Asking for input so I don't misread this one..

Hello, Caps!

I'm exclusive with a wonderful Cap man(Aqua Moon, Scorp Venus, Taurus Rising). This is my 2nd time dating a Cap, but the last time I misread the level of interest (he had the words, but not the actions). This time I want to do it right...

Started dating my Cap bf 5 weeks ago, exclusive at 3 weeks. Spend 4 nights/week together and he's talked about moving in together in a few months when his lease is up. I'll meet some of his family when they're in town next month. There are other things he's said to show his feelings but I don't want to write them here out of respect for his privacy, I know y'all are private people..

He's hinted that he's falling for me and I feel the same.

How do you folks act when starting to love some one..? What actions or behaviors?



Thanks!

At five months, maybe this converation would fly, but at FIVE WEEKS?
That's pretty fast, even for a scorpio venus.

I have a scorpio venus.

I would keep watching the actions. Scorp venus can be controlling and smothering if he lets it. Usually a cap can handle it because the cap sun keeps it logical and rational.

The actions = trust, honesty, following through with what they say they'll do, focus on the relationship, worry when you're not with them, supportive, allowing freedom and independence (hard for a scorp venus though), our actions will match our words, we will trust you with our PIN number (HUGE right there), we will give you a key to our place, we will go out on a limb with our feelings and take a risk, we will keep in constant contact with you and respond to your texts pretty quickly.
I suppose I should get out of the habit of saying we, because I can't speak for everyone.

Beware of someone that moves that fast, though. Make him slow down and build the foundation. Caps need a solid foundation of friendship, respect, trust, security, etc. If someone isn't willing to build a foundation first, just beware.

I'm not saying he is controlling or not willing to build, or anything negative about him, so don't take it that way. I'm not trying to be negative.

Could be one of those things of when you know, you know. Know what I mean? Sometimes it can hit you instantly. So that's a possibility, just work on building the relationship and don't jump into it too fast.

Does he pat you on the ass? If so, it's love.

Thanks ladies!!

Posted by truecap

The actions = trust, honesty, following through with what they say they'll do, focus on the relationship, worry when you're not with them, supportive, allowing freedom and independence (hard for a scorp venus though), our actions will match our words, we will trust you with our PIN number (HUGE right there), we will give you a key to our place, we will go out on a limb with our feelings and take a risk, we will keep in constant contact with you and respond to your texts pretty quickly.
I suppose I should get out of the habit of saying we, because I can't speak for everyone.

Truecap, he does everything you listed, except for giving me his PIN number. That's why I'm confused because it's so quick and I know Caps are cautious, right?

We always spend the night together, but we haven't been intimate yet because I'm trying to let things develop naturally. Seems like one of the few ways to slow things down...? How do I slow things down without making him feel as if he were unwanted, I guess?

Posted by aquapiscescusp
Does he pat you on the ass? If so, it's love.

Ooh! I like that! When they open a door for and slaps your ass as you walk through. Fun, flirty!

Posted by aquapiscescusp
Does he pat you on the ass? If so, it's love.

Funny 😉

But, yes, he does. Only when we're alone, of course.

Posted by PuraLeo
Thanks ladies!!

Posted by truecap

The actions = trust, honesty, following through with what they say they'll do, focus on the relationship, worry when you're not with them, supportive, allowing freedom and independence (hard for a scorp venus though), our actions will match our words, we will trust you with our PIN number (HUGE right there), we will give you a key to our place, we will go out on a limb with our feelings and take a risk, we will keep in constant contact with you and respond to your texts pretty quickly.
I suppose I should get out of the habit of saying we, because I can't speak for everyone.

Truecap, he does everything you listed, except for giving me his PIN number. That's why I'm confused because it's so quick and I know Caps are cautious, right?

We always spend the night together, but we haven't been intimate yet because I'm trying to let things develop naturally. Seems like one of the few ways to slow things down...? How do I slow things down without making him feel as if he were unwanted, I guess?

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Just be honest with him. Tell him what you're thinking and how you feel about taking it slow. He should understand.

Posted by truecap

Posted by PuraLeo
Thanks ladies!!

Posted by truecap

The actions = trust, honesty, following through with what they say they'll do, focus on the relationship, worry when you're not with them, supportive, allowing freedom and independence (hard for a scorp venus though), our actions will match our words, we will trust you with our PIN number (HUGE right there), we will give you a key to our place, we will go out on a limb with our feelings and take a risk, we will keep in constant contact with you and respond to your texts pretty quickly.
I suppose I should get out of the habit of saying we, because I can't speak for everyone.

Truecap, he does everything you listed, except for giving me his PIN number. That's why I'm confused because it's so quick and I know Caps are cautious, right?

We always spend the night together, but we haven't been intimate yet because I'm trying to let things develop naturally. Seems like one of the few ways to slow things down...? How do I slow things down without making him feel as if he were unwanted, I guess?

Just be honest with him. Tell him what you're thinking and how you feel about taking it slow. He should understand.

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I can do that.

Funny, it's been said that Caps will question(moreso than most) when something's good if it's actually too good to be true.... ironically, I seem to be the one doing so.