Cappy child Libra parent..

I am not sure if its just because of personality clashes or astrological or what but my Cappy daughter seems more stubborn and defiant than my other 2 children. what advice is there for me to help lessen the tension that seems to come between us?

LOL, thats quite the little story about the dr and dentist.

She just seems to fight me with everything I try to get her to do. I am stubborn and so is she and she is only 5. I can only imagine what its going to be like when she is a teenager, she already acts like one. i tell people she seems so angry all the time cause shes a 15 yr old stuck in the body of a 5 yr old and a small one at that.

I will try your advice and see if it helps.

On my girls first visit to the dentist she wouldn't even open her mouth, she's too shy to kick him. She saves all that for me when I send her to her room, she kicks her door and screams and puts on quite the show, wouldn't know it to look at her when she is calm.

I am not sure how much space I can give her considering her age. She would destroy the house if I didn't keep a close eye on her. She's a very curious little one. Maybe in a few years things will get better. She is alot better now than she was 2 years ago. Optimism is the key thing here and patience.

Things are pretty darn stable. I am not sure what you meant by stable, cause it can have several differet meanings. It's me her bro and sis and thats it, we have lived in the same house for nearly 5 years and I have not brought any men around in 2 years. By that I mean no relationships or one night stands, ect. We have very clear set rules of things that are not acceptable, she just doesn't like to follow those some days. I am not sure how much more stable I can make things for her.

I mean she fights some of the most ridiculous things, like going to the bathroom. I ask her to go try and she will say she doesn't have to when clearly she does as she is doing the pee pee dance. I tell her that if she doesn't at least try then she might have an accident. Finally after she stomps up the stairs its almost too late for her to make it.

I am not sure but maybe she is just angry and upset about her dad not being around. Maybe because she is lacking the feeling of being loved and cared about by him she is more defiant towards me. Or maybe it's just normal 5 year old behavior.

Cappy that sounds so much like her some days, she knows not to do these things but she does them anyway. Like cutting of half her hair to her shoulder. I supervise them like I am a warden, but she still manages to sneak in some mischief every now and again.

At least your learned your lesson about diy haircutting.

I know she really doesn't mean to be a little trouble maker most of the time, she's a little girl who is very curious, she just thinks it's fun until she gets in trouble for it.
Shes been in gymnastics since she was 3, and she absolutely loves it. I love my kids so very much and want what is best for them no matter what. I'd go crazy without them.

Her dads an aqua and very come and go as he pleases and let the kids do what they want as long as no one gets hurt kinda guy. Her bro is a virgo. He's not a very stable father for 2 earth signs. My youngest(Pisces) has a different dad (Sagi. Sag ex was really hard on my Cappy. He was awful with her and she was only 2 the poor lil thing. I think she may still be carrying around some issues from all of that. I have tried to get her counselling but she wouldn't even talk to the lady. Maybe as she gets older she will be ready to talk to someone. She was asking me about some stuff that happened back then the other day so maybe she is almost ready.


Relationships are scary though when you have kids. Part of you wants to have someone there to spend time with and give you an extra hand with things, ect. But, on the other hand you don't want the kids getting attached to someone if it isn't going to work out. But, the only way to find out is to try. But, if you try and it doesn't work everyone is worse off then they started. I am running myself around in circles over that alone. I want my next relationship, if there is meant to be one, to be it. But, that isn't something that one can predict.

I give up I am just going to marry myself.

Ah yeah I get what you are saying about emotional stability and her just not feeling it. I give her all the love and affection and everything else that I can. But, she is lacking that from her father. I am only one person and there is only so much I can do.

I have talked to her about what the Sag did and explained that it was not ok, I was very wrong of him and that its not her fault. As she gets older I will talk to her about it more.

Cappy: I have always felt that her anger had to do with the Sag. She also has changed very much, she was once a social butterfly and now is very shy, especially with men. I don't blame her for feeling how she does. The emotional scars I am pretty sure are there as well, I am carrying my own and I cant even begin to comprehend what it must have felt like from the point of view of a 2 yr old. Everything looks so much bigger and scarier when your small. Thankfully though she is still a happy girl most of the time, so she is still somewhat the same girl that she used to be. She will never be the same, I didn't protect her enough from him and that is the part I cannot forgive myself for. I know it was not my fault that he is the one to blame, but i should have done more for her. I am going through my own counseling over this and hopefully once I can forgive myself I will be in a better state of mind.

Thanks for the link, this guy was a total nut job. He threatened to kill me while i was 3 months preg, make my older 2 watch me bleed to death and then kill them so they could be with their Mom. Scariest situation of my life, but we are safe now and he is a 5 hour drive away, not far enough if you ask me though.

I will check the link out and hope it can help me.

No, she's my middle one.