cap man went soft on me 2x

he went soft twice. my womanhood and self-respect is feeling kinda worthless at the moment. i even had a munchkin trying to soothe the pain but eh its not really working.

the first time he went soft was our first time. i thought it could be first time jitters. my mood changed and changed quickly. he felt it and brought it up saying that if you havent had sex in awhile, you ejuculate quickly. i understood what he was saying, because it sounds familiar. first time jitters.

i cant help but feel like i was less than. like i wasnt measuring up and it was starting to make me feel like a failure. definitely having second thoughts about a second go round.

but there was a second go round. in the morning. im thinking morning wood, no problem. but again he went soft. i shut down emotionally. he could feel it. i just grew silent thinking and thinking and thinking. he felt the distant that i was creating.

what makes it even more idk is that fac that he told me that he wait to have sex with someone. because girls seem to go crazy once they have sex with him. so i thought it was going to be the bomb.

sad face

you capricorn worry too much, thats why he went soft

try some suggestive thoughts, ease his tension, get him to relax, encourage him that he's really good, give him confidence

even if it is a little white lie. its only at the start from then on it should be fine

seasons are relative though

well summer in your country may be winter in another

Could be medical, I know a guy that in his mid early to mid 30's had difficulty in this area and it was due to an enlarged prostate. Could be too much alcohol as well!! Or, maybe he just doesn't feel like he knows you well enough... I would go with that one TBH, he is a Cap after all!!

In the end, I wouldn't read too much into it. I think we, as women, take it too personal when it isn't us at all. And it really eats at a man's ego when it happens, they feel somehow they are less manly. Thus, bringing it up makes the man feel all that more less adequate. I've known men to be able to get off soft... be it intercourse or otherwise. But, I've also known of men who declared celibacy because they feel inadequate!

There are other means of satisfaction. It's not all about intercourse (as you know). But, if it's truly a problem for "you" then move on.

Posted by LoveBucket
Considering sex begins in the mind, he had other things on his mind which is why he could not perform. The Capricorn male I know is brutally honest, if the one you tried to have sex with is the same, if you ask him he may tell you.

The girl this happened to with the Cap I know, she wasn't a girlfriend, just a friend who liked him alot because he's good peoples and very honest BUT because he did not appreciate some of the choices she made in her life, he wasn't feeling her in a sexual way. Nevertheless they gave it a shot because she wanted it but because of the things on his mind about her, *it* would not cooperate.

i will just do that...

Im a cappy and I have no problem like that. Its because my logical thinking is conducive to sensuality. A capricorns logic will determine their attitude to sex. They like to discuss logic so my suggestion is to find out what the logic is inside him.

I also wouldnt take it personally. It probably would happen with any woman so its not the women that is the problem its his mind and thoughts..unless hes older of course.Most capricorns are quite frank so help him figure out the logic. Im sure hell tell you straight away what hes thinking

^ I agree. The cap I know wouldnt even kiss someone he has no feelings for ... it is all about the emotional connection

If this is the same guy you were talking about earlier..he'd probably got intimidated..in either case, it's not you, it's him. No need to feel too bad about it, I know if it was me, I'd be pissed off.

You think it had something to do with the guy's aspects in relation to yours...it could be your scorpio moon that was the draw...his venus probably wasn't a match for your mars, maybe.

If you really like the guy, take him with his ups and downs 🙂

I knew a cap who couldn't get it up. He had whiskey dick tho. Glad he didn't cus he was small. I'd say it's due to the fact that he's Filipino...but I've been with a Filipino guy who was big.

He wasn't drunk was he?

Posted by ilyb
^^^^i think you are mixing cappys with sags or with others, by the way, a cappy only needs max 30 minutes after sex to fuck your brains out again for another 1-2-3-4-5-6-7-8-9 hours of non stop sex per session, 1 hour of sex session for a cappy in a relationship should the minimum. a cappy is not 5, 10,15 or 20 minutes like most men

Actually sags are good to go right after. At least the two I've known are. I couldn't tell ya about a cap

i gotta say, this cap is not leading me to be drawn to future caps.