfast a few times, yes in his house don't have a toothbrush over there yet, thought about asking but hell I really don't want to. Let him ask me. No big deal I just continue to carry it in my bag, Took care of him when he spranged his knee at work. I think he really appreciated that. I know I still have a long way to go with this Cappy but to be honest, I am so up for the challenge, LOL ...I love a good challenge. and you know at one point I thought to myself being vindictive. I thought to myself, once I get him to open up I was going to leave is azz, I know that would be very mean but that's how I felt at one time. But I don't feel that way no more, I really do Love Him A Lot and I just want the best for him and I and I really think he deserves it. He is a very hard working man and I respect that in a man especially when I have not had one in a while. I know he Loves me I just need to hear him say it and it will probably make our relationship that more special.
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pathfinder,
I'm right there with you! Everything you said is sort of what I was going through. It always seemed like such a physical thing with my cap and I. I, at one point and time, asked him if it was just all about sex, and he said, no, we could both get sex from pretty much anyone, anytime if we wanted it so that's not the case...a real weird way to word it but i knew what he meant.
After our first breakup, I asked him if we could just have sex, more like booty calls, even tho that was very low of me, and I stooped myself very low, the sex was great, great with him...he went for it and I got to start seeing him again. But, just as I had thought with this idea of 'booty calls', it got us back on track of getting even closer to one another. This time I felt more of a connection with him, like we were getting to know each other better, we were dating. It worked out great. We started hanging out like a couple, instead of friends w/benefits. Then there came another point and time, not too long ago, where I asked him again if it was all about sex, and then he said, no I really really like you, that was the first time he's ever told me that. It took him mos to tell me that. But the sex is just way too great with him for me to never not want it. I think I want it more than he does honestly.
Anyhow, relationships can't progress into anything if it's just purely physical. There has to be more, and this is especially true when it comes to caps....there has to be something more.
So Pathfinder, exactly, why did u and ur cap go your separate ways, how often do you have contact with him? Does he tell u he wants to get back with you? Didn't you say you moved away? If so, is it a great distance from him? I know these are a lot of questions, but I could possibly help you with some advice if needed.
MyCap
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I am asking, what comes know when dealing with these cappy once you are in a relationship. He is still tripping but that is ok with me. You see, to me this is nothing but a challenge within myself, and to know that I have the upper hand as far as knowing who and what he is about and he don't have a clue, that I know this he is probably wonder why I am so nice and patient and not tripping like he is so used to with other women. I can't be like what he is used to I have to be different. Oh the sex is off the hook, the conversation I think he enjoys more than me. I enjoy starting the conversation just so we don't be in the car to quiet. And I have figured out that if I can keep him talking when he is going through his depression and worried state he will tell me bits and pieces of what is eating at him and making him so aloof. I do love him a lot and I think he loves me alot also. The only thing that gets to me some time is the fact that when he goes through these depression states, I don't get my needs taken care off. I don't believe in toys I want the real thing and he knows it. I have a option to sleep with another Cappy that is just waiting in the wing for me to call him but I won't I can't deal with two at the same time especially when I am learning about them once I find all I need to know about my Love Cappy I will be able to handle this other Cappy with no problem and the ball wil most definitely be in my court. I don't really need to be privy to information that I personally can used against someone because the Vengence in Scorpios. All we need in ammonition and it is over. LOL But I decided I am not going to do that to my baby as for this other guy. As horney as my azz is right know I have thought about calling the other Cappy but I can't because I know in my heart that he is not seeing someone else. So if anyone out there can tell me how they are in a relationship? or is it the same as if we were friends. Is anything about him going to change? Do they open up more? What?
I never thought in my life that I would run across a brotha that is as difficult as I am. Have a good day.
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woa, okay my best freind is a cappy, im a pisces male. Ive witnessed talked and helped him with a relationship with an aries.
If i can give ANY advice its this: do everything you can to be polite and caring and REMEMBER a special occasion, nothing a cappy likes more than being appreciated especially on a special day like birthday or anniversary. If anything dont doubt him, its his weakness.......and if you show him his weakness its over before yo could think ots over.
Just be natural and warm......nothingh a cap likes more than to be appreciated or remembered.
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dont be to critical because he is and its not healthy to show a critical person that your also critical, because than hell feel as though he has to watch his every move around you.
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Well it is a little to late for that and right know I don't care. He has disrespected me and was inconsiderate to me these are one of the 2 things that I live by as a Scorpio. It goes like this. I let him use my car because it was snowing and I don't drive in the snow. I asked him to call me the next day, nothing special just call make sure I am ok, see if I needed my car etc. He did not I called him and he did not call me back when I called on both his phones. He also know that I needed to go somewhere and what does he do. He keeps my car never called I was stuck in the house all day, had to walk home from the train station in the dark. etc. Mind you I have been picking this Nigga up every morning to go to work and every evening. I don't ask for much. I have not spent any time with him because he says not right know and I respect that. But to leave me walking in the dark and not return any of my calls is not acceptable to me. and I told him that. I was screaming at him basically cussing his azz out at 5am. And all he says to me is "Is that why you are mad" Well I said my peace and then I refuse to speak to him the rest of the way to his job. He then says to me "You are really mad" I said no "I am dissapointed" and he said "I am Sorry" and I told him "you don't mean it". I dropped him off never "Hug him" Said "Have a Good" nor did I tell him I love him like I have been doing for the past 3 months every day I live his side. and to be treated like that is not acceptable to me. I do have a girlfriend that was with a Cappy for 14 years just divorce and she advise me to continue taking him to work just keep my conversations short and to the point because that kills them the most. So that is what I will do. He knows he screwed up. But what he does not know is that I have someone who is coaching me on how to handle him and is doing a very good job. I remember when he used to piss me off I would call him and make up but this time I am not doing it. I have not spent any time with him in 3 weeks and within that time I have been very supportive and caring giving him the space he needs etc. is what I keep thinking about and what's pissing me off. I don't care when a man says to me that "He could not call forgot to call etc." Because when a man tells me that. I ask them. Did you take time to drink a beer, water? use the bathroom? answer your phone when it rang? Did you stop to talk to a buddy? there is no excuse any one can make up as to why they did not call especially if they are riding around around in your car for two days. Not Acceptable. So I will treat him the way he treat me. I will continue to give him a ride to work and home but my conversations will be SHORT. No emotions, I will act the way he acts towards me. If he leave me, which I doubt. I have another Cappy waiting in the wing. LOL. Of course I will miss him but life goes on. I have gain a lot of strenght since dealing with him for the past year and a half, I will be fine I just feel sorry for the next Cappy that comes my way because know I have read the book, had a very good part and a very good coach. LOL... Have a good day thanks,
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kill him.
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you have gods permission lady.
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Thanks, I not going to kill him only with kindness, and and no communication. that ought to do it
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smile A' Job well done.
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LOL that is cute. Burn the house down huh. Have not called him yet and he has not called me. I think he will call first, he just oughta
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I am sorry but I could not help reading your post.... and to be completely honest it kind of made me laugh.... just a little....>smileUmmmmm where do I start and how do I put this, I am a Capricorn and I have been with a Scorpio man for almost 4 years.... Now dont get me wrong I understand that what your Capricorn did was very cruel. But to tell you the truth I really dont think he cares, I think he has something else going on. You see Capricorns also have secrets. You can studie them but I really dont think you will ever know them. You see I do Love my Scorpio but is Love really enough???? There are things that he does that I dont agree with and he thinks that I am at his beck and call and that he can basically do things that I cant..... Well I let him think what he wants but in the back drop I am doing things that he would never imagine me to do to him. Maybe its my wicked horns that come out when he thinks he has got the better of me, but see us Capricorns are survivors and we also like challenges we will go on, maybe not has fast as someone else but we do at our own pace and we wil ALWAYS come out on top. Now please dont get me wrong I am not trying to be mean and hatefull as some people mistake me to be, I am just trying to give you my input and my oppinon on what I think.
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crap, i just wrote a long post and then got knocked off. well, what i was going to say was that i am a cap and i just did a post on the scorp board called "telepathy".
ladies, i wanted to tell you that i went through almost everything you've talked about, only in reverse. the great, great, great sex. him asking me for "booty calls". him doing the no reply, no return call thing. it was like i was reading my life, only that i'm a cap, and he's a scorp. i'm going through this telepathy thing right now that is driving me nuts. he won't talk to me, but i can feel him like crazy. i wish i knew if he really loved me, like i love him, and is just pissed at something i did. i even had a dream about him last night that was very real. in it, we got back together again, and admitted to ourselves that this was just bigger then both of us, and we had better accept it as a gift. i hope you find out that your caps love you very much. (we are very hesitant to fall though), but when we do, that's it.
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Thanks for all your input. Being a Scorpio women my intuitions very rarely fails me. I don't feel that he is cheating on me that is really the last thing on my mind. And if he was I will know if I every make love to him again LOL. We were getting along just fine, the relationship that he choose to have was his decision and after that the relationship when stagnate until I cussed his azz out for disrespecting me. Know he are not speaking to me for is screwup. I don't see the logic in that at all. He knew that he was wrong he apoligize and that still was not enought The more I read these post and learn how Cappy are the more. I have come to the conclusion that I will not be disrecpected my any man, I don't care, and as far as me being very nice and loving and watching what I say to a grown man because of how fragile his heart is and his feeling is Bull crap to me. You see I believe that you should do unto others as you would want to do unto you. And I refuse to lose my selfrespect, dignity and integrety just to keep a man for fear that he might not talk to me for months because I voice my opinion. He new who he was dealing with when he first met me. He said that he loves Scropio women and that is allthat he as been with. So he should know. I live by these morale, 1 respect me, 2 have consideration, 3 don't lie, 4, loyalty (same as he), and most of communication. I have very little when it comes to communicating with him and I have excepted that, but lack of respect is a major issue with me and that I will not tolerate by anyone. It has been 5 days since I last spoke or saw him and the more I think about him not speaking to me for what he did gets me even madder, you see I have put more in this relationship then I have gotten out. I am sexually frustrated, because of his lost desire to make love because of adversity and lack of work that he can't seem to keep going on. makes him depress and aloof and Ihave picked up on that and dealt with it, you put all that together and then he disrecpects me. If I did not go off I would be looking like the stupid one. I would rather him not talk to me then continue to let him do that to me. And trust me if and when we do speak again, I will reinterate to him about the morales that I live by and if he can't respect them then we will always have a problem, We both want control and I have given up some of my control issues, I have compromised over and over again, I have accepted alot of his crap. I was just feed up. I told him I was I told him that if this is another one of his test then I just failed, it. And trust me if he don't call me soon to work this out I don't have to worry about him getting out on me because I will do it to him. With another Cappy that is just waiting to cook me dinner at his house (LOL) Sex me really good. LOL. But Truthfully what I am thinking is that He does really care, I believe he loves me, I believe he has big plans for us, but he is trying to find the courage to tell me how he really feels I also think that he is fighting with some past memories of relationships and he really needs this time to think about what he wants to do. He could just be distant from me to see what he can accomplish on his own. You see he does not have a car. And he does not have any friends, and the friends he do have have used and abuse him where work was concerned. He has to catch the train back and forth to work. Hell, it won't be long, We are both very stubborn, and I am not giving in to him. I refuse to chase, I refust to call him and he never pick up or pick up the phone and hang it back up. I will not put myself in a postion to be treated like that especially if I know. So until next time take care.
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ScorpionLady--- you should go to the BridgettWalthers astrology site. There's a whole mess of women on the Capricorn board dealing w/ these type of Cap. men. I am, however, convinced lately that this is not a "Capricorn thing". It's that these men have serious commitment issues. I've posted some recent threads on that board about it. (I'm obviously a Cap. female, and have been dealing with a Cap. male for a year with all that same BS.)
Pato-- I responded to you on your thread under Scorpio board. I've had the same "telepathy" feelings, but have interpreted these incidents moreso as the universe speaking to me. (I'm Catholic also.) I've had a dream where my Cap. came to me and told me he was in love with me. I've had the odd chance run-in recently, and a couple other strange occurrences. If "the universe" is trying to throw out signals and signs to help us come together, it's still been damm difficult and I don't know why a fated relationship would be this painful and difficult.
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I will go there and check it out. But to me it is not that serious no more. I am tired of the games and the having to be careful of what you say. I have thrown my hands up once and I told him and I am just doing it again. I don't have a problem getting a man, and that is the least of my worries. But being the type of person that I am. I am now thinking that I will wait it out just to hear those words and then leave his azz. I know that is very vindictive of me but that is the scorpion in me coming out. You know you get to point where you just don't care anymore and constantly being taking through a dark tunnel not knowing when you will see the light and that light is base on another persons decision is useless to me. I love this man to death but I will not belittle myself for a man under the conditions of he can disrespect, and be inconsiderate but you but you can't do that to them or they will stop speaking to you ...That is some childish stuff to me and My Cappy as really met his match, if he thinks I am going to chase after him. I done that in the first year. I have learned a serious lesson. He will no longer mentally and emotionally abuse me. I know who I am and I know what I am capable of doing and if has not figured out my loyalty to him then that is his problem and something that he needs to work out. I am more than willing to give him all the space he needs for the simple fact that I don't need this right know. I have issues of my own and he is one of the least issue I have to worry about. Yes I am horny and would love to make love to him but right know that is the least of my worries, I am about to show him and he has finally met his match. we both are stubborn, and want control, and neither one of us want to comprise is our problem and until we find an even medium where we both can agree on. This will not work out anyway.
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