Can You Make Sense of This?

I appreciate Piscescorp's clarifications about the cats. I meant, "he seemed annoyed by the cats." Thank you. I don't have a problem with cats either, but he seemed to interpret the cats in a negative way. Absolutely, you have a right to clarify with him in the future about what he does or does not perceive as drama.

p.s. I thought she did a very accurate job in describing where the communication was working, and where it seemed to break down rather quickly.

I liked this bit too "sometimes I do think is them coming on strong. But if we notice, they said what they wanted to say all at once, then they let time go by to later on have more to say or to share, which sounds about right. How can someone keep the communication going if there is not much to communicate or share at the beginning?. makes sense when they pull back, I do it too." It makes sense.

I hear you. It's like this Cap I know, who doesn't want to hear all the details of my day because he doesn't want to talk about it. If it's a concrete problem that I need help with, then he will offer to help but he doesn't necessarily want to hear all the build-up to the problem. He just wants me to ask for help with the problem once I've figured out what it is...

My moon's in Sagittarius. I tend to work on these little stories, and sometimes I write them down 🙂 No, I don't want to keep him on the phone with all the details. It's just easier for me to work on these little stories. I think sending an email would be dangerous for me, because he'd end up with a short story.

Interesting about the sensitivity to noises, and running commentary. Some people talk or write in order to process information.

I think that's a good point about the party CapLove "About the party, he's probably busier than he thought he'd be (wrapping up paperwork) at the end of the semester which is why he was unsure about going to the party. I don't think it means he's taking someone else just because he said that. It is kind of soon to tell."

Working on short and assertive emails and texting is helpful. People can have a hard time breaking down long emails.

I do like the email short stories too 🙂

It is good to socialize. Thank you for your clarifications in particular Pisces/Scorp. I am thinking about my Sagittarian moon...

Posted by WoundedLeo

Posted by CapsRule


Finally, how does a Leo get wounded?! I thought you guys were the impervious sign of the zodiac. 😉

Leo with a stellium in Cancer at your service 😛 Too much water makes me a soggy Leo.

Anyway, back to your question... since you are a Cap, it's easy. Treat him how you think he deserves to be treated for his "misbehavior" in proper Capricorn fashion. You know where it's at NATURALLY. He'll either figure out that he's done wrong or he'll run away in grief. Either way you'll be the winner.

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^^ This is great stuff. Thank you!!

I've just joined this and have found the comments very useful in trying to understand the Capricorn man. I have a situation of my own with a Capricorn and would appreciate if anyone could add their insight and opinions into what they think the guy is feeling.

Basically, we work together and we started talking on facebook occasionally and then we got each others numbers and started texting occasionally too. It started off very casual so we would talk a lot one day and then not talk at all the next etc. However, we started texting a lot more and we got a lot more flirty and close at work, he would tell me things that not many people know and I felt comfortable enough to do the same. We text every day for around 2 weeks and out conversations would always last until the early hours of the morning, say about 1 or 2am.

We were talking about how fussy he is when it comes to girls and he told me that it was a good thing. When I asked why he said 'don't mess about, don't wanna waste time'. I didn't know how to take this, was he trying to tell me he didn't want to waste time with me or was it just a general comment? We have stayed at the talking stage for a while so to me this is almost 'wasting time' which suggests he doesn't like me because otherwise he would make more effort to move things on. Like ask me if I wanted to go to the cinema or something..

Anyway, we were getting on really well and he always asked me if I wanted a lift home from work, even though he knew I had one already. However, recently he has been a lot more distant and cold. If I text him he wont make an effort to carry on the conversation like he always did before, and now sometimes doesn't reply at all even if it's necessary for him to.

He's just so hot and cold and I don't know where I stand. I don't want to scare him off by voicing my concerns because technically we are only friends, but a lot of the time he made me feel like we could be more. Should I be worried by his change? Was he interested before and isn't now or was he never interested? Or is he still interested? Someone please help!

Posted by Caplove

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Those are good points. He says that he LOVES animals, just like I do. So I'm not sure if it was the noise or something else...

RE the party, he has been discussing it for WEEKS and knew damned good and well that it was being held during finals. He told me that he has gone to these faculty events for years without a date, but for some reason THIS year he had decided (even before asking me) that he was taking some vodka and "company" (a date). My gut tells me that he went with someone but didn't want to tell me about it. The wording in his e-mail is a dead giveaway -- very vague. NOBODY talks like that unless they're hiding something.

Okay, so the party already happened and I didn't realize that you were intimate. I really misunderstood earlier, sorry about that. Hmmm.. then that does change things. If he was evasive about giving you a direct answer about the party then maybe you are right. If you asked him directly then he should have answered directly. I don't like that. There's nothing to be secretive about unless something went on. I mean, I realize he's not your boyfriend but still. Why would he not answer, even if it's just a friend asking?

Going from phone calls to being downgraded to email doesn't sound good to me. He should have called you after your evening together, even if a few days after. ESPECIALLY after being intimate. I think your friend is right.

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Thank you.

I asked him directly (via e-mail, of course!) how the party was. He didn't "correct" me by saying "I didn't go..." nor did he say ANYTHING about it! He just ignored the topic altogether.

Earlier, when he mentioned the party (via e-mail), he said that this weekend he was "very busy" staying with his parents (in an adjacent small town) and that he "might go by the party if he can make it." He never mentioned WHEN the party was (which night). In followup, I specifically asked him WHEN the party was (I know that it was Sat. night but wanted to elicit that from him) but was ignored.

When we were together on our date, he mentioned us "going to the party." I said "I thought you said that you were going by yourself..." to which he replied, "Well, we can stop by there." That was the last that he mentioned it.

This weekend was ALL ABOUT THIS PARTY, becaus

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because he had been discussing it for WEEKS. For some reason THIS YEAR was a HUGE DEAL, and he was taking a date. He didn't take me, so it's not too difficult to figure out that he took someone else.

He has asked me out again and said that we need to go out soon to "strike while the iron is hot." He asked me to call him tonight to discuss it. I replied, "Why don't you give me a call? I should be home after 6 or so..." It will be interesting to see if he replies (he only e-mails at night). If he calls me, I will be SHOCKED. If nothing happens, I will write him a final e-mail (to get things off my chest)then block his e-mail address.

Well, that is nice to hear about the email afterall. Good to hear 🙂

It's interesting. Thank you. Honestly, I had really rough week at work last week and I just don't want to dump on anyone. True. Men need reassurance as well.

Posted by CapriLady
Bill. No, you can't talk to the friend who's secretly still in love with you. He has an agenda and old feelings. Bill may have some valuable insights, but he will push you. If you don't like Bill, don't tell him about the one you like. I did something very similar recently, and I'm still reeling from that pushy-little-Aries' minor involvement in my personal life. Be careful please what you tell Bill! Find people you trust please. Discreet people. People who can discuss in vague terms.

Yes, you are spot on. I only realized today (a "light bulb" moment) that Bill is more interested in me than just a friend. I don't want to hurt Bill so won't tell him about MBE.

I'm sorry you have had a rough week.

Posted by Metoo
I mean its gonna be really hard to tell right now.
You have to wait and watch his actions and see.
I am thinking him bringing up the party was a test to see if you would say you were going.
Either way, I have dated a few different caps in life...all pretty strong....but they cool fast and that's not all bad so just see where it goes and if he snaps again with that drama thing stop him RIGHT there and get clarification.
I am also a cap woman and can tell u....a Cap on Cap romance can be quite firey and you can expect a fair amount of butting heads...your both strong, independent and will fight for power.

Thank you for this sage advice.

I will definitely ask for clarity on his definition of "drama." As for the party comment "test," well I wish Cap guys wouldn't do that. You see, I'm from the Old Deep South, and we Southern girls don't go around inviting ourselves to parties. We politely sit and wait until we are invited. So, what a Cap guy may misinterpret as our "not being interested" is just good ol' fashioned manners. 🙂

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Posted by CapsRule
He called! He told me that the reason he doesn't like to call women is because in his past experience he calls women only to discover that they are "moody." Actually, that makes a lot of sense...

We are going out Wed. night for dinner and a few beers.

We talked for several minutes. He is soooo cute and funny! I am one happy camper!!

Awe!! That's great! I'm happy for you and glad he called! Keep us posted! 🙂

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Agrees.

Yes, asking for the clarification on his definition of drama is a good point. I personally don't want to involve anyone in my work stress, so I've been a little withdrawn from personal relationships. I appreciate your understanding CapsRule and Caplove. After about a week, I'm only now able to mention directly that I've been stressed. Really enjoyed hearing about how this worked out for you this week.

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He called! He told me that the reason he doesn't like to call women is because in his past experience he calls women only to discover that they are "moody." Actually, that makes a lot of sense...

We are going out Wed. night for dinner and a few beers.

We talked for several minutes. He is soooo cute and funny! I am one happy camper!!

Awe!! That's great! I'm happy for you and glad he called! Keep us posted! 🙂

I'm happy for you too. But proceed with caution nonetheless and do keep us posted.

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Will do.

Thanks again for your nuggets of wisdom, WoundedLeo.

UPDATE: Our 2nd date was FABULOUS! Lovely dinner, then talking at his place.

Later this month we are going on a 4-day road trip!! He also talked about introducing me to his mother.

I am most definitely smitten!! 🙂