Capricorn- disappearing

Posted by CAPLOCK
I dont care if a girl is rich or not. As long as she has a job and goals regarding who and where she wants to be in life.

Here's some reasons why I would disappear

1. Personal things in my life. Whether it be family problems, career or whatever. I need space to process things.

2. Just too focused on goals and climbing a mountain.

3. Hurt in someway. If someone offended me or did something wrong to me, sometimes i dissappear because when im pissed, its better to shut my mouth or else i can say hurtful things.

4. Cutting someone off - I know who i want in my life and who I dont want.

5. Secong thoughts about having relationship. Afraid of being too close to someone?

Posted by Myaaaya
I randomly went on a site that talk about cappy disappearing a lot in a relationship. At first they create a future pic to the girl they are interested in and at one point they just cut everything and even stop contacting to a girl who they once gave commit with, and don't care of the girl feeling and disappear for long even end the relationship for no warning give. Hot and cold often, they can be a good player to make you fall hard into love and gone so sudden? Is it becoz they doesn't love enough to a girl? Are they consistent stay sweet in a relationship? And what if a girl not rich they will discount the interest in them?

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Posted by Myaaaya
I randomly went on a site that talk about cappy disappearing a lot in a relationship. At first they create a future pic to the girl they are interested in and at one point they just cut everything and even stop contacting to a girl who they once gave commit with, and don't care of the girl feeling and disappear for long even end the relationship for no warning give. Hot and cold often, they can be a good player to make you fall hard into love and gone so sudden? Is it becoz they doesn't love enough to a girl? Are they consistent stay sweet in a relationship? And what if a girl not rich they will discount the interest in them?

You read all of that on a website? I have to disagree. I've been dating a Capricorn since April and he's never once been cold or disappeared on me. He's consistently sweet.

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Posted by Myaaaya
I randomly went on a site that talk about cappy disappearing a lot in a relationship. At first they create a future pic to the girl they are interested in and at one point they just cut everything and even stop contacting to a girl who they once gave commit with, and don't care of the girl feeling and disappear for long even end the relationship for no warning give. Hot and cold often, they can be a good player to make you fall hard into love and gone so sudden? Is it becoz they doesn't love enough to a girl? Are they consistent stay sweet in a relationship? And what if a girl not rich they will discount the interest in them?

You read all of that on a website? I have to disagree. I've been dating a Capricorn since April and he's never once been cold or disappeared on me. He's consistently sweet.

Basically he reaches out to u everyday?

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Posted by Myaaaya
I randomly went on a site that talk about cappy disappearing a lot in a relationship. At first they create a future pic to the girl they are interested in and at one point they just cut everything and even stop contacting to a girl who they once gave commit with, and don't care of the girl feeling and disappear for long even end the relationship for no warning give. Hot and cold often, they can be a good player to make you fall hard into love and gone so sudden? Is it becoz they doesn't love enough to a girl? Are they consistent stay sweet in a relationship? And what if a girl not rich they will discount the interest in them?

You read all of that on a website? I have to disagree. I've been dating a Capricorn since April and he's never once been cold or disappeared on me. He's consistently sweet.

Basically he reaches out to u everyday?

It's balanced. He always responds to my messages and he does text me first some days. Although hes not the best texter. Like I could ask him how his day was and he'll just say good. Then when I see him in person, he shares all the details. I think Capricorns are very hard to read sometimes and that gives them a bad rep. But it's quite the opposite.

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Posted by Greentea
All I know is I wouldn't disappear for no good reason.

I don't think it has anything to do with your finances, or job, maybe he has some personal things going on right now that he doesn't want to involve you with, or he's tired and resting or busy.

Also depends on your definition of disappearing. . I can survive not talking to an SO for a couple days. I'll usually have some kind of interaction with them though if it's not over the phone or in person. Maybe just a simple text to let them know I'm thinking of them.

Cap men though, don't have any experience with them romantically. Cap male friends usually respond in a timely manner to me.

Yes it could be personal things too that include finances. Last summer i didnt talk to anyone for 4+months. This year same thing. (Please dont give me a hard time for this.)

Have to work full time, pay for 2 college classes, technical training courses, rent, and car maintenance.

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Posted by CAPLOCK
I dont care if a girl is rich or not. As long as she has a job and goals regarding who and where she wants to be in life.

Here's some reasons why I would disappear

1. Personal things in my life. Whether it be family problems, career or whatever. I need space to process things.

2. Just too focused on goals and climbing a mountain.

3. Hurt in someway. If someone offended me or did something wrong to me, sometimes i dissappear because when im pissed, its better to shut my mouth or else i can say hurtful things.

4. Cutting someone off - I know who i want in my life and who I dont want.

5. Secong thoughts about having relationship. Afraid of being too close to someone?

How long before u consider it a disappearance? Does 1-2days count?

I am a Cap too, but no matter what I will respond to the person I m interested in, one msg doesnt take much time and I cant figure out Cap men who doesnt even do that.

A lot of my close friends are Caps too. Sometimes i text and they dont respond. I automatically know theyre having a Cap moment. Stressing about bills or whatever. I leave them alone and eventually after days weeks or even months before i hear back. Our brains can be so concentrated and caught up in whatever we focus on. Plus we're so damn determined we dont stop until the solution has been applied, tried, and we're satisfied.

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Posted by Myaaaya
I randomly went on a site that talk about cappy disappearing a lot in a relationship. At first they create a future pic to the girl they are interested in and at one point they just cut everything and even stop contacting to a girl who they once gave commit with, and don't care of the girl feeling and disappear for long even end the relationship for no warning give. Hot and cold often, they can be a good player to make you fall hard into love and gone so sudden? Is it becoz they doesn't love enough to a girl? Are they consistent stay sweet in a relationship? And what if a girl not rich they will discount the interest in them?

You read all of that on a website? I have to disagree. I've been dating a Capricorn since April and he's never once been cold or disappeared on me. He's consistently sweet.

Basically he reaches out to u everyday?

It's balanced. He always responds to my messages and he does text me first some days. Although hes not the best texter. Like I could ask him how his day was and he'll just say good. Then when I see him in person, he shares all the details. I think Capricorns are very hard to read sometimes and that gives them a bad rep. But it's quite the opposite.

I do text first at times, but he doesnt respond for a day or 2.....then I think his interest is flickering. But when we meet, he seems to be full on in giving me undivided attention.

We meet once or twice a wk, but ideally I would prefer if he had dropped me at least a txt everyday......expecting too much?

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Posted by Greentea
All I know is I wouldn't disappear for no good reason.

I don't think it has anything to do with your finances, or job, maybe he has some personal things going on right now that he doesn't want to involve you with, or he's tired and resting or busy.

Also depends on your definition of disappearing. . I can survive not talking to an SO for a couple days. I'll usually have some kind of interaction with them though if it's not over the phone or in person. Maybe just a simple text to let them know I'm thinking of them.

Cap men though, don't have any experience with them romantically. Cap male friends usually respond in a timely manner to me.

Yes it could be personal things too that include finances. Last summer i didnt talk to anyone for 4+months. This year same thing. (Please dont give me a hard time for this.)

Have to work full time, pay for 2 college classes, technical training courses, rent, and car maintenance.

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Posted by Myaaaya

if you want to talk to him everyday, then text him. Don't wait for him to do it. Guys don't really get why we girls like to talk a lot so don't blame him. But also don't make it a big deal if you don't talk for a day or two. I personally think that really helps relationships grow!

Thanks for the advice. I do 1 text, if he doesnt respond I leave it till he does, and sometimes he takes a day or 2. I am not clingy by nature, but it would be nice to hear back from someone u like, brightens my day.....

Probably, I should learn to be more chill about it.....

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Posted by Greentea
All I know is I wouldn't disappear for no good reason.

I don't think it has anything to do with your finances, or job, maybe he has some personal things going on right now that he doesn't want to involve you with, or he's tired and resting or busy.

Also depends on your definition of disappearing. . I can survive not talking to an SO for a couple days. I'll usually have some kind of interaction with them though if it's not over the phone or in person. Maybe just a simple text to let them know I'm thinking of them.

Cap men though, don't have any experience with them romantically. Cap male friends usually respond in a timely manner to me.

Yes it could be personal things too that include finances. Last summer i didnt talk to anyone for 4+months. This year same thing. (Please dont give me a hard time for this.)

Have to work full time, pay for 2 college classes, technical training courses, rent, and car maintenance.

I understand why you would do that! But if you had a gf that didn't pressure you and also understood your situation, would you still disappear? Just curious!

Don't act like you don't pressure your Cap boyfriend but its ok. You just care for him

Yeah if the girl understood and respect my time than id do the same and make time for her. Text, call, maybe meet up real quick just to talk about our day.

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Posted by Greentea
All I know is I wouldn't disappear for no good reason.

I don't think it has anything to do with your finances, or job, maybe he has some personal things going on right now that he doesn't want to involve you with, or he's tired and resting or busy.

Also depends on your definition of disappearing. . I can survive not talking to an SO for a couple days. I'll usually have some kind of interaction with them though if it's not over the phone or in person. Maybe just a simple text to let them know I'm thinking of them.

Cap men though, don't have any experience with them romantically. Cap male friends usually respond in a timely manner to me.

Yes it could be personal things too that include finances. Last summer i didnt talk to anyone for 4+months. This year same thing. (Please dont give me a hard time for this.)

Have to work full time, pay for 2 college classes, technical training courses, rent, and car maintenance.

I understand being a Cap myself, sometimes other people can make us lose track and go off course of our goals and/or what we have to do. It just seems easier to go at it alone, for me it is anyway.

Can i ask you to answer on a thread in the man cave? It's a thread I opened up for men in general to answer but in this particular case, a Cap man is the one who said it to me, so Id like to hear your answer.

Which thread is it ? Post link ?

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Posted by Myaaaya

if you want to talk to him everyday, then text him. Don't wait for him to do it. Guys don't really get why we girls like to talk a lot so don't blame him. But also don't make it a big deal if you don't talk for a day or two. I personally think that really helps relationships grow!

Thanks for the advice. I do 1 text, if he doesnt respond I leave it till he does, and sometimes he takes a day or 2. I am not clingy by nature, but it would be nice to hear back from someone u like, brightens my day.....

Probably, I should learn to be more chill about it.....

Ugh he takes that long to respond? It doesn't seem like you're a priority. That's a little too long to wait imo:-/

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Posted by Jalent99
@pinkbird03

I feel the same too.....he runs a coy, and I know he probably has a lot on his mind and sometimes conference calls at night. I try to be positive abt it but idk....

Right from the start he has never been one who txts a lot, he txted me twice in a wk before our first date. Then after the first date he txts every other day.....became more frequent after, most wks I hear from him everyday, apart from when he was on a hol, heard from him 3-4times in those 2wks.

For me the person i date progressively becomes my priority.....we have been dating for 3mths, do u think i might never become his priority?

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@pinkbird03

I feel the same too.....he runs a coy, and I know he probably has a lot on his mind and sometimes conference calls at night. I try to be positive abt it but idk....

Right from the start he has never been one who txts a lot, he txted me twice in a wk before our first date. Then after the first date he txts every other day.....became more frequent after, most wks I hear from him everyday, apart from when he was on a hol, heard from him 3-4times in those 2wks.

For me the person i date progressively becomes my priority.....we have been dating for 3mths, do u think i might never become his priority?

Well. I don't believe I'm a priority yet either and it's been longer for me. I'm not exactly worried about that and I don't think you should be either. It will happen when the time is right. No need to rush it.

I'm more concerned with how long it takes him to respond. There is definitely time in the day to respond. Maybe it's hours later, but 2 days is too long. Some people are against it, but I think you should play hard to get for a week to two weeks. No longer than that. That includes never messaging him first. Waiting at least a couple of hours or more (many 1-2 days) to respond. And keeping to convos short. This will show him that your time is valuable too and he needs to be more respectful.

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@pinkbird03

I feel the same too.....he runs a coy, and I know he probably has a lot on his mind and sometimes conference calls at night. I try to be positive abt it but idk....

Right from the start he has never been one who txts a lot, he txted me twice in a wk before our first date. Then after the first date he txts every other day.....became more frequent after, most wks I hear from him everyday, apart from when he was on a hol, heard from him 3-4times in those 2wks.

For me the person i date progressively becomes my priority.....we have been dating for 3mths, do u think i might never become his priority?

Well. I don't believe I'm a priority yet either and it's been longer for me. I'm not exactly worried about that and I don't think you should be either. It will happen when the time is right. No need to rush it.

I'm more concerned with how long it takes him to respond. There is definitely time in the day to respond. Maybe it's hours later, but 2 days is too long. Some people are against it, but I think you should play hard to get for a week to two weeks. No longer than that. That includes never messaging him first. Waiting at least a couple of hours or more (many 1-2 days) to respond. And keeping to convos short. This will show him that your time is valuable too and he needs to be more respectful.

Does it help that he tells me he spends all his spare time with me? Btw we r not in a r/s, just going on dates, hv been intimate.....i m ok with no status as i dont want to rush into tht....

I met him mon evening and spent a couple of hrs together.....then i txt him once yesterday and hv yet hear bk from him

Makes me wanna give up at times but then a Cap myself i hv really high tolerence and stick through stuff.....

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@pinkbird03

I feel the same too.....he runs a coy, and I know he probably has a lot on his mind and sometimes conference calls at night. I try to be positive abt it but idk....

Right from the start he has never been one who txts a lot, he txted me twice in a wk before our first date. Then after the first date he txts every other day.....became more frequent after, most wks I hear from him everyday, apart from when he was on a hol, heard from him 3-4times in those 2wks.

For me the person i date progressively becomes my priority.....we have been dating for 3mths, do u think i might never become his priority?

Well. I don't believe I'm a priority yet either and it's been longer for me. I'm not exactly worried about that and I don't think you should be either. It will happen when the time is right. No need to rush it.

I'm more concerned with how long it takes him to respond. There is definitely time in the day to respond. Maybe it's hours later, but 2 days is too long. Some people are against it, but I think you should play hard to get for a week to two weeks. No longer than that. That includes never messaging him first. Waiting at least a couple of hours or more (many 1-2 days) to respond. And keeping to convos short. This will show him that your time is valuable too and he needs to be more respectful.

Does it help that he tells me he spends all his spare time with me? Btw we r not in a r/s, just going on dates, hv been intimate.....i m ok with no status as i dont want to rush into tht....

I met him mon evening and spent a couple of hrs together.....then i txt him once yesterday and hv yet hear bk from him

Makes me wanna give up at times but then a Cap myself i hv really high tolerence and stick through stuff.....

Sure. That sounds sweet of him. But do you think it's primarily an intimate relationship?

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@pinkbird03

I feel the same too.....he runs a coy, and I know he probably has a lot on his mind and sometimes conference calls at night. I try to be positive abt it but idk....

Right from the start he has never been one who txts a lot, he txted me twice in a wk before our first date. Then after the first date he txts every other day.....became more frequent after, most wks I hear from him everyday, apart from when he was on a hol, heard from him 3-4times in those 2wks.

For me the person i date progressively becomes my priority.....we have been dating for 3mths, do u think i might never become his priority?

Well. I don't believe I'm a priority yet either and it's been longer for me. I'm not exactly worried about that and I don't think you should be either. It will happen when the time is right. No need to rush it.

I'm more concerned with how long it takes him to respond. There is definitely time in the day to respond. Maybe it's hours later, but 2 days is too long. Some people are against it, but I think you should play hard to get for a week to two weeks. No longer than that. That includes never messaging him first. Waiting at least a couple of hours or more (many 1-2 days) to respond. And keeping to convos short. This will show him that your time is valuable too and he needs to be more respectful.

Does it help that he tells me he spends all his spare time with me? Btw we r not in a r/s, just going on dates, hv been intimate.....i m ok with no status as i dont want to rush into tht....

I met him mon evening and spent a couple of hrs together.....then i txt him once yesterday and hv yet hear bk from him

Makes me wanna give up at times but then a Cap myself i hv really high tolerence and stick through stuff.....

Sure. That sounds sweet of him. But do you think it's primarily an intimate relationship?

Intimacy happens probably 60-70% of the time. Sometimes unplanned for, we just click soo well over dinner/drinks and it just lead to tht....

He is sweet when together, just the txting part tht causes this nagging feeling at the back of my mind. Then again, he uses his app on his comp to write back to me, he says he doesnt like to use the phn to txt.....

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@pinkbird03

Well. I don't believe I'm a priority yet either and it's been longer for me. I'm not exactly worried about that and I don't think you should be either. It will happen when the time is right. No need to rush it.

I'm more concerned with how long it takes him to respond. There is definitely time in the day to respond. Maybe it's hours later, but 2 days is too long. Some people are against it, but I think you should play hard to get for a week to two weeks. No longer than that. That includes never messaging him first. Waiting at least a couple of hours or more (many 1-2 days) to respond. And keeping to convos short. This will show him that your time is valuable too and he needs to be more respectful.

Does it help that he tells me he spends all his spare time with me? Btw we r not in a r/s, just going on dates, hv been intimate.....i m ok with no status as i dont want to rush into tht....

I met him mon evening and spent a couple of hrs together.....then i txt him once yesterday and hv yet hear bk from him

Makes me wanna give up at times but then a Cap myself i hv really high tolerence and stick through stuff.....

Sure. That sounds sweet of him. But do you think it's primarily an intimate relationship?

Intimacy happens probably 60-70% of the time. Sometimes unplanned for, we just click soo well over dinner/drinks and it just lead to tht....

He is sweet when together, just the txting part tht causes this nagging feeling at the back of my mind. Then again, he uses his app on his comp to write back to me, he says he doesnt like to use the phn to txt.....

oh then don't worry about it for now. Some guys are bad texters. If that's his worse flaw, you got it easy!!

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@pinkbird03

Well. I don't believe I'm a priority yet either and it's been longer for me. I'm not exactly worried about that and I don't think you should be either. It will happen when the time is right. No need to rush it.

I'm more concerned with how long it takes him to respond. There is definitely time in the day to respond. Maybe it's hours later, but 2 days is too long. Some people are against it, but I think you should play hard to get for a week to two weeks. No longer than that. That includes never messaging him first. Waiting at least a couple of hours or more (many 1-2 days) to respond. And keeping to convos short. This will show him that your time is valuable too and he needs to be more respectful.

Does it help that he tells me he spends all his spare time with me? Btw we r not in a r/s, just going on dates, hv been intimate.....i m ok with no status as i dont want to rush into tht....

I met him mon evening and spent a couple of hrs together.....then i txt him once yesterday and hv yet hear bk from him

Makes me wanna give up at times but then a Cap myself i hv really high tolerence and stick through stuff.....

Sure. That sounds sweet of him. But do you think it's primarily an intimate relationship?

Intimacy happens probably 60-70% of the time. Sometimes unplanned for, we just click soo well over dinner/drinks and it just lead to tht....

He is sweet when together, just the txting part tht causes this nagging feeling at the back of my mind. Then again, he uses his app on his comp to write back to me, he says he doesnt like to use the phn to txt.....

oh then don't worry about it for now. Some guys are bad texters. If that's his worse flaw, you got it easy!!

Hopefully! Thank U!!! U and @Foreverloveme really keeps me grounded... ?

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Omg yes! @foreverloveme is the best to ask for Capricorn advice. She knows a lot!

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Caplock summed up the reasons I disappear. When I'm interested in someone I typically don't disappear on that person though

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Caplock summed up the reasons I disappear. When I'm interested in someone I typically don't disappear on that person though

Thank you, Caplock! Now, this guy goes MIA for days together or even weeks(?) Sometimes, especially when we get intimate over texting or after some fighting. The record so far has been 11-12 days. And the day I convince myself that I don't need him, he pings me as though there was nothing wrong. Only once has he said, "I missed you". (That was 2 months ago). Should I count this as disappearing? Or should I consider the fact that he always comes back if I don't go checking on him?

BTW he's very much career-minded; I am currentlly not working, planning to study further. But I don't have a clear goal when it comes to career. I know that I am capable of taking care of myself any day, but given the choice, I'd choose to be at home and write. You think this couldbe a readon for all this? (Asking you b'coz in some posts they say that Cap men are money-minded and expect their partners to be so too, or be equally ambitious and career-oriented, I don't know!)

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Well. I don't believe I'm a priority yet either and it's been longer for me. I'm not exactly worried about that and I don't think you should be either. It will happen when the time is right. No need to rush it.

I'm more concerned with how long it takes him to respond. There is definitely time in the day to respond. Maybe it's hours later, but 2 days is too long. Some people are against it, but I think you should play hard to get for a week to two weeks. No longer than that. That includes never messaging him first. Waiting at least a couple of hours or more (many 1-2 days) to respond. And keeping to convos short. This will show him that your time is valuable too and he needs to be more respectful.

Does it help that he tells me he spends all his spare time with me? Btw we r not in a r/s, just going on dates, hv been intimate.....i m ok with no status as i dont want to rush into tht....

I met him mon evening and spent a couple of hrs together.....then i txt him once yesterday and hv yet hear bk from him

Makes me wanna give up at times but then a Cap myself i hv really high tolerence and stick through stuff.....

Sure. That sounds sweet of him. But do you think it's primarily an intimate relationship?

Intimacy happens probably 60-70% of the time. Sometimes unplanned for, we just click soo well over dinner/drinks and it just lead to tht....

He is sweet when together, just the txting part tht causes this nagging feeling at the back of my mind. Then again, he uses his app on his comp to write back to me, he says he doesnt like to use the phn to txt.....

oh then don't worry about it for now. Some guys are bad texters. If that's his worse flaw, you got it easy!!

Hopefully! Thank U!!! U and @Foreverloveme really keeps me grounded... ?

Aw thanks! I really hope things work out for both of you ladies

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Posted by Foreverloveme
Caplock summed up the reasons I disappear. When I'm interested in someone I typically don't disappear on that person though

Thank you, Caplock! Now, this guy goes MIA for days together or even weeks(?) Sometimes, especially when we get intimate over texting or after some fighting. The record so far has been 11-12 days. And the day I convince myself that I don't need him, he pings me as though there was nothing wrong. Only once has he said, "I missed you". (That was 2 months ago). Should I count this as disappearing? Or should I consider the fact that he always comes back if I don't go checking on him?

BTW he's very much career-minded; I am currentlly not working, planning to study further. But I don't have a clear goal when it comes to career. I know that I am capable of taking care of myself any day, but given the choice, I'd choose to be at home and write. You think this couldbe a readon for all this? (Asking you b'coz in some posts they say that Cap men are money-minded and expect their partners to be so too, or be equally ambitious and career-oriented, I don't know!)

oh my what is your sign btw? i'm also planning on study further but at the moment i'm interested in writing pieces and stories myself and i also get to know a capricorn guy who is career oriented, he is also curious about what i do for earn a living but i'm only an internship - i read that if a cappy is interested enough in you, he will ask you about ur work rather than ur life and urself.

he is on and off, hot and cold unexpectedly, oneday he would give me a whole rainbow but later a sky full of rain. my cap stopped talking and responding my messages for 3 months so far. smh

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Posted by Foreverloveme
Caplock summed up the reasons I disappear. When I'm interested in someone I typically don't disappear on that person though

Thank you, Caplock! Now, this guy goes MIA for days together or even weeks(?) Sometimes, especially when we get intimate over texting or after some fighting. The record so far has been 11-12 days. And the day I convince myself that I don't need him, he pings me as though there was nothing wrong. Only once has he said, "I missed you". (That was 2 months ago). Should I count this as disappearing? Or should I consider the fact that he always comes back if I don't go checking on him?

BTW he's very much career-minded; I am currentlly not working, planning to study further. But I don't have a clear goal when it comes to career. I know that I am capable of taking care of myself any day, but given the choice, I'd choose to be at home and write. You think this couldbe a readon for all this? (Asking you b'coz in some posts they say that Cap men are money-minded and expect their partners to be so too, or be equally ambitious and career-oriented, I don't know!)

I was like this at times. I tried to reach out 1-3 times a week normally. Longest I went was 3 weeks because I was waiting for him to initiate. Once a week was typical for me with latest long distance interest.

I was busy with other things, or just didn't have anything to talk about. A male friend of mine said 2 weeks is ok because sometimes guys have nothing to say *shrug*

Have you brought it to his attention or asked him about communicating more frequently? & consistently?

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Caplock summed up the reasons I disappear. When I'm interested in someone I typically don't disappear on that person though

Thank you, Caplock! Now, this guy goes MIA for days together or even weeks(?) Sometimes, especially when we get intimate over texting or after some fighting. The record so far has been 11-12 days. And the day I convince myself that I don't need him, he pings me as though there was nothing wrong. Only once has he said, "I missed you". (That was 2 months ago). Should I count this as disappearing? Or should I consider the fact that he always comes back if I don't go checking on him?

BTW he's very much career-minded; I am currentlly not working, planning to study further. But I don't have a clear goal when it comes to career. I know that I am capable of taking care of myself any day, but given the choice, I'd choose to be at home and write. You think this couldbe a readon for all this? (Asking you b'coz in some posts they say that Cap men are money-minded and expect their partners to be so too, or be equally ambitious and career-oriented, I don't know!)

oh my what is your sign btw? i'm also planning on study further but at the moment i'm interested in writing pieces and stories myself and i also get to know a capricorn guy who is career oriented, he is also curious about what i do for earn a living but i'm only an internship - i read that if a cappy is interested enough in you, he will ask you about ur work rather than ur life and urself.

he is on and off, hot and cold unexpectedly, oneday he would give me a whole rainbow but later a sky full of rain. my cap stopped talking and responding my messages for 3 months so far. smh

Responded to your post just now, dear! I'm a Leo - 21 Aug. I felt our stories are similar cos I met this guy online at the end if last year and we began talking in Jan. Since then, it's all cycles of hot and cold! Don't know... But discussing it here with my newly found friends like ForeverLoveMe makes me feel better and more confident.

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Caplock summed up the reasons I disappear. When I'm interested in someone I typically don't disappear on that person though

Thank you, Caplock! Now, this guy goes MIA for days together or even weeks(?) Sometimes, especially when we get intimate over texting or after some fighting. The record so far has been 11-12 days. And the day I convince myself that I don't need him, he pings me as though there was nothing wrong. Only once has he said, "I missed you". (That was 2 months ago). Should I count this as disappearing? Or should I consider the fact that he always comes back if I don't go checking on him?

BTW he's very much career-minded; I am currentlly not working, planning to study further. But I don't have a clear goal when it comes to career. I know that I am capable of taking care of myself any day, but given the choice, I'd choose to be at home and write. You think this couldbe a readon for all this? (Asking you b'coz in some posts they say that Cap men are money-minded and expect their partners to be so too, or be equally ambitious and career-oriented, I don't know!)

I was like this at times. I tried to reach out 1-3 times a week normally. Longest I went was 3 weeks because I was waiting for him to initiate. Once a week was typical for me with latest long distance interest.

I was busy with other things, or just didn't have anything to talk about. A male friend of mine said 2 weeks is ok because sometimes guys have nothing to say *shrug*

Have you brought it to his attention or asked him about communicating more frequently? & consistently?

Yes, dear! Most of my tantrums start with that point. And now I see a small improvement, he's responding more often, quicker. At least he's not ignoring them like he used to... But then vague replies... I'll give him some time, a few more months, and see what happens, dear. You made my day! Add my name to your list of friends. No, I'm not kidding. You can always trust me on that. If we meet some day, I promise to share my Oreo with you! (I hope you are not laughing and taking me seriously! )

Those are the actions I was speaking about so yes you are on his list of priorities because he is making adjustments...even though it's subtle

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Dear Freesia, I understand! I consider myself quite rational as I don't accept anything that science doesn't agree with. My guy n I are atheists. I always thought that my traits matched with Leo's by mere coincidence! But after googling enough on Capricorn man and Leo woman, oh god! It all seems to be kinda true! And love can make you go mad, dear! Even the remotest things may seem like big plusses or minusses. It's okay to let such crazy thoughts come and go, but make sure you don't let such silly thoughts affect your decisions in any area of life. Good luck! Just be happy and keep smiling!

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I fail miserably at this because I end of getting chased by all the guys I don't want due to my genuine indifference & the ones I like don't give me the time of day because I show interest.

So you'd think the logical thing to do is reverse my approach. However I'm a firm believer in just being yourself so whatever you'd normally do, go with that, or whatever your 1st mind & instinct says.

Most men say they love the chase so I think that is the no fail way to go.

@tiziani is 1 of the males I highly respect here & he previously mentioned that all of his serious relationships the women said I love you 1st

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@InLoveWithLife - It shouldn't be seen as who's chasing who. Why are you two even fighting?

I hesitate with relationships because they seem to come with expectations. Why can't two people date but maintain the friendship you know ?

For example : Share your ideas and goals. Tell him something funny about yourself. What's your weakness ? Your fears ? Favorite place to eat or go on a Saturday night ? Inspire him. Ask him about his goals and plans. Encourage him. Challenge him. Help him with his stubborn ways and occassionally drag him from overly focusing with his head up his @ss. Call him out when he's being a complete jerk. Be upfront and tell him you miss him. He might not respond but it'll melt his heart.

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@Inlovewithlife - From what you mention, hes not ready for a relationship. He just wants to be friends. He has other priorities. Just being honest with you. I know you enjoy writing but my fear is if you're home too much you might get a bit needy ? (please dont take it the wrong way)

With that said, understand that you're in no way obligated to him. You dont owe him anything. Tell him you dont like how he takes too long to respond and you hate how he disappears. If he wants to be apart of you're life, he needs to make some time and effort for you.

Besides that, protect your heart. You two seem very young. Or he lacks maturity. Still has characteristics to develope.

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@Inlovewithlife - From what you mention, hes not ready for a relationship. He just wants to be friends. He has other priorities. Just being honest with you. I know you enjoy writing but my fear is if you're home too much you might get a bit needy ? (please dont take it the wrong way)

With that said, understand that you're in no way obligated to him. You dont owe him anything. Tell him you dont like how he takes too long to respond and you hate how he disappears. If he wants to be apart of you're life, he needs to make some time and effort for you.

Besides that, protect your heart. You two seem very young. Or he lacks maturity. Still has characteristics to develope.

Sigh! First of all, thanks for being honest. I really appreciate that. This is how things are now. He is showing signs of love, but his career comes first to him. He's already said that he's a commitment phobe but he won't let me go, either. I've been through all exttemes and ups and downs in the last seven months. By this time next month, my master's classes would've started. So I'll also be busy from then on and not have this much time for him. Now I've decided that I'll be patient with him for some more time; if he shows any changes, it's good. If he's gonna continue his hot-and-cold cycles, even after all the talks we've had, all the explanation I've given, and all this time, then I'll simply pack up and move on! I can't make a fool of myself in the name of love!

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@caplock hey I took your advice and I think I made his heart melt! He said he was very tired and boy was he the most negative I've seen him today. About work, about weather, ect. So I sent him a cute picture and said, "i only send you pictures because you're the hottest and sweetest man I know!!"

Then his response was. Well, I do appreciate them! ?

I'm also sure he knew I was trying to make him feel better. You may also want to know I'm definitely shy at saying things like this to him because I'm unsure of how'd he'd take it. But I do believe you gave good advice!

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@Inlovewithlife - From what you mention, hes not ready for a relationship. He just wants to be friends. He has other priorities. Just being honest with you. I know you enjoy writing but my fear is if you're home too much you might get a bit needy ? (please dont take it the wrong way)

With that said, understand that you're in no way obligated to him. You dont owe him anything. Tell him you dont like how he takes too long to respond and you hate how he disappears. If he wants to be apart of you're life, he needs to make some time and effort for you.

Besides that, protect your heart. You two seem very young. Or he lacks maturity. Still has characteristics to develope.

Sigh! First of all, thanks for being honest. I really appreciate that. This is how things are now. He is showing signs of love, but his career comes first to him. He's already said that he's a commitment phobe but he won't let me go, either. I've been through all exttemes and ups and downs in the last seven months. By this time next month, my master's classes would've started. So I'll also be busy from then on and not have this much time for him. Now I've decided that I'll be patient with him for some more time; if he shows any changes, it's good. If he's gonna continue his hot-and-cold cycles, even after all the talks we've had, all the explanation I've given, and all this time, then I'll simply pack up and move on! I can't make a fool of myself in the name of love!

I definitely think he's interested in you, but I sense incompatibility. Do you feel that way too? If yes, do you know exactly why you feel that way? What is your sign by the way?

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@Inlovewithlife - From what you mention, hes not ready for a relationship. He just wants to be friends. He has other priorities. Just being honest with you. I know you enjoy writing but my fear is if you're home too much you might get a bit needy ? (please dont take it the wrong way)

With that said, understand that you're in no way obligated to him. You dont owe him anything. Tell him you dont like how he takes too long to respond and you hate how he disappears. If he wants to be apart of you're life, he needs to make some time and effort for you.

Besides that, protect your heart. You two seem very young. Or he lacks maturity. Still has characteristics to develope.

Sigh! First of all, thanks for being honest. I really appreciate that. This is how things are now. He is showing signs of love, but his career comes first to him. He's already said that he's a commitment phobe but he won't let me go, either. I've been through all exttemes and ups and downs in the last seven months. By this time next month, my master's classes would've started. So I'll also be busy from then on and not have this much time for him. Now I've decided that I'll be patient with him for some more time; if he shows any changes, it's good. If he's gonna continue his hot-and-cold cycles, even after all the talks we've had, all the explanation I've given, and all this time, then I'll simply pack up and move on! I can't make a fool of myself in the name of love!

I definitely think he's interested in you, but I sense incompatibility. Do you feel that way too? If yes, do you know exactly why you feel that way? What is your sign by the way?

I'm a Leo. For the whole thing, please check out my post on this forum - 'LeoFemale-CapMale-chances?'.

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@caplock hey I took your advice and I think I made his heart melt! He said he was very tired and boy was he the most negative I've seen him today. About work, about weather, ect. So I sent him a cute picture and said, "i only send you pictures because you're the hottest and sweetest man I know!!"

Then his response was. Well, I do appreciate them! ?

I'm also sure he knew I was trying to make him feel better. You may also want to know I'm definitely shy at saying things like this to him because I'm unsure of how'd he'd take it. But I do believe you gave good advice!

You're welcome. And btw you're just slowly pealing his layers away.

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@caplock hey I took your advice and I think I made his heart melt! He said he was very tired and boy was he the most negative I've seen him today. About work, about weather, ect. So I sent him a cute picture and said, "i only send you pictures because you're the hottest and sweetest man I know!!"

Then his response was. Well, I do appreciate them! ?

I'm also sure he knew I was trying to make him feel better. You may also want to know I'm definitely shy at saying things like this to him because I'm unsure of how'd he'd take it. But I do believe you gave good advice!

Happy it worked, Pinkbird03!

I gave up all my negative feelings and pinged him saying things that I haven't told him in a while! I told him, "whatever happens, remember we love each other", "I missed you a few days back", etc., and his responses (yes, he did reply, if he hadn't, I would've been really hurt) were all bland - explanation for why he replies late, plus "I don't want to be called 'cute'!" (I can't lie and say "you look hot!", coz hot, handsome, macho men don't attract me! LOL!).

Now, Caplock, pls tell me, what does all this mean? Why can't he be open? Should I take it that he loves me or should I understand that he doesn't really love, but simply enjoys the attention I give him? If it's the latter, I'll be happy to walk away! Help, pls?

All that sweet sugar stuff melts us away We just like to pretend it doesnt phase us because we like to seem tough like a man . Rawww Hulk Smash lol

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