Approaching a Capricorn...

This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by ABee on Saturday, July 4, 2009 and has 15 replies.
Hello! Im new here and so far its been very interesting to read and learn more about impressions and questions people might have about others under specific signs, including mine (Im a Virgo). I don't believe in horoscopes to be quiet honest, but I have defenitely sen patterns in personalities according to their dates of birth...so that is why I am here...to learn smile
My question to all of you my dear Capricorns is this...what are the best ways in which someone can approach to you if they find you interesting or reciprocate your interest?
The brief summary. I met a cappy guy years ago...we have been acquaintances at the distance since we met only once first and briefly. When we did meet we developed a little tiny crush (this is again years ago) but because of the distance we decided to not talk about it again (we mentioned once) and soon after we each started dating people. Throughout the times we would bump into each other's cities or we would get a hold of each other again...we were always dating someone...so although we sort of never became really good friends...there were times in which we did exchanged thoughts about our personal lives...yet it always also felt as if we could have had a chance...
He lives few hours from my city now. He sent me a message after I stopped by his page to say hello to tell me he will have to come here more often for work. His status in one of his pages says he is single...but I am not sure if he is because its an old page, mine doesn't say anything because I choose not to say anything :p but I am currently single too...
Neither one has asked the other person about our current status though...I am a bit afraid to be so obvious ya know? He has only asked me "how I was doing" and he always puts a smile at the end of his short messages. Im not even sure if he still has my number, but we bumped into each other 2 weeks ago...he was supposed to tell me but then didn't I guess...yet he reiterated that night that he will next time he is here.
Being my typical self I was so suprised to see him and so I hid across the bar for a while after he said hi..and I spend lots of time talking with friends, even though id try to see where he was here and there...I was just nervous you know?
So I didn't interacted at all with him besides saying hi and bye...yet he sent me a message the next day before he left...and we've exchanged messages for a while. It will keep them short, because his were short too...but I haven't hear
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Hmm...not so sure my whole message was posted so just in case...in the last paragraph I was saying that I haven't heard from him in close to a week now...we messaged each other ever since that night everyday for 3 days or so...nothing long but defenitely nice short conversation...his always ending with a smile.
So, I was the last to write, and its not a big deal if he dissappears again, because I will have to sit down and talk to him and get to know him better and know where he is at in life to know if I like him or if I rather just have this idea of him since we never really met you know? But I am open/interested in taking a chance to get to know him better...so I was wondering if this is a typical thing cappys do when they like someone or if this is something that they do when they don't. Also, what should I do to let him know Id like to continue this communication? I am intrigued and kinda curious..and I've never dated a cappy nor felt interested in a cappy before that way...so this is interesting and new for me. Any thoughts?
Happy 4th of July!
ABee
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I'm finding with capricorns that you need to continue living your life and dating people, and if they come around they do, if they don't; you didn't wait.
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hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm you don't believe in horoscope but yet Ur asking for advice about a Capricorn sounds like your kinda skeptical but let me clear up something for you astrology and horoscopes are way different from each other astrology is about learn about ones self in a spiritual way it's a very deep subject that been around for centuries before we were born it also deals with how the planets in space influence us on earth you should read about astrology not pop horoscope which is based on predictions that's how they differ from one another.
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i'd have to second alirOx. i've been "involved" with a cap guy for over 2 years now. first i was with someone and then right before i broke up with my ex he hooked up with someone... whom he's still with. even though he's still with her he says he isn't going to marry her (a mutual friend confronted him once regarding this in front of me). actually, he and i used to agree that marriage was kind of silly now-a-days. he threw me off guard last september by bringing up the subject while on a pseudo-date (i say this because he invited me out to a live show where it was just he and i, paid for everything, and didn't ask to be compensated). i told him i thought about getting fixed permanently and he got upset with me and talked me out of it. he then proceeded to inquire if i wanted to ever get married and have kids. he went as far as to tell me he wanted 2 of his own, saw my disapproving expression, then changed his answer to just wanting one.
i think he's already planned our future together but wants me to wait... for a long time. we're only in our mid-20's and a big problem he sees with me is that i have a young child already (the ex and i were together for almost 7 years). he's not ready to handle that because he feels he's too immature. if he were to start something with me it would be serious and he knows that if i were to get serious with anyone my son is part of the package. hell, he was talking 10 years down the line... we would be around 35!
so, i think he does want us to lead separate lives right now and be "just friends" until the timing is right. silly boy. what makes him think i'm gonna wait that long? ugh, he's so worth it though!
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AlirOX,
Thank you. Yes I think living life and letting things unfold as they may is best right now. I am still unclear as to how caps act when they like you...but this one cappy in specific has given me mixed signals...I was kind of brief and very non clear as well during the times we wrote so perhaps he thinks the same about me.
I am not planning to write again or say anything again until the cappy makes an attempt to reach me back. I honestly get the feeling he likes me...but I also know he loves love...and that he was a lil bit of a player in the past...so there is way more I need to discover to feel anything right now. Its too soon. I will wait and see if I hear from him again. Capricorns are a complete new different world for me so...that's why Im so intrigued... we will see smile
LegendaryVirgo,
I take your word about the differences. I just have a hard time believing stars could predict my future...I believe God can...but if God would be the one directing and orchestrating that then that would be different, yet because most of the horoscopes we see today are man-made, is hard for me to trust them...it would have to be someone really special and clearly send by Him for me to believe in such words...
However, patterns in behaviors make sense to me and because understanding signs to me is like understanding the Myer-Briggs personality test someone can take in a psychology class...it doesn't seem harmful regarding my choices in the future, simply informative about others characteristics, makes sense?
I completely respect your opinion and insight though, maybe one day I will be more open to other things related to astrology...for now is just the personality traits in each sign that is getting my attention and trust.
Thanks for your responses.

ABee
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Ninjamu!
What you shared is so interesting. My cappy friend shows up in my life at random times, mostly at the distance. I know he tried to meet me one day to just hang out over new years eve...but I got back with an ex just hours before I bumped into him that night...he would have had a chance a while ago, but its like he is never completely clear with me about his plans of the night and intentions with me so it always caughts me off guard when he just shows up in my life and expects me to be available ya know? I can't do that. I have a schedule and full life on my own as well smile ha.
So....do you thinks capricorns do this because they are idealistic in the way the approach love? Because I know this cappy I am talking about...believes in stories like the movie The Notebook...and so I wonder if that is the type of relationships and happy ending they want...something that unfolds sponteneously without working for it too much or trying too hard...as if they believe destiny should put us together or something...I don't know.
Well, as a Virgo, I have my own confusing statements and reactions...but they tend to attract people more instead of making them quiet for this long haha so now Im curious. Honestly, based on a brief conversation I had with two of his exes I met randomly one day (one introduced herself and apparently is good friends w the other) he is someone who loves deeply but also moves really fast to other people when things go wrong...basically he cheated on both girls. Until that day I had always this space for him in my life...as a possibility ya know? But after that, I wasn't so sure anymore...therefore when he seeks for me I am not as free spirited and open as I used to be. I am more guarded. I wonder if he senses that.
I do want to give him a chance to explain all that one day too though. I want to hear his side...this also happened years ago so I wonder if he has changed or not since then (it would be sad if he didn't learn from that). So he might think I don't think about him at all and perhaps that I am even completely taken. I just don't think he knows I live on my mind and he is there often lately...yet could depart from it eventually unless he takes an action to follow up with me.
Maybe I will wait and/or ignore this curiosity...maybe I won't be so strong and I will send him a random message in few weeks...to test. Who knows. I just needed some sort of input from someone in this forums. Who knew capricorns could be this unpr
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that's' cool abee but in the bible there is something call the twelve tribes of Israel is also part of astrology but in ancient form Egyptians also study the stars that's the basic meaning of astrology you don't have to believe in astrology but i believe it's a great self help tool if you want a deeper understanding about your self i was a non believer just like you it's a Virgo analyzing trait but when i did my research it made a lot of sense how your star signs can influence your behavior everyone is entitled to they're own opinion but do a birth chart and see if it's accurate for you and there's your answer.
I think god is in us btw
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Cap,
Can you tell us how you think Cappy guys differ from Cappy girls with regards to my question? Are they really that different? I have capricorn friends, girls, and I know they seem to be very shy at times...so that's why I was a bit confused...thinking perhaps this cappy thinks I am not interested...bc I haven't showed much if nothing at all...but I just don't know how capricorns read if someone is interested or not and how they expect or like to be persued....or how do they show interest or become intereted...any help cap girl would help smile
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Archer,
Interesting that your experience has been similar....thanks for mentioning that. Did you ever dated a cappricorn?
LegendaryVirgo,
I am interested in learning more about biblical understandings with respects to astrology...I never heard anything like that. So the 8 tribes are related to signs or something? Where can I read some of this? What are the basis that people use to make this comparison or statement? So we don't switch the subject here, I might send you a message or you can PM too for resources smile thanks!
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In my limited experience (2 cappies and working on one at the moment) I would say be your Virgo self. I have a Virgo rising and I never have problems attracting Earth signs.
So being a Virgo I guess you shouldn't approach him, let him approach you. Since you are new here I would like to say welcome to the family, I've seen your other post but haven't had a chance to reply till now. I suggest you go to astro.com or cafeastrology and look up your natal chart. Though astro is more accurate cafeastrology gives more detail and explanations for everything.
If you have more questions ask it on the scorp or astrology board or pm me Big Grin.
Welcome!
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Cap.
Thank you! Hmm...so interesting. I have cappricorn guy friends too and they defenitely seem to be more outgoing and direct than the typical capricorn girls I know....
The thought of letting you guys be and yet still be around...makes sense. That is similar with Virgos too I think. Perhaps I am in the "potential" category but since neither one of us was ever single when we met and therefore persued things further we always stayed there ya know? Haha.
I get the feeling this cappy thinks Im with someone...because if this cappy saw my page all that you can see is pics with my ex and friends...and since I have no relationship status whatsoever and the only person we both know saw me with my ex last year it is very possible that the assumption is that I am taken. Although I am still friends with my ex (by his petition even tho I am trying to put more distance pretty soon) I really need to travel and live life alone again...and would like to get the chance to meet with this cappy at some point...not necessarily to date but because we never got the chance to really really talk...
Im sure it doesn't help that everytime he asked "how I was doing" id answer with a joke instead of answering (I get nervous) and always ended my mesages so short. Its like I was trying to avoid having this whole long conversation about relationships and life...because I didn't wanted to overwhelm him ya know? I don't like opening up right away to people I feel attracted to...its like showing too much...for me.
Anyway, sorry about the randomness cap. I have some few really great cappy friends. So very sweet, hard-workers, and dedicated....a bit stubborn sometimes, but their dedication seems so nice. I know this one cappy is very romantic but I also know he has had issues with loyalty in the past....so I will study him well before I decide what to do with him IF we ever talk again smile ha...I might send him a message in a week or two if I still don't hear from him by then...and might write more than 2 lines this time :p
Thank you for responding.
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Xtina!
You are so nice smile thanks for the welcome and I will defenitely check the websites you mentioned for some info.
So you dated 2 cappies and are working on one? What do that means? Haha...are you working on patience with your cappy or with enveloping your true self bit by bit? Just wondering.
About my virgo self, well, I don't know if that was something for my cappy but I can tell you there was always mutual attraction there. The time when we confessed each other over IM that we had a crush on each other it was precious smile but because we never really got the chance to hang out that much I've always wondering how real those idea I had of this cappy were you know? I was so shocked last time we bumped into each other...because I met some of the cappy exes that categorized him as a player I honesty thought he was with someone that night, but then found out that wasn't the case..we could have interacted more if I wanted to, but I was sooo nervous and also surrended by friends of mine who are friends with my ex so I knew it wasn't going to be a good idea. Of course the cappy knows nothing of this, in his mind I was probably aloof, not as interetsed anymore, or just out of reach.
I will like to stay in touch Xtine and hear how things work for you and your 3rd cappy ha smile I will let you know if my cappy is relationship material and if we ever do get the chance to talk again and find out if we do still have a chance or not.
Thank you!
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Yeah I've only talked to a Cappy and went one date w/ another. This current one we're just flirting @ work... He's REAL cute. So yeah not much experience. I don't know much about Cappy guys but I know if you keep to yourself w/ your emotions it shouldn't deterr them from you, it should only increase their affection for you. I am by no means encouraging game playing I'm just saying you're being your Virgo self ... Meaning when you're faced with a situation you want to step back and analyze before you take action. Not impulsive like an Aries Tongue. Cappies are known to move slow ... So they're the ones that are most likely to appreciate it. It's funny, I'm @ this time in my life when I'm getting to know myself and I feel my Virgo rising coming out more and more in me. So that is why I understand. It just kind of scared me a little because being an Aries I'm not use to this patience and over analyzing ... But I keep doing it and I actually like it smile. Keep me updated, I am sincerely interested in the outcome.
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Xtina,
Thank you! Ill be interested in hearing about things go for you too.
My potential cappy is taking too long, I think capricorns might be a little to slow for me...ha, but I will be always curious to meet this specific cappy to talk some more...we just have some sort of emotional connection and I need to get this curiosity out of my system and let him tell me who he really is...whenever he and I are ready.
I am not trying to reach him back yet because I am abit hesitant...my ex cancer needs to be completely out of my life first in order for me to move on and since he is trying so hard to win me back or for us to be friends..I am kinda busy in my mind trying to solve that. I care for him so much but he is so confusing and unsure about what he wants...I had to let him go, yet another cancer who I knew from years ago asked me out..who is a great guy...but baby steps for me...even though my ex and I broke up months ago is still a bit soon for me given his emotional attachment. I want to make sure I don't hurt him and that he and I are completely in sync with where our lives will go next.
If/when the cappy and I talk..I will let you know what I learn and gather from the experience. Good luck and keep on keeping on!
ABee
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