Cap and pisces Communication issue advice please
This topic was created in the Capricorn forum by Jhene on Wednesday, May 1, 2013 and has 12 replies.
I been with my pisces gf for almost a year everthing is good to the extent of how we communicate i.e sensitive topics, arguments, misunderstanding etc. She tends to get irratic and blow up and that just shuts me down rlly its pisses me off and when i get that way all the convo is in my head and its hard to verbalize it. and if i do or wait if she dont cut me off in mid sentence she dont understand and draws it back to herself.
We tend to misunderstand each other how we would phrase or talk about things. she states i look too deep into things i need to be more clear cut yes or no instead of all angles and expounding on things. but if im unclear or trying to make what im saying as clear as possible dont i need to expound? then if im one worded and say ok its a problem?
i have been feeling numb and drained. We deeply care and love each other but this issue is going to ruin us. i dont like to feel attacked or what i am saying is being shrugged off. the constant arguing is draining.
Also im being told i always play the devils advocate. Due to the fact i would tend to say may it this or that which i tend to be right at however my pisces feels betrayed it seems as if i take overs side over her and do not take what she says into account.
caps and pisces please give me advice. im at my wits end and though i love her i cant keep this up i like peace . if everywhere else is stressful one place i want calm is my home.
Anyone has /had this issue before. please help this cap
We tend to misunderstand each other how we would phrase or talk about things. she states i look too deep into things i need to be more clear cut yes or no instead of all angles and expounding on things. but if im unclear or trying to make what im saying as clear as possible dont i need to expound? then if im one worded and say ok its a problem?
i have been feeling numb and drained. We deeply care and love each other but this issue is going to ruin us. i dont like to feel attacked or what i am saying is being shrugged off. the constant arguing is draining.
Also im being told i always play the devils advocate. Due to the fact i would tend to say may it this or that which i tend to be right at however my pisces feels betrayed it seems as if i take overs side over her and do not take what she says into account.
caps and pisces please give me advice. im at my wits end and though i love her i cant keep this up i like peace . if everywhere else is stressful one place i want calm is my home.
Anyone has /had this issue before. please help this cap
she is very peaceful but theres this erratic side to her that she just go on attack mode that comes out nowhere. i avoid it cause once im pissed im pissed and theres nothing you can say to me .
i undo i keep hear the mature thing but rlly im 24 and shes 36 like . i would thing she would grow up a bit in some ways . i love the youthfulness traits that she has. But not in all was .
shes a feb pisces the 19th to be exact.
i undo i keep hear the mature thing but rlly im 24 and shes 36 like . i would thing she would grow up a bit in some ways . i love the youthfulness traits that she has. But not in all was .
shes a feb pisces the 19th to be exact.
Posted by Jhene
she is very peaceful but theres this erratic side to her that she just go on attack mode that comes out nowhere. i avoid it cause once im pissed im pissed and theres nothing you can say to me .
i undo i keep hear the mature thing but rlly im 24 and shes 36 like . i would thing she would grow up a bit in some ways . i love the youthfulness traits that she has. But not in all was .
shes a feb pisces the 19th to be exact.
I am the 19th and see myself more as an aquarius.
yea its not a latest out burst but it bugs me why i avoid saying nothing. because if i do i will be just as mean and two heated person resolves nothing. so its up to me to decide if its something i can put up with. she such a beautiful person just got to accept thats who she is.
but how does communication work with the aqua/pisces cusp though? whats are some the best approaches.
@aquapiscescusp ok kool . mine gf identify as a pisces esp based on her year of birth. i thing she is slap down the middle of both jekyll and hyde .seeing she can flip at a moments notice.
but how does communication work with the aqua/pisces cusp though? whats are some the best approaches.
@aquapiscescusp ok kool . mine gf identify as a pisces esp based on her year of birth. i thing she is slap down the middle of both jekyll and hyde .seeing she can flip at a moments notice.
Posted by Piscescorp
Talking about Pisces & Caps I am going to go meet with a peaceful CAP, in a few hours.
& see what's up with that one. lol
wish you all the best
patience is keep i will work on that cause man i needs some more.
i have done the take turns she would keep going and going and i will allow her but when i start to speak total cut off. its leaves me with what am i suppose to do now.
but i will reinforce that angle once more. yea i can be a detailed person . i get detail because for her in example will run head first into thing and not thing rational and get into a deeper mess. though she cuss me out after the event cools down she would tell me i am right and thank you. thats after i been cussed out . it leaves me thinking i will keep my thoughts to myself and let you run of in a blind rage. and u deal with the consequence.
she acts like a child though and i have no intention of mothering her. so i will hold back on the detail explanations as much as possible something to be aware of.
thanks deeply for the advice @ poisson
i have done the take turns she would keep going and going and i will allow her but when i start to speak total cut off. its leaves me with what am i suppose to do now.
but i will reinforce that angle once more. yea i can be a detailed person . i get detail because for her in example will run head first into thing and not thing rational and get into a deeper mess. though she cuss me out after the event cools down she would tell me i am right and thank you. thats after i been cussed out . it leaves me thinking i will keep my thoughts to myself and let you run of in a blind rage. and u deal with the consequence.
she acts like a child though and i have no intention of mothering her. so i will hold back on the detail explanations as much as possible something to be aware of.
thanks deeply for the advice @ poisson
interesting thanks for the example @piscescorp i will do that
haha yes it will be good
haha yes it will be good
If you can't cut out the reinforcing, etc, then I would say to try to look towards actions as a way to express things. Sometimes, words just aren't good. After spending time with my aquarius ex who would analyze the situation or tell me that I shouldn't feel this way because it doesn't make sense...and who would not be able to sympathize with me at all....I realized that I just wouldn't be happy with anything he would say. I think, when arguing or wanting to express your like/love for a person, etc, it sometimes best to drop the words and just turn to hugs, holding hands, etc. However, that may be hard for you, too, but hey, it's always something to consider. Even when I'm super pissed off, if someone comes up and hugs me..without saying anything...I'll immediately calm down and feel like talking things over without yelling or being mad. In fact, you may even view that as 'mothering', too, but it's really not. Just a different way of expressing yourself. If I feel like people don't care about my situation, that will immediately up my anger at least twicefold. It's immature, but I never said I was mature or easy to deal with. Hahaha.
Posted by Jhene
yea its not a latest out burst but it bugs me why i avoid saying nothing. because if i do i will be just as mean and two heated person resolves nothing. so its up to me to decide if its something i can put up with. she such a beautiful person just got to accept thats who she is.
but how does communication work with the aqua/pisces cusp though? whats are some the best approaches.
@aquapiscescusp ok kool . mine gf identify as a pisces esp based on her year of birth. i thing she is slap down the middle of both jekyll and hyde .seeing she can flip at a moments notice.
As much as people want to assume that every sign is the same, that's just not true. There is a lot more to a person than their sign. I do not have the jekyl and hyde thing going on, I am pretty peaceful and have a huge amount of patience. I sense there might be some communication problems between you. Some frustration too. You are not on the same speaking the same language. Why does she have these outbursts? An example?
ugh, you are not speaking the same language...
Posted by aquapiscescuspPosted by Jhene
yea its not a latest out burst but it bugs me why i avoid saying nothing. because if i do i will be just as mean and two heated person resolves nothing. so its up to me to decide if its something i can put up with. she such a beautiful person just got to accept thats who she is.
but how does communication work with the aqua/pisces cusp though? whats are some the best approaches.
@aquapiscescusp ok kool . mine gf identify as a pisces esp based on her year of birth. i thing she is slap down the middle of both jekyll and hyde .seeing she can flip at a moments notice.
As much as people want to assume that every sign is the same, that's just not true. There is a lot more to a person than their sign. I do not have the jekyl and hyde thing going on, I am pretty peaceful and have a huge amount of patience. I sense there might be some communication problems between you. Some frustration too. You are not on the same speaking the same language. Why does she have these outbursts? An example?click to expand
nt you i was saying she is like jekyll and hyde.for example i call her we make a mends of situation she said she go to go do something i said ok have fun she answer and safe be safe i say likewise and come off the phone . Minutes later she message to cuss that i hung up on her? im derp what . i call then she blow up that she wasnt pissed at me til i made it about me o.o . what did i miss now
i get what your saying
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