breakups
This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by sagibot on Wednesday, March 29, 2006 and has 13 replies.
whats it like to breakup with a cap guy? Do they try to make the relationship work because they have put so much time and effort into it? Or do they just say ok and let you go? Will they immediantly start dating/sleeping with new people?
no, no branh, i guess i need to rephrase the question. What if he thinks everything is ok in the relationship but deep down inside it is not for the female and she decides to dump him. What would that caps reaction be?
"I've dumped a Cap woman on many occasions."
To me it's been the opposite.. Noone has ever dumped me. I have dumped all those guys because it didn't feel right for me. And I think then it's better to go on than staying in a relationship which is impossible anyway. Most of those guys have been asking me back even for years. I never look back if I'm sure of my feelings.
"he is already looking towards other relationships"
True for me too.. Since I was 19 I have had someone new quite soon after breaking up. Sometimes a week after break-up.. I just had too many to choose, don't blame on me for that.. lol I have never cheated on anyone though..
I think I could be alone for a while if my current relationship would come to end..
To me it's been the opposite.. Noone has ever dumped me. I have dumped all those guys because it didn't feel right for me. And I think then it's better to go on than staying in a relationship which is impossible anyway. Most of those guys have been asking me back even for years. I never look back if I'm sure of my feelings.
"he is already looking towards other relationships"
True for me too.. Since I was 19 I have had someone new quite soon after breaking up. Sometimes a week after break-up.. I just had too many to choose, don't blame on me for that.. lol I have never cheated on anyone though..
I think I could be alone for a while if my current relationship would come to end..Sometimes its better to not go back after a breakup...I mean you're not together anymore for a reason right? But if it end and you both want to give it another chance than why not. I really dont think I would date an ex. I sometimes think about dating my son's father again but I can only justify it with superficial reasons. But sometimes people dont really "break up" they just drift apart......
i agree..best to let old wounds heal unless of course its a "drifting" thing
Here is a thing that everyone seems to either forget or not notice about Capricorns. They absolutely hate to be humiliated. If you humiliate them they will move on no matter how much they have invested.
Yes caps do hate being humiliated, so they leave as to never take the chance to be again. And they hate being hurt. If they get hurt, they hang on to it for a while.
The cap that I'm with has been in an off/on again relationship w/me now for almost 11 mos. Now we are stable. No more of the other bs of the off/on. They usually don't have a hard time walking away if they think it's the best for the people involved. They aren't the type of men who will come chasing after you to try and get you back.
The cap that I'm with has been in an off/on again relationship w/me now for almost 11 mos. Now we are stable. No more of the other bs of the off/on. They usually don't have a hard time walking away if they think it's the best for the people involved. They aren't the type of men who will come chasing after you to try and get you back.
I can definiately vouch for this! As a cap girl, I cannot stand being or even feeling humiliated. Emotionally, I am far too rational to see the point in embarassment ... it just isn't necessary to make someone fell inferior! Friendships, close interpersonal relationships and friendly acquiantances have ended based on this. Also, if I feel hurt it is really hard for me to let go of it ... I can avoid it emotionally by keeping myself busy ... but if I have time to think about, it will eat me up inside.
The whole on/off again aka "friends with benefits" is another pet peeve ... if you're going to be with me, then BE with me. Don't try to play with my emotions and keep me around until you want me -- some people want to "have their cake and eat it too." For security purposes, some caps put up with it (especially in marriage) because some are really into their image and want to save face. However, others just don't care and will walk away from it all. There is no amount of manipulation or blackmail that can get a cap to stay. Why??? Because most caps are very cunning themselves. If need be, they can defininately finds ways to keep you out of their lives once they know you are no good.
The whole on/off again aka "friends with benefits" is another pet peeve ... if you're going to be with me, then BE with me. Don't try to play with my emotions and keep me around until you want me -- some people want to "have their cake and eat it too." For security purposes, some caps put up with it (especially in marriage) because some are really into their image and want to save face. However, others just don't care and will walk away from it all. There is no amount of manipulation or blackmail that can get a cap to stay. Why??? Because most caps are very cunning themselves. If need be, they can defininately finds ways to keep you out of their lives once they know you are no good.
One more thing,
Most caps can be emotionally vunderable until they are hurt too much. At this point I have this personal freedom to leave a relationship whenever I feel unappreciated. lol, I owe it all to one cute little crabby man who changed his mind just as much as he changed his underpants (lol, at least he did do that). If you are not real with me(and we find it out) it'd really hard for me to be real with you. Since I'm not into mind-games, I prefer to just walk away. I can still be friends with you and talk to you, but until I see some improvement ... that's as far as I go.
Most caps can be emotionally vunderable until they are hurt too much. At this point I have this personal freedom to leave a relationship whenever I feel unappreciated. lol, I owe it all to one cute little crabby man who changed his mind just as much as he changed his underpants (lol, at least he did do that). If you are not real with me(and we find it out) it'd really hard for me to be real with you. Since I'm not into mind-games, I prefer to just walk away. I can still be friends with you and talk to you, but until I see some improvement ... that's as far as I go.
So if a Capricorn does that disappearing act/evasive time where he doesnt contact you does that mean the end of it? Or does a capricorn actually say its done and over with to let you know the relationshipis over? Or does he do the disappearing act with out even letting you know that its over since you havent heard from him? For me its hard to tell whether he doesnt want to be with me and ignoring me, somethings wrong or if its just he needs his space and alone time and nothing is wrong. So does a Capricorn when he or she breaks up is it clear and concise to the other person involved? or does he just ignores you to no end and there's really no closure?
Scorpiobabe,
A Cap man will let you know when it's over. He won't keep you hanging--to him that is being impolite. The fact that he is MIA may not mean anything. There is no telling what is going on in his world that has him preoccupied. He may be sick, depressed or whatever. Or something may be happening in his beloved family that requires his undivided attention. In any event, Caps tend not to multitask, and tend to focus on one thing at a time.
Has he ever told you how he feels about you--used the L-word? Are you in a relationship with him? These are factors to consider.
Hope this helps ease your mind.
A Cap man will let you know when it's over. He won't keep you hanging--to him that is being impolite. The fact that he is MIA may not mean anything. There is no telling what is going on in his world that has him preoccupied. He may be sick, depressed or whatever. Or something may be happening in his beloved family that requires his undivided attention. In any event, Caps tend not to multitask, and tend to focus on one thing at a time.
Has he ever told you how he feels about you--used the L-word? Are you in a relationship with him? These are factors to consider.
Hope this helps ease your mind.
Thanks for you advice. I finally realized allthat. I had a long talk with him last night and everything is great. Yea we are in a relationship. he told me he loves me and vice versa. he is the one who wanted the exclusive relationship and I finally was able to talk aobut it and define it with him. Then after it was said, that's when he did his disappearing act. I told him how I felt and he finally undertstood how i felt and feel and ease my mind by calling me or texting me everyday even when he feelsl ike he needs to "disappear" on me. It wasnt like he was intentionally doing htat, he just was focused on one thing like you said. For me, I'm a multi-tasker and also my mind goes a million miles a minute and we compromise so that I feel safe and secure on our newly defined relationship that if he just says hey im safe and im good he can do his own thing and space with out me feeling like i need tocontrol things. just so that i feel like things are cool with us and he's not ignoring me and builds trust with me. Now that he's going to do that' I have no other issues with him. its so kosher now I can focus on my life and not worry that our relationship is going to disappear to nothing. I guess that's my fear. Of abadonment or someone leaving me regardless of a relatinship or just a friendship. Now I'm confident of the relationship and can talk to him about anything.
Great!! Just what I thought. This is wonderful news and I am sincerely happy that it all worked out well. You did the right thing by talking it out with your Cap and letting him know how you feel, and what you expect from him, etc. Don't let him get away with too much.
He has expressed his feelings so try not to worry when he goes MIA. He'll be back. And even when he's not with you he is thinking about you.
He will try to keep in touch with you daily but don't be alarmed if he slips. Old habits die hard. He may want to comply with your wishes and will work hard at it, but he is who he is. Just roll with it. As long as you know where his heart is, the rest doesn't matter.
He has expressed his feelings so try not to worry when he goes MIA. He'll be back. And even when he's not with you he is thinking about you.
He will try to keep in touch with you daily but don't be alarmed if he slips. Old habits die hard. He may want to comply with your wishes and will work hard at it, but he is who he is. Just roll with it. As long as you know where his heart is, the rest doesn't matter.
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