Capman and Scorpgirl need help

Hello Cappies! I need some help with my cap-man. I am a typical Scorpio, but I don't think he is a typical Cap. We have been together 6 years and the passion is still going strong! Passion in the bedroom we have never lacked. That's where we both come alive. Imagine that after 6 years! But, the passion is hot when we fight and that's where I need the help. We both have to have the last word. Therefore, sometimes the fights last for days. Here's another factor. He is Sicilian and I am Italian. Catch my drift? It's like when we fight we both want to put a hit on each other. So here is my question: When the fights get intense, how do I handle him? Men, what calms you down? How do we both get the last word in? How can I help our relationship find ultimate peace? I don't think we'd last long if it was always peaceful, we both need some drama. But how do a Capman and a scorp girl compromise. Any advice will be appreciated.

Exactly, like I said, I am scorp feel me sting. Compromise is hard for me also. That's why I'm here. I love him, he loves me. Theres no doubt. How do 2 hardheaded people compromise?

how about just walking away..when you know your about to whack him over the head with a sledge hammer, just turn around and walk away...But I am glad your relationship is a successful one..good for u!

juwanapla's

The Scorpio gives in...but of course that is hard. I should know I am a scrop that is not with a a Cap because I won't compromise, and neither will he. I personally think you both should compromise, To me Cappys thinks relationships work one way their way.

what are you saying capman.

?no solution?
Don't like hearing that! I will investigate and find one.

MissM that's usually what we try to do. The sledgehammer thing only puts one of us in jail. We've both been there done that. So, we walk away, give each other the silent treatment for days, then it's usually me that will sit down while he's watching tv. I'll mute the tv (he hates that) and look him in the eye. He won't look back but that's ok. He knows I'm looking. I'll tell him I love him and can't leave him and we shouldn't do this to each other. He'll grunt, keep giving me the silent treatment, and after he goes to work he'll call me. He'll totally ignore the fact we just had another blow out. But he calls to tell me something stupid like "there's no business today. It's slow." Then I act like I don't care, grunt, and hang up. We get home from work, walk on glass till bedtime. Then we hump like there's no tomorrow. The next day all is forgiven. For about 5 days then it happens all over again.
Is this normal?

Aww thats quite cute actually!..lol..I can do the silent treatment for days, weeks even years!..lol..I won't ever give in..its usually the men that give in..I will analyse the situation..if its worth compromising then yeah but it has to work for both..to hell with him if he thinks I will just back down..he got another think coming..

Sounds like my ideal relationship..you gotta have a fight..I love them..it spices it all up..My capricorn friend and I had an argument the other day so I just logged out of MSN and didn't talk to him for the whole day or this morning..and he broke the silence by telling me his items were selling good on ebay!..lol..

Juwanapla..a joke comes to mind..just for you!

A married man left work early one Friday afternoon. Instead of going
home,however, he spent the weekend partying with the boys.
When hefinally returned home on Sunday night, his wife really got on his case and stayed on it.

After a couple of hours of swearing and screaming,his wife paused and pointed at him and made him an offer.

"How would you like it if you didn't see me for a couple of
days??!?".....The husband couldn't believe his luck, so he looked
up,smiled and said,

"That would suit me just fine!! "Monday went by, and the man didn't see his wife.Tuesday and Wednesday went by and he still didn't see her.

Come Thursday, the swelling went down a bit and he could see her a little out of the corner of his left eye.

LOL!!! Have you been spying into my personal life or is that really a joke? I like it alot!

So basically, we are two hotheaded SofB's and neither wants to compromise or apologize. But by ignoring each other for a few days we cool down. Then he chimes in with something stupid to start talking again and we scorps sit back with a sly smile. Is that considered winning or compromising?

Thats considered as winning my lovely!...**MM gives JP a high five✨*..Keep up the good work..don't be letting the side down..

Honey I'm representin'!!!!!! And seriously I loved the joke! I have to remember that one.

I dont know what to say about your relationship..........but it sounds very passionate!

This is best way to describe my relationship. There is no middle ground. When we are happy we top the chart! Love, passion for life and our son, etc... When we fight we are below the charts. Can't see up at all. Life is never in the middle. I love the highs!!! Want more of that. Thank you for some insight. You all are really helping me see another side, which is what I needed.

man, you sure know how to make a sad capricorn miss her ex-scorp, even more then before. 😢 but best of luck to you. hold on to what you've got.

Awwwwwwwww Pato..big hugs...lets give you a wee smoochie!..

I'm holding on girl. I wouldn't fight if I didn't love him. I'd just leave him and never look back.

I agree with sb. I'm a cappy that likes a win-win situation. My last involvement with with a scorpio man ............... yikes!!! No it didn't last only because he always wanted to win. Nothing else mattered if it didn't favor him. However, that relationship did teach me plenty. But anyway, we caps have strong tempers just like scorpios. As a result, each is going to want that last word. Most capricorn men are definiate "no-it-alls" and telling them that they are wrong is just like pulling teeth! More than likely, he feels that he has to be just as angry as you are when the arguements begin because he doesn't want to be out done. Try lowering your voice and comprising with him. Keep your voice low while his is still loud. Notice his reaction to this 😉

Cappysweetie, you described us to a T. You may be a capwoman but you hit the nail on the head. We both have strong tempers. Like I said he is cap-I am scorp, he is Sicilian-I am Italian, we are both hot tempered. WE BOTH HAVE TO HAVE THE LAST WORD! And I do lower my words when we fight. Then the eyes come out! Mine are piercing, his are mean! It's like two dogs in a fight. FACE-OFF! How do we stop this? I love him and he loves me passionatly! How do 2 animals stand with their teeth bared and not rip each other apart?

"It's like two dogs in a fight. FACE-OFF! How do we stop this? I love him and he loves me passionatly! How do 2 animals stand with their teeth bared and not rip each other apart?"

How about medication?? Any form might do (micky in your martinis)

Seriously, I agree that it may sound cute, but I also read in your post that you are asking for real solutions in trying to make things better. If so then I what I might do in order to avoid the sledgehammer effect is for both of you to communicate more, each try to imagine yourself in your partners shoes and compromise.

If you think you cannot do this, then think of yourself as the ruler of your world, if you don't learn how to communicate, understand and compromise better, you risk a nuclear holocost that could destroy all life as you know it.

It's really all about what you want, if you want a more peaceful and lifetime relationship, then you need to change. If you can be happy to continue as you are, then your compromise is giving up the peace you might have otherwise, but continous big blowouts might lead to health problems as well.