Cappy man confusing the h*ll outta me

Hello Caps...need your input on a situation. I'll try and keep it brief. Anyhoo became friends with a cap man over a year ago on fb...we had alot of mutual friends in the social scene. At the time i was in a relationship.He is divorced with 3 kids. This guy always liked my posts/pics and vice versa.I split with my ex in May. Since August we had been talking a bit on fb and occasionally on whatsapp and he was very sweet ...then met up finally at an event in October. wow is all i can say!!! connection was amazing. Spent the evening, we kissed and fell asleep together...no sex - i made that very clear. after that he started liking more of my stuff on instagram, fb etc....started bodybuilding (i'm a bodybuilder) and was trying to get my attention alot. He seemed pretty freaked out by our first encounter. I subtly posted a few things on instagram relating to that night. He was liking all of it. We were at another event 2 weeks later...(he wasn't supposed to go but turned up). he came up and said the usual greetings etc then started talking to another few friends. He then came over again grabbed my hand - stared straight into my eyes and give me a huge kiss. We had alot of friends there so weren't together in the same group. my friend told me he kept standing behind me and watching me. Toward the end of the night i was getting ready to leave. He appeared out of nowhere and asked me if i was going. Our body language and connection is so good...we're always close into each other and hugging and kissing each other on the cheek...he was totally the same as the first time. he went off and aid i'll be back in a minute. Me being a Taurus i don't tend to wait around long for anyone...so i just left. he went MIA for a while...no online activity and he was like that with everyone not just me... So since then he has always been kinda busy with stuff and i'm a busy girl too but anytime i message he replies immediately. He has turned up at events alone without his usual gang thinking i'm going to be there but i haven't been. We've been talking more and more on whatsapp...he told me i was getting very close to him and that he loved me my friend. Last weekend he told me i was very special and he hoped to see me soon. we hadn't seen each other since November. It was birthday lat week and i sent him a video with a handmade card for him for his birthday - he absolutely loved it. He has been tagging me and responding and liking so many of my pictures all of last week. went to the same event on NYE and some of his family were there. He was very off with me and i would say pretty much ignored me....he said hi and stuff but was weird. i spent alot of time with my friends and talking to his friend for a good part night. I ended up going to him and asking to talk to him...i said to him lets hang out later on. He said i can't tonight, my family are here and i said okay. Still he is liking all my pics since Thursday. whats going on?

I then spoke to a mutual friend yesterday morning...he didn't know how our 'friendship' was....he is a good friend of mine and we talk alot. I mentioned that about this guy...at first i didn't tell him who it was. when i did ...he said i was waiting on that...i laughed and said why...he said it as inevitable....its as clear as day the connection you have...i've thought there is something going on...so he has picked up on that. He knows my cap pretty well....i asked him is he a player...he said no...he's very into his family. He said just for me to wait it out and see what happens but as mentioned at the end of my first comment he has been liking all my posts since then. this man is confusing me.

I wasn't playing with him...it was 3am - he went off talking to others. I have been more open with him than i have with anyone i've ever met. He spent most of the night with other friends. What was i supposed to do? We have gotten closer since that night...which is why i was confused at him being off with me on NYE.

i also forgot to add that we both live in different places. an hour away from each other.I only get to visit Bahrain once or twice a month...sometimes i don't get to visit for a few months. so me making the effort to want to meet him and i've made more trips over only for him to not be around or already made plans.

Okay...thank you for feedback 🙂 i will

I am pretty patient and i am not willing to give up on him yet. My break up this year was very traumatic and the connection i felt instantly with this man blew me away, when i thought i couldn't trust anyone else again. I do keep trying and will continue to do so. I just don't want him to lose respect for me if he thinks i'm chasing him. I'm trying to go very slow with this. Thanks again 🙂 🙂

3 kids and divorced, too much baggage.

He's relationship wear and lacks confidence due to his divorce failure which is why he's back and forth.

He doesn't trust himself enough yet to go for it.

You'll get tired of this soon and either end up chasing him or moving on.

He snooze he lose, he know this already, every man knows this.

If he's not coming for it in a way that says I can get over my issues just for you I would suggest you don't waste your time.

If the chemistry was real for him and was important to him you wouldn't be here, you'd be with him because not only would he hunt he'd capture you so try not to place such a high value on the chemistry your feelings b/c it's most likely one sided more than it is mutual.

Take a social media break as well and maybe he'll find his balls, untuck them and come for you but until then life keeps on turning.

He's relationship weary

I used to date a Taurus and the way she won me was by hounding me. She always texted me and was there for me and even though I was weary about a commitment, she just loved me for me even though I was fucked up at the time. She saw something in me I didn't see yet. She just believed in me. It took me a bit to realize but once I did, I saw her in a different way.

Anyway, point is...if he wasn't feeling you, he probably wouldn't waste his time. As a Cap, it's easier to just ignore the person when you're not feeling them than stay liking pics and all that. He's probably just being cautious. Or maybe he was "off" because he didn't want to tell his family yet.

Just keep being nurturing and warm and show how big of a heart you have so he feels comfortable that you're not going to leave him or hurt him.

Posted by vanillahaze001
I wasn't playing with him...it was 3am - he went off talking to others. I have been more open with him than i have with anyone i've ever met. He spent most of the night with other friends. What was i supposed to do? We have gotten closer since that night...which is why i was confused at him being off with me on NYE.

You should have made a point to tell him good bye. Not only is it polite, but it would have let him know you cared. It was rude to leave when he said he'd be back to you.

Learn your manners if you want a cap.

try and take things slower, take it easy if you are confused.

Thanks guys for your responses...i am not normally that into guys too often. I myself have just come out of a 2 2/12 year relationship with a guy from a different religion. Pretty much married someone else behind my back for his family. so believe me i am more than careful in getting close to anyone at all. I was not looking for anything with anybody.

@ DonnaElvira...i agree with you re social media stuff...there are other guys who do the same thing and i just laugh it off. We have met and talked alot though and this is the first time he has been weird with me.

@ Tikki - agree with you on all that you said. I am planning on staying off social media anyway for a while...it gets a bit boring.

@ Truecap...yes i agree with you on that...I am exremely well mannered actually...I couldn't find him to tell him goodbye so i left. but that was 2 months ago...w have been talking alot more since then.

@sunshine yellow...i'm trying to take things slow...as i did't want to rush anything with anyone and fall flat on my face after my last guy. I am stating to lose interest a bit though...such a pity.

Posted by CapricornGuy12
I used to date a Taurus and the way she won me was by hounding me. She always texted me and was there for me and even though I was weary about a commitment, she just loved me for me even though I was fucked up at the time. She saw something in me I didn't see yet. She just believed in me. It took me a bit to realize but once I did, I saw her in a different way.

Anyway, point is...if he wasn't feeling you, he probably wouldn't waste his time. As a Cap, it's easier to just ignore the person when you're not feeling them than stay liking pics and all that. He's probably just being cautious. Or maybe he was "off" because he didn't want to tell his family yet.

Just keep being nurturing and warm and show how big of a heart you have so he feels comfortable that you're not going to leave him or hurt him.

Interesting CapricornGuiy12....confusing thing about him though that it was he that has been giving me so much attention up until we met properly. He is always talking to me. |Replies immediately if i text. I try not to hound him...but i do check in with him once a week via text to find out how things are going. The guy is busy as am I. He is in an excellent job and he spends alot of time with his kids too. He is also a biker so with those guys alot. I am on two boards, have an excellent job and coach soccer. so both of us very busy.

i do believe in him as he is a sweet guy but i feel he is commitment weary but so am i. I have just seen a good connection with someone that i can finally be open with. I am normally arms length kind of girl. Hear ya on ignoring when not feeling it. I have mercury in capricorn and jupiter in capricorn too in my chart...so i kinda have he same thing at times. But with hm he doesn't ignore me at all. and if my other friend is noticing how we are with each other then it can't just be in my head. He has seen us together and how we connect.

I'll continue with a weekly message or should i just stay away for a while completely? Not sure what to do.

Thanks guys for all your feedback...its easier to get viewpoint from others.

Ehrm...

First you say:
"he went off and aid i'll be back in a minute. Me being a Taurus i don't tend to wait around long for anyone...so i just left"

Then you say:
"I am pretty patient"

So, you couldn't wait for a few of minutes...while being pretty patient? Really? I think that was pretty rude...especially since you apparently "live in different places. an hour away from each other.I only get to visit Bahrain once or twice a month...sometimes i don't get to visit for a few months"

If you knew you couldn't wait for those long minutes(being a taurus—), you could have told him that before he left.

He seems to like you, though, so my advice would be to not do the above again, but other that that keep up whatever it is your doing, because it seems to be working. Good luck!

Posted by HappyCapper
Ehrm...

First you say:
"he went off and aid i'll be back in a minute. Me being a Taurus i don't tend to wait around long for anyone...so i just left"

Then you say:
"I am pretty patient"

So, you couldn't wait for a few of minutes...while being pretty patient? Really? I think that was pretty rude...especially since you apparently "live in different places. an hour away from each other.I only get to visit Bahrain once or twice a month...sometimes i don't get to visit for a few months"

If you knew you couldn't wait for those long minutes(being a taurus—), you could have told him that before he left.

He seems to like you, though, so my advice would be to not do the above again, but other that that keep up whatever it is your doing, because it seems to be working. Good luck!

i hear what you are saying..i was writing my note very quickly...however i travelled from Saudi to Bahrain to catch up with him. An hour travelling for me....so yes i think i am pretty patient...It was not a couple of minutes ...he came back through and went in another direction, i couldn't see him and left 20 minutes after that.

Thank you...i think its kinda working too. I think he does too. 🙂