so i found out my cap cheated on me one cause we haven't seen eachother for 5 months.The day I found out I was sad but i didn't tell him,he realized I was sad and he kept asking why i'm sad and i just said i'm not,just not feeling well/head hurts.But then he was like did I do something wrong?I know I did something wrong.The fact that he said I know I did something wrong already shows that he did something wrong.Am I right,you guys?That day I was kinda distant from him and I think he felt it,ause he'd hug me and i'd kinda back off so he knew I knew something.After that he stopped initiating contact with me.He'd respond right away when i'd contact him though and wouldn't ignore my texts,but wouldn't initiate first.I was upset but now i'm fine with it and I don't want him to think i'll break up with him because of that.Do you guys think he's backed off from initiating cause he knows he did something wrong and he feels I know that he did something wrong?so he's playing it safe.If so,what should I do?SHould I continue initiating and proving to him that him doing that will not ruin our relationship and I don't want to leave him????or should i leave him alone...
he's backed off after he realized that I found out.
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Oct 25, 2010Comments: 2 · Posts: 8822 · Topics: 132
Yeah, everything about him, since the beginning, screamed cheater.
What saddens me is being caught up in trying to show him he's cared for, forgiven...trying to boost his confidence and self esteem all while not even realizing you are drowning over there. Extending and basically sacrificing yourself for someone who can care less, in complete honesty.
kenya its absolutely impossible to get thru to him the way you want. Trust me when I say this.
Also, I think you may have self esteem issues and dont value yourself how you should. The bit you do have, you will be robbed of if you continue. You gotta take a step back and take care of yourself 1st.
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Jan 25, 2012Comments: 8 · Posts: 20090 · Topics: 685
Forget about his feelings and think about yours. Confront him, make him tell you. Then, tell him off and slam the door shut. Don't look back. Chalk it up as a lesson learned. Above all, respect yourself. No one else will until you do.
Maybe this helps:
One week after I got laid off from my job, I kicked my cheating ex-husband of 18 years out of our house and filed for divorce. I had no job. No help. No financial support. It was the bravest thing I ever did. In fact, it was the best thing I ever did!! If I can do it, so can you!
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Jan 25, 2012Comments: 8 · Posts: 20090 · Topics: 685
And no, I am not bitter against men.