capri likes public display of affections?

i'm new here, got a questions for cappies...my gf is a cappy and she seems to like me to shower attentions on her onli whenever she got frens around..is it one of the cappies ways? or is she jus trying to get her frens to envy her?

That's surprising. Usually Caps don't go for PDAs. They are usually very private with that sort of stuff. They're not into doing it to make others gealous neither. Strange, but to each Cap his own.

I would say that your gf is very uncomfortable with receiving and I assume also giving affection as it exposes herself too much. In public it is more 'for show' and therefore not as dangerous (and gives the impression to her friends that nothing is wrong), whilst in private it would be making herself very vulnerable. She probably has no idea why she feels that way and doesn't know how to prevent it. Cappies do tend to have lots of walls built up around them emotionally but that is their challenge in life and it if they don't deal with it it can ultimately sabotage their happiness. I had a relationship in which I had massive trouble giving and recieving affection. I'd have the feelings and just couldn't force myself to express them. When my bf tried to show me affection I visibly stiffened up, which didn't do his ego any good. I just didn't know how to overcome it and the whole thing fell apart as he felt 'unloved'. The loss actually brought up all those repressed emotions and broke down the walls I had built up around myself and now I am much better at expressing myself, even with my friends and family. The fact that your gf is a cappie may give some insight into how she responds to things but that doesn't mean it is laid in stone. Life is about learning and growing and we only do that by working on our weaknesses. If your gf is anything like me, to give and receive love truly, madly, deeply - and safely is what she ultimately craves. The way we seem to have such trouble doing that is one of life's ironies, but I believe we are all here for a purpose and it is our duty to overcome our personal obstacles rather than let them rule our lives. My advice is to talk it out and tell her how much you need her to let you express your love. Communication is the key. Good luck.

A Cappie Woman.

thank you all for your comments..
I will keep those in mind..
I have read alot of posting that somehow say that cappies have alot of hidden feelings or that they dun voice out their feelings...But with my cappy gf, it seem more that it not that she dun wan to voice her feelings but rather she cant seem to express her thoughts and feelings thru words fully...and this is driving me up the wall trying to figure out what it is that she is trying to say...any comments from cappies?

scorpie

Well, I'm a Cap and I really don't like public displays of affection. I feel that there's a time and place for everything, plus I don't like being the focus of attention anyway. When it comes to expression, I have to be sure about how it is that I feel about a person (and that may take some time), but when I'm sure..watch out! I will definitely express!LOL
Yes, sometimes I have problems speaking verbally about my feelings, etc.. and therefore, I'm misinterpreted most of the time, which is an unfortunate thing. So, I'd have to say I do much better with pen in hand...writing love notes

Yes I find it much easier to express myself through the written word, hooray for email! But sometimes it is perplexing for potential lovers to get such passionate messages and then when we meet again in person I get all shy. They have to remember that whatever was written is still true even if we do not wear our hearts on our sleeves most of the time. Maybe ask the gf to write a letter to you about how she feels and leave her alone for a few days so she can really clarify what she wants to say. You may be surprised at what comes out.

I agree very much with the letter writing, I'm a Cappie myself and once had a Cappie gf and for all the world I couldn't figure out how to open her up when we were together, and I'm all show myself in public because I don't really have very high self-esteem. But even with the way we acted (and that's just it- ACTING, the putting on of a figurative mask) boy....you should read some of those letters! I'd have to pick them up with a 10 foot pole they got so hot after a while. Good luck Mr. Scorpio.

My new huney was reserved at first when we were out in public and I am a saggy so it was slow going at first with us out in public, but eventually he would display his affections to me in various ways in public, a sweet kiss in the bookstore, a little pat on the behind 🙂 his arm around me when we are walking together, etc....He seemed to be taken aback one day when he realized he had been doing this with me in public and didn't even realize it! LOL He then told me he had never done that with his is ex-wife or any other gf's as they wanted all of that in public and then when the got home it was "cold fish" time. The "I want everything to look good when we are out" and then fight city or dead silence when they got home. So yes they will show affection, when they are with the right person and it feels right at that time for them. Cappies are strange little critters...LOL..

So yes they will show affection, when they are with the right person and it feels right at that time for them. Cappies are strange little critters...LOL..

Well let me try this one more time...(I believe there are gremlins in my keyboard this morn lol)
.LOL..Cappies are strange little critters (this coming from the strangest & silliest sign in the zodiac, sagittarius LOL) ~ it takes a lot of patience,perseverance,trust & love to get them come off of that craggy mountain top they sit upon, but when they do, it's like a child being introduced to ice cream for the first time....eyes widen w/shock, mouth in an O and then the slow grinz of "I like this very very much"......

So man scorp.. I agree with all the posts. As a Cappy, I do not go for public outbursts either. I think Cappies open up and are very very loving, sexaully interesting, loyal, and devoted, but only on sure footing. They ahve very deep emotions and are quite sensitive. But it's the lack of display of those emotions that I think you might find odd. For her to display, she needs to feel really sure, confident, loved, and she needs to be able to trust you, with her life, her heart, her soul. And you, man scorp need to delve into her emotions. A cap will probably not let you in easily, but once she does, you will be in heaven. And scorp, if she is anything like me, she sees someone who could easily chew her heart and spit it our for breakfast. Not because you scorps are bad asses, but because if anyone can reach the heart and get her to dosplay those moeitons she so dearly hold on to, it's you. Danger written all over it. Give it time, let he open up slowly, and give a reason to trust that you would do nothing to hurt her. I think the he scorp and she cap are made for each other. But I also think they can destroy one another emotionally, if not careful.

"...I think the He Scorp and the She Cap were made for eachother..."

I second that opinion whole-heartedly. Even though, I'll probably never let that certain Scorpio hear me say that. (We're just friends.)

All caps hang out at orgys

lol

nobody said no to that yet.

The truth will set you free.

And that is the truth!

ditto